why dosent he sleep? sorry its alot longer than i thought

[~isis~]

My beautiful boy is almost 10 months. and for the first 6 months i had a wonderful little boy who loved his sleep in fact for the first 3 months i barely remember him being awake other than to eat. even sleeping through nappy changes and all. then at 6 months i had to stop breastfeeding due to medical reason he wasnt gaining weight and i was loosing way too much. and he got sick for the first time, he had a virus and was having trouble sleeping once on medication it cleared up quick enough, but his sleep has never been the same. he was sleeping 12hrs at night and about 4 in the day. now im lucky if i get 5hrs at night and 20 mins in the day. he has been like this ever scence he was sick. i just dont get it, he is fine now. he was able to settle himself but now of a night he wont. if im lucky in the morning he will stay happy hin his cot for about 30mins after he wakes so that is a good thing. but still i dont feel he is getting enough sleep. is this a problem i need to see a dr about or is he just one of those kids who dont sleep? i spoke to my mum about what i was like and i was the compleate opposite all i did was sleep for the first 2 years of my life. my dp his mum isnt too sure what his routine was like as he spent his first year in hospital, but she did say they never mentioned anything.
im at my wits end im only getting 3hrs sleep a night, and im pregnant with number 2, im starting to stress about weather i will cope with 2 bubs 15months apart, i do get to have a sleep in til about 8 every second sunday, dp has sundays off so we made a deal he gets one weeks i get the other to sleep in. tho his sleep in is till 10.30 and he wakes me at 8.


just wondering if anyone has advise or if its just the way it is. so i better get used to it.
thanks

[JustUs3]

I could have written your post myself!! DD (9 months) is doing the exact same thing at the moment and I'm pretty sure it's beacuase she's been sick also. She's ok once she gets to sleep but it's a nightmare
to actually get her to nod off. She used to self settle really well, we could put her in bed with her dummy and cuddle bear and she'd be asleep within minutes but since she's been sick she's turned into a different baby. I put her to bed at 7:30 tonight and she's only just gone to sleep (it's 8:30 here) oh no she hasn't she's started screaming again...*sigh.* I wish I had advice for you but I don't, just know your not alone!

[kar]

Sorry I'm confused, he only sleeps 5 hours total at night or in a row?? Neither is good but if that is all he is sleeping it sounds very concerning to me

[whiteroses]

It sounds like his being unwell has really turned everything upside down. Does he wake a lot and need resettling? Do you think he learnt bad habits (ie no longer resettling himself) at night when he was unwell, and now needs help to break those habits and re-learn how to self-settle? It might be that you have to put in a tough couple of weeks trying to teach him his old habits again, and then perhaps he might get the hang of it? He will probably need you to break the habits for him, though, rather than hoping he is going to do it himself. Babies make good and bad habits quickly, and usually need a bit of help to change something.

[kar]

He will probably need you to break the habits for him, though, rather than hoping he is going to do it himself. Babies make good and bad habits quickly, and usually need a bit of help to change something.

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