Alcohol & Drinking at 1st Birthday Parties

[MissMetal]

what are your thoughts on this??
DS is 1 in 7 weeks :eek::crying: and personally i wanted to have a drink or 2 to celebrate & ive had a total of maybe 2 beers since he was born.. so i think i deserve to :laughing:
There will be friends of mine who will also bring be drinking (not get wasted of course, but have a few drinks)
do you think this is acceptable, would you do it??

ETA - dont get me wrong its not going to be a big drinking fest (that is wrong i think) all my friends who will be drinking (if they drink) will have their kids there too, so if people do drink it will only be a few as they will have to drive :)

[~BEXTER~]

I didn't have alcohol at Keiaras first.
Someone asked me where it was and I thought it was quite rude.
They went to the shops and brought their own I didn't have a problem with them drinking. Not everyone was drinking though.

[lozie2]

i wouldnt say i find it disgusting, i just dont understand it.

[mum2bubba]

I think it's fine as long as noone gets plastered.

[~Temet Nosce~]

not disgusting, but not really appropriate.

[sockstealingpoltergeist]

Perfectly reasonable.

That is the only reason I attend childrens parties. ;)


We allways have a few drinks at our get togethers, we open a bottle of wine between a few of us, or sometimes the menfolk have a few beers or whatever.

[Nomsie]

I purposely had the boys 1st party at a kids adventure playground so there WAS no alcohol involved.

Up there for thinking! *taps head*

:D

[MummaFug]

My DD will be 1 tomorrow ...

I have a few beers in the esky. I think the guys will appreciate after cooking a BBQ in 30 degree heat. It's not like they are going to get anywhere near trashed !! If it was in the afternoon, I'd prob take a bottle of wine for the women .... But its at 10am - so that may be a much (although it has crossed my mind)

I dont have a problem with it at all.

[kar]

i think it is perfectly fine. let's be frank, a 1st birthday is a celebration for friends and family, not for the bub as such.
if the way you celebrate is with having a few drinks what's the problem?

whether alcohol is needed for a every celebration is a different question, but I certainly think if you want to have a couple of drinks there is no reason not to BECAUSE it is a baby's first birthday.

[TripleTime]

I cant see a problem with it, not like everyone's going to be doing double shots hanging over a bar.

Its a time for celebration.

[MyTwoBubs]

I had Connors 1st birthday last Sunday.
I didnt even think about having alcohol. A few of the boys were having beers and i thought nothing of that.
But then my partners BAD side of the family arrived with bottles of spirits and proceeded to get really ****ed, while their little kids were roaming around my house unsupervised.
I found thid discustig, rude and I would never have done this. Its a child first birthday. Its not appropriate!!!!!!!!

So I think a couple beers is fine. But when u rock up with the soul perpose of getting drunk, thats stupid!!!!!

[c38]

I had a bottle of champagne at DS's 1st (to share not to myself:D) and someone brought me one as a present that we opened. So two bottles among about 15 adults...
I had one and a half glasses.... more or less the first alcohol in about a year. Went bright red and started to feel the effect, so stopped:rolleyes:.

I think it's your business and it doesnt fuss me to see adults having one or two drinks at a kids party as long as its done in a civil way. And I guess it depends o the type of party. If say it's a BBQ, then I dont see a problem. If its a "kids party" ie lots of kids running round playing games with only a few adults in attendance and maybe a few Mums/Dads you dont know realy really well...then hmm I don't think Id have alcohol.
Not sure if that makes sense...but it does somehow in my mind:laughing:

Having said that I don't think I'll have time to drink at his parties anyhow when he's older and there are kids that need attention and entertaining...I think then I'll be saving the glass of champas for after the party...and he;s hopefully tucked in bed.

I think the first birthday is kind of about you (and your partner / or FOB if they are involved) too, ie having "survived" the pregnancy, fist year etc. Later birthday's are more about the child having a good time.

[MummaBear03]

I was still breastfeeding for DD's first birthday. And her second. I had her first birthday party in the park with lots of friends and family and a couple of people took an esky but only had a drink or 2, either beer or a Cruiser or similar type thing. I didn't think much of it because it wasn't like they were getting drunk. I did think it was strange since it was a Monday afternoon and it was in a public park with the majority of people being under 5 years of age. Her second was also in a park, but it was from 9 to 11. People didn't drink, I had tea and coffee and people brought their own softdrinks.

[NonnyMouse]

I suspect the answer to this will depend on your wording of the question. Some time ago there was a similar thread, from someone outraged that there were people drinking at a kids party and back then the answers swayed very towards it being unacceptable.

AFM... couldn't care less. Unless it's in a place where drinking isn't allowed anyway, I'm quite OK with alcohol at a kids party. If it's a party just for the kids I probably wouldn't expecxt to see it, but many parties cater for the parents as well and I see nothing wrong with providing a few beers or bottle of wine with the food.

[bada]

Perfectly acceptable.

For our DD's 1st birthday party we held it in a local park and supplied a few bottles of bubbly and wine and a few beers, DF and I don't really drink so thought that was enough but that went very quickly amongst 30 odd ppl and people went to buy more! I still feel a bit guilty for not supplying enough :o

It was a lovely day, nobody got drunk, just a bunch of adults sitting around enjoying good food and drink.

I don't really see the issue unless you have friends/family who let their drinking get out of control (which we don't) in which case I'd make it no alcohol to save any drama.

Good luck.

[Ana Gram]

I picked other. It's up to you.

I didn't drink at my daughter's 1st birthday. I wasn't drinking at all then. The only time I drink now is when I go out to nightclubs. I personally do not understand the culture of drinking and think Australian's drink too much. I don't see why celebration automatically equals alcohol to most Australians.

[singlemumma82]

I think it is fine, I had a bottle of wine at DD's first birthday to celebrate that I had made it so far and that my gorgeous little girl was turning one. It was also my first drink since finding out I was pregnant and we made it a slight combination as I was 8months pregnant at my 21st, so I think I deserved it :laughing:

Only problem was I'm not usually a wine drinking and having gone almost 2 years without drinking, it did go to my head big time :o but we where surrounded my family and close friends and DD was fine.

[loving6]

not disgusting, but not really appropriate.


:iagree:

[earthfairy]

My DD turns 1 on the 29th of this month & we have a huge celebration planned for her birthday & it will also be her naming day. There will be people coming who mean alot to us - family & friends, and some who we havent seen in a long time. We will be having a few drinks to celebrate such a wonderful mile stone....and we are looking very forward to it.

I dont have a problem with it at all. As long as there arent people getting blind drunk & making fools of themselves. I enjoy having a drink to celebrate :)

I respect others choice to not drink at such occasions though too, so each to their own :D

[florence]

Didn't you leave your DS with your sister one night and go out and have a big night on the bourbon? :laughing:
I don't have a problem with it. If I wasn't pregnant I would drink at my DD's first birthday *shrugs*

[zephani]

I don't have a problem with having a few beers. We had a BBQ celebration for DD's christening and the boys had a couple of beers and that was fine.

I think as long as people are not getting trashed and are still (able to) to be responsible for for their own children it is fine. As you said it's not as if people are going to be trashed.

[Lily of the Nile]

I don't see the problem, people like my parents and inlaws drink wine with every meal, so I can't expect them to drink sift drink or water.

[A Party of Five]

Personally I do not drink at children parties as I have five children to lookafter so I need to keep my wits about me :yes:

[PeppaH]

Well I never even thought of it because we had DS's first at a indoor playcenter. Im sure though if it was at a house then the men would of had a few beers and probably of been some wine too... Well we had some people over on his accual birthday and we were drinking wine lol... Of course I didnt know I was pregnant so lucky I only had one glass :doh:

[bubbleandme]

well, i won't be drinking cause i'll still be breastfeeding (well, that's the plan!) and it's going to be in a park (also, a plan lol) so probably no alcohol, and i wouldn't have really thought about it honestly. it's not a big part of my life so i kinda forget about it i guess lol
it's up to you, but i don't think it's something i'll have.

i should also add, i'm 19 and on P plates, if i drink, i can't drive!

[BabelFish]

Don't have an issue with it but that's because I don't have any irresponsible friends or family.

I didn't provide any, or have any, and DD's first birthday party was between 1 and 3pm at a park. My Mum & Dad, and some of my uncles / aunties etc had a glass of wine, and that was about it. None of my friends brought or drank any either, but if they'd wanted a beer or something I wouldn't have cared.

I would never make a child's birthday party into something that went to all hours though, and provide alcohol etc and make it into more of an adult's party with a child's party tacked on at the beginning. It was HER day, not anybody else's.

[Fuchsia!]

Nup i don't see anything wrong with it at all. Its also your day to celebrate as well as your DS. As long as nobody is plastered and its under control, then go for it!

[alexsmom]

I think its fine :) Like someone else said- the party really is for the grown ups, a 1 year old wont care! Obviously I dont think its acceptable for the grownups to be drunk and the kids unsupervised, but if its a bbq or at a park, a couple of beers or a glass or two of wine is absolutely fine :) just my opinion tho :)

[JasmineLouise]

I dont have an issue with it. Like others have stated, so long as no one is too intoxicated, and all the kidlets are being supervised as per normal, then all is well and good :)

[MsMummy]

MissMetal, have a couple of drinks if you like. God knows, you deserve it.

the only reason I didn't drink at my son's first birthday party was that I'm breastfeeding and didn't have enough EBM in the freezer.

We mainly invited adults, and served adult food and bought a carton of beer and some wine to serve. It was in the afternoon, so a lot of people didn't drink or just had one or two drinks.

I didn't invite anybody disfuctional enough to get drunk at a kids' birthday party.:D

[sockstealingpoltergeist]

I didn't invite anybody disfuctional enough to get drunk at a kids' birthday party.:D

Is that why I wasn't invited.:mad:

[JasmineLouise]

Is that why I wasn't invited.:mad:

:laughing::laughing::laughing:

party animal :p

[TripleTime]

MissMetal, have a couple of drinks if you like. God knows, you deserve it.


:yes: :thumbsup:

So very very true.

[MsMummy]

:yes: :thumbsup:

So very very true.

yes, and that advice applies to you as well, Triple Time.:yes::D

SSP, yes, you and your cohorts are drunkards and would no doubt run amok at children's parties.

[TripleTime]

yes, and that advice applies to you as well, Triple Time.:yes::D



Thanks, 1st birthday is a while away here. Only i dont drink.

[iMischa]

i agree miss metal, you've done an awesome job *big big praise to the single mummy's out there* the day will be of course be about your Ds but also a celebration of what a wonderful job U have done for the first year of being a mummy, go on and have a couple of beers u deserve it :):)

[Little-Pink-Hen]

I don't really think it's appropriate but that's jmo
I don't mind say serving champagne though for toasts .....

[Refresh]

There is a big difference between having a glass of champagne or a beer at a party than getting totally smashed and unable to look after your kids. As long as you can still drive if you need to (or there is someone responsible who can) I think it is quite ok.

[JATS]

Given that we have many members of both sides of the family who don't know when to stop, we don't allow alcohol at kids parties in our home.

If I had my way it'd be no alcohol any time they come over, given a couple of them will down a bottle of bourbon just on a morning tea visit but apparently that's not a fair rule. :rolleyes:

[Boobycino]

At Jasper's birthday we had drinks - though it wasn't so much a 'first birthday party' as it was a 'surviving 12 months and no sleep party" :laughing: Jasper went to bed at 7pm and we kicked on till 3am. Though naturally all the friends with kids left around 6ish so it was just the single/childless friends who stayed for drinks.

[Leisa21]

Have a drink :yes:. I didn't supply alcohol at DS 1st birthday but I did buy some wine and beer for his second as I just had immediate family there and I knew no one would drink too much. I really wanted to celebrate a little because I was quite chuffed with DH and myself for the job we've done - if I say so myself. So the day after his second birthday(last week) we dropped him off at my parents just before his bed time and we went out for a night out. We had lots of fun and were up bright an early the next day to do work around the house. it was perfect, no one needed to drink more than one or two drinks and DH and I got to have a little party after:D

[updaduff]

in my experience (ive been to 3 1st birdays lol) they have always offered beer/champas/wines....but maybe i hang out with the wrong people? haha.

[JabberJaw]

Kids parties/birthdays are alcohol free events here.