Miscarriage????

[jasmine21]

I have recently become pregnant....and am currently at 4 weeks......I have been consumed with the 'miscarriage' thought and every single time I feel a little wetness or go to the toilet, I check to see if there is blood??? Is this normal or is this just a bit extreme??? I am worried as this is the first time I have been pregnant and want to do everything right in giving it the best chance??? I am also getting married in 3 weeks and I am concerned about the hens night.....I will be 5 weeks going on 6 and don't know if a whirl around the dancefloor is going to be damaging in anyway???

[V8]

Hey sweetie, i think it's perfectly normal to stress for a first time. I was the same, checking my undies and stuff for blood. Don't forget it's quite normal to be having some extra 'discharge' when you are pregnant and that is perfectly normal. I also think having a good night on your hen's night won't harm you either :) Have a fabulous wedding day and congrats on your pregnancy! How exciting for you!

[jasmine21]

I am wrapped....I feel like I can't confide in people about it though....like for example....the only reason I got so stressed about Miscarriage is that my sister is 5 months pregnant and miscarried first. She is very opinionated and I can't talk to her about it. She put the fear of life into me by saying that 1 in 3 miscarry????

[Percy]

Your definately not the only one!

I also worry for my friends too.

Im just hoping its something i will eventually get over.

Congrats on your pregnancy.:fingerscrossed: for you.

[Billy]

Not unusual at all! I worried about something I would say, probably everyday of my pregnancy! :rolleyes: And don't worry about having a dance- whats good for mum- is good for bub I say:D And :smiliedance: Congratulations!!for your bub AND your wedding!!! How exciting!!:smiliedance:

[sam's mum]

She put the fear of life into me by saying that 1 in 3 miscarry????

the things that people say when they think that they are being helpful...

I was so excited when I was pregnant with my daughter and running around telling everyone at work. One of the women said pretty much the same thing - don't get too excited yet, don't you know that 1 in 3 end in miscarriage. I was :eek: totally shocked with my mouth hanging open. Everything went fine for me, and I am sure that it will for you too.

[Mischief]

I'm sure your sister was trying to be helpful, but try to ignor what she said....

At 10 weeks we started to tell everyone, and one woman said...oh I hope you havent bought a cot or anything yet (we had) because you could miscarry before 12 weeks you know....

The thing is, there is nothing you can do, at this early stage, if you were unfortunate (and unlikely) and did miscarry, its because your sweet little baby is not strong enough to make it into this world, and nothing you can do will stop it happening.

Stressing yourself out so much, is not going to do yourself or your unborn baby any favours. Enjoy your hens night, dancing is fine...dont wear yourself out, but you wont *shake you bubba out*...try to avoid the alchol, and have FUN!

I stressed constantly too, its completely normal....especially when people tell you horrible statistics. :hugs: No matter HOW helpful or RIGHT they thing the are being.....

[ForeverMine]

I am now 19 weeks pregnant and not a day goes by that I still don't worry about having a miscarriage.

I remember I spent until 12 weeks, contantly in fear of loosing my baby. One of the ladies on here, has now gone onto tell me that, a day now, will never go by that you don't worry about your child. So I spose, we should get use to it.

I find that I can reassure myself by doing things that are good for my body and make me feel nice.

Congrats on your pregnancy! I love being pregnant :)

You will get so much advice over the time of your pregancy... I will offer some lol, and say, only listen to the advice which you think will help you and your baby. Most people mean well, but sometimes it turns out for the worse.

Good luck!

Hopefully I will get to know you in the next coming months :)

[jessgray]

all the way through my 1st pregnancy with ds1 i would check for blood :laughing:
and this time round with my 2nd preg with ds2 i stopped checking for blood after 16 weeks (not sure why then lol) and now i am worried about going into labor too early :laughing:
congrats on your bub and wedding :D i hope you have fun at your wedding.:smiliedance:

[SamanthaJane]

Oh boy, i am the biggest worry wart in the world when it comes to miscarriage.

First of all... my baby was not planned, so when i had decided i actually wanted to keep her, i was petrified of having a miscarriage... i was the same with you on the 'wetness' thing! I was constantly rushing to the loo, worried sick there was going to be blood! I still am a bit like that! lol :o

Then, at my first ultrasound, when i was 11 weeks pregnant, i was sitting in the waiting room telling myself "there wont be a heart beat, i've lost the baby, i've had a missed miscarriage"... again, terrified that i had lost the baby somehow and that it wasnt there. I was so scared, because i knew how much i REALLY wanted her now, and i was worried i was going to lose her.

Then, after that scan i was fine, i didn't fret for about umm... a week and a half lol then i started thinking "oh no the baby wont grow... she'll just stop growing... i'll have a late miscarriage" Then, at my 20 week scan (the biggie!) i saw her, she was looking perfect, very very healthy! Everything was normal! I felt like a fool for worrying so much! :o

Since then, my mind has been at ease (sort of... lol) i just focus on telling myself that everything is fine, shes happy and healthy in my tum! lol

I still worry, and really, thats just the start of being a parent! lol but i cant help that i guess...lol but now i worry about going into labour early, my little girl being still born... god the list goes on and on!

I think i just feel like now that i want her, now that i know she is here, i'm going to lose her. Perhaps i feel like i dont "deserve" her in a few ways... :(

I'm going to say one thing: try not to stress... lol i know exactly what ur going through, and it aint no fun! But you will be fine, and remember, everything happens for a reason :D

[neeky]

i was exactly the same. and some people say the stupidest things without even thinking when they find out your pregnant. and then the horror birth stories come (which i am 99% sure most of them are totally exaggerated lol)

just dont listen to anything people say... unless its your dr!

[jasmine21]

All of your comments are so wonderful and have really put my mind at (a little) ease. It seems as if everyone has that worry from the start so I do feel a lot better knowing that I am not just paranoid. I love my sister but honestly, she can be so opionated....and when I say so politely....'that's you...this is me' she almost makes me feel like I shouldn't be o.k because she wasn't. Not to worry you guys with...I know she means well but I have decided that I don't want to talk to her about the baby and stick to my close girlfriends who have had children :yelclap: The sister who took my 2nd lot of blood today (the ones for all the tests) said that I looked very healthy and hopefully won't get any morning sickness because I was looking so radiant at 5 weeks. I do know that my boobs are still killing me and they have grown so much....its amazing the size difference in such a short amount of time (hope they last...ha ha ha). First appointment with Dr at 7 weeks so hopefully I will feel better after seeing her.

[Mischief]

Jasmine - Your sister may be angry/hurt and even jealous that you are pregnant and she isnt....just a thought.

Fingers crossed that you dont get the dreaded Morning Sickness! :D

[v8mum]

I too feel the same as you. I am 5 wks preg with my second now and i check every hour. I have had 2 miscarraiges in the last yr and make myself so stressed. I did bleed with my first child too though quite early in the preg but still went on to have a perfect child, so not everyone that has a little bit of blood mc's. Being preg is the most wonderful thing though and try not to think about the negatives but the positives. There is nothing better than a growing tummy and sore boobs. I don't mind that my boobs are so sore and growing by the day because it means that everything is alrite and going well. And when that baby starts kicking around and you can't sleep it is the best feeling.
So don't listen to everyone else and start buying those baby magazines and enjoying yourself for the next 9 mths. Congrats on the pregnancy and on your wedding. And remember sex on the honeymoon will not harm your baby.:laughing: