ahhh......i don't know!

[new_mummy82]

i'm not even sure if this is the right place, but i'm sure our lovely moderators will move it for me if need be :)

i don't even really know where to start. i have suffered from anxiety and mild depression for the last few years (very long, complicated story) and the last few weeks particularly i have been anxious about going to work :(. i've tried to explain to db about how i feel but he just says don't worry it will pass - well it hasn't. i'm sure stressing myself out isn't good for me or for bubba (i'm 13 wks pg). i've also been sick for the past week with a cold and have a doctors appt. tomorrow after for some blood tests i had done on friday. i'm very anxious about asking my boss to finish work early so i can go to the appt. i feel like i'm not doing my job properly and i'm feel like i'm alway asking for time of for dr's appt. (my boss knows i am pg, but i have only been at this job for 2 months and have already had 6 days off sick!) i guess i'm just at a loss as to what to do :confused:

[Fitmumma]

Hey there,
Most employers are understanding during pregnancy, with Dr apps, etc.
Maybe just sit down & have a chat with your boss about how you are feeling & what you are worried about, I'm sure you will find them to be understanding and talking about your worries will probably make you relieved.
Stressing about it is not going to help you get better & now is the time to begin to enjoy your pregnancy as you are now going into your second trimester you should begin to feel alot better.
Best of luck, keep your chin up, I hope all goes well.:)




3 Beautiful Boys & now a little princess

[natski]

Hey new mummy,

I'm a new mummy too (well, not quite yet) and understand some of the things you're going through...

I got very bad morning sickness from 5 weeks that didn't stop til 18 weeks. I ended up losing 6.5kg and talked to my bosses about working from home (obviously, not everyone has that opportunity). Anyway, so I struggled to get up each morning and turn my computer on, but it was easier than getting dressed and travelling to the city to work.

By about week 12, I still wasn't feeling any better and was really expecting to, and I started to get really depressed and anxious about everything. Anxious about the health of bubs and that I was letting everyone at work down and that it just wasn't getting any better. I would sit at my desk at home balling my eyes out, tears dripping on my keyboard. I didn't think I was going to get through it all. I would ring my mum and cry, I wanted to quit work, thinking I could start maternity leave 5 months early - but that would give me less time with my new bub. I had a million reasons to leave work...but I hung in there. I just new I had to keep going - not only for my own sanity, but for my husband and for our baby.

All I can say is that it DOES get better (sick or not) - it does take some time and some hard work by you to start you back on the right track. As babyboys said, talk to your bosses, or even if you feel you're not getting better - your doctor or a counsellor - there's absolutely NOTHING to be ashamed of. If your boss knows what you're worried about, you can talk about it and a compromise could be made? I was worried about the same thing and I take leave days for appt's etc.

Try and be positive - think about the wonderful gift growing inside you and how it's just going to get better. Big Hugs to you!