Do I have a problem?

[moozle]

I think I have an unhealthy attachment to my DS. I have been working nights for the past few weeks and have not been able to put DS to bed as I've been out working. Last night and this afternoon I have been REALLY upset crying because I don't want to leave him. I know I'll be back and spend the day wtih him the following day but I really miss him when I'm not there and I feel horrible about not being there for bed time. Is there something wrong with me or is this normal? How on earth do people go to work? I'd be a mess!

[BabelFish]

Darlin' that's not unhealthy OR abnormal.

My DP has been at home with us since DD was born 17 months ago. He is a shift worker and then for a year was a student, so he spent as much time with her as I did.

When he started working again a few weeks ago missing her made him physically sick. I felt so bad and awful for him. Dads are just expected to do it and nobody really thinks about how they feel.

But I did and I have seen first-hand how much it kills him. You are not abnormal at all, and I feel so sorry for you that you are feeling this way. You will get used to it, but in the meantime DON'T feel bad or guilty - just love your son as much as you want to and however you feel you need to. It must be horrible.

[lizzymcfizzy]

thats a perfectly normal way to feel :) It shows you love your son and I'm sure he loves you too :) Its a mummy thing, its very hard to be without them.

[iMischa]

cuteee! theres nothing wrong with you at all, its totally normal. my boys can be so demanding to the point where im in tears and close to pulling my hair out, so mum offers to take them off my hands for a couple of hours...i drop them off, i get home....i cry while catching up on the cleaning because i miss them lollll...

[Boobycino]

Awww, sounds normal to me :yes: Its perfectly natural to miss your son :hugs:

[kar]

On the days I work I really feel like I haven't had enough skin time with him and have to cuddle and cuddle him when i get home. The first day I worked I had to sleep him
in my bed I was do desperate even though he hates ci sleeping! I snuck him in once he was sound asleep! And I am only away from him once per week.

[updaduff]

sounds like mum that really loves her boy and wants to spend more time with him! nothing wrong there!!

and also sounds a lot like me! lol. DS was in his bed *right* next to me - within arm reach and i still wanted to pick him up and cuddle him.

[moozle]

I am SO glad to hear that I'm not the only one! It's horrible :(