no 5

[monique13]

Hi everyone well i found out last week that im preg with no 5 the thing is that people think im crazy most people are like why do u what 5 children ant 4 an hand full as it is the only people happy for me are my mum and my nan and my sister everyone els gives me **** about being preg with no 5 sorry for going on but is is making me so mad i wish people would just be happy for u and not put you down for something you want well thats it from me sorry for going on .

[ziggie]

CONGRATULATIONS!:smiliedance: :smiliedance:

I'm happy for you!!!! Who cares what people say? You must be a fantastic mummy....Hopefully I'll have a lge family too one day!

[V8]

I think it's great having large families, unfortunately not many people are as enthusiastic about it as others are. I think you are awesome :) And from your ticker you have twins too?? My mum had 4 kids, but was pregnant 3 times (i'm a twin). So just say you wanted to be pregnant four times, but you got a bonus on your third, so you wanna have another! Plus, it's noone's business really, glad at least your mum and nan are happy about it!

[Mamasusu]

Be happy - When we had 4 bubs - i constantly felt that we were missing one or had lost one...Our 5th little man has been such a wonderful completion to our family.....and the funny thing is now he can talk he insists he will be the baby forever and we are to have no more babies !

I received no support and No one was happy for me with any of the babies - be happy and best of luck !

[Niki]

congratulations

as long as your happy who cares what they say!!!

[DQ]

What is it with these people and their unwanted opinions? I get the same all the time. We have 4, but want to have 2 more. When I tell people this they look at me with this stupid look on their face. Then comes the barrage of one liners..... "how can you afford that?.....Haven't you got enough? .....Aren't you being greedy?...... Don't you & hubby own a TV?...

You name it I've had all of them. I even ran a general question about a VBAC past my GP the other day and she assumed I was pregnant and said "well hang on another few days to see if your periods come and I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that you'll get them by Friday" I was speechless (which in my DH opinion is a rare occurance!).

When I was pregnant with #4 I felt as though I had to make out to everyone that it wasn't a planned pregnacy so they would get off my back. I regret this so much now, I should have had the guts (literally ...lol!) to stand up to them, but sadly I didn't.

Don't be like me, stand up to them and tell them their opinions suck, they aren't useful so therefore should be kept to themselves. :mad: :banghead:

[dramabananas]

I heartily agree with you mum0f4
I have 6 children, (4 at home) and recently discovered I'm expecting lucky 7. (2nd marriage - blissfully happy)
Initially I got onto this site searching for VBAC info, but I have found much more & I'm glad I came across this thread.
I thought it was only me, and I'm guilty of the same thing - pretending not to have planned. (Although not all mine were planned. But unplanned doesn't mean unwanted!)
Its amazing the way some people think & how rude they can be, seemingly without even realizing.

Yes it can get stressful, yeah you may winge about not being able to pee alone & it gets lonely when your friends stop calling because you can't go out as much or they don't want to come around cause your house is noise and chaos, but don't all parents have a winge now and then? I still wouldn't change anything for the world...
General opinion to some of the few I've had the guts to tell is automatic "are you going to keep it?" Like I just found a stray cat that nobody wants!!! :banghead: They can all take a long jump off a very short bridge!!!

Even the treatment you get in hospital whether its on your visits or on the ward (apart from a few nice ones) is judgemental & operate under some misguided assumption that your 4th, 5th, 6th or heaven forbid 7th baby and birthing experience is not as special & unique as if it was your first.
This is part of the reason I'm considering a homebirth with somebody who is paid to be supportive! (Just have to find someone willing to do VBAC3 & convince DH that I can do itlol)

WOW I really vented a bit there :devil6: , sorry, better leave it at that hey? LMAO Every family is special no matter how many members, so you go girls & best of luck!:yelclap:

[~EmsMum~]

congratulations

as long as your happy who cares what they say!!!

exactly :smiliedance:

[FourAngelKisses]

Congratulations!!!! Large families are just wonderful!! Ignore what other people say, they obviously are family orientated like yourself.

In the meantime, check out this site, lol.
http://www.plomp.com/largefam/comebacks.htm

[Karizma]

Congratulations... You know big familys used to be the norm. Some people... I agree with the other as long as you are happy, and hey we are happy for you :smiliedance: :smiliedance:

[~rambox~]

Hi everyone well i found out last week that im preg with no 5 the thing is that people think im crazy most people are like why do u what 5 children ant 4 an hand full as it is the only people happy for me are my mum and my nan and my sister everyone els gives me **** about being preg with no 5 sorry for going on but is is making me so mad i wish people would just be happy for u and not put you down for something you want well thats it from me sorry for going on .

Please keep going on as I am a mum of 4 boys and would love to try for a girl when Saxon is 2. I think when you already have four what does one more hurt:laughing: Congratulations on your pregnancy and if you have any tips on getting a girl please let me know.:o

Bec :smiliedance:

[dramabananas]

Morning all, I was just reviewing my previous post & realized I didn't know I was so angry at a few family & friends lol but it did feel good to get it off my chest!!!
I must say that apart from the snide remarks & eyebrows that hit the hairline when you say how many kids you have - I never really thought we were very different. Just more love & laughter to share in our own home, so I have never thought to seek out others who were in similar situations.

But now I have and I LOVE it!!! Even though its general, this site has put me in touch with the first people to have 'congratulated' me since my 3rd prenancy. Even in the thread for my due date, they're great - whether its their first baby or their 5th.

I have loved reading the posts of other mums with large families, it's inspiring & at a time when I'm surrounded by so much negativity causing me to doubt my own abilities its very grounding to see how others can and are doing it and doing it well!

Thank you

Angel-Kisses absolutely loved that link - Its a classic :D

And i also agree with you all, as long as you're happy :thumbsup:

Monique13 if you are checking back here I am so sorry for your loss :hugs: please be well & I hope you are blessed in whatever may come.

[3TinLids]

We have 3 boys and are considering TTcing for one more. The very few people that
I have spoken to have been quite negative! However, I don't care as long as we and our children are happy and healthy!

Be strong!

Rebecca;)

[FourAngelKisses]

Angel-Kisses absolutely loved that link - Its a classic :D

I should have printed that page out last weekend when I told my parents I was expecting.........I should have handed it to them and then went home and cried.

[TTannyaa]

I am the youngest of 8 and if I could do it all over again, wouldn't change a thing. Congratulations and all the very best. :smiliedance: :smiliedance: :smiliedance: :smiliedance:

[RuthK]

I have 3 and want at least 4 or 5. Whenever anyone (usually family or close friends who have forgotten discretion) say I'm mad I reply that some people are emotionally and physically equipped to deal with many children, others are not! Not only is that comment true, but it puts them back in their place without making me go on the defence.

Good luck!

[ada]

:wave: Hi there am a newbie, congrats on the great news!!!!! I too have four and am now giving serious thought of trying for our 5th this month i cop the crazy, pysho, nuts thing all the time ..i just say to them well i think you nuts for only having 1 . having 2 children for MYSELF i would feel so incomplete
"- i constantly felt that we were missing one or had lost one..."

Thats so weird cause i always feel like that the other day we all went shopping hub and the 4 kids am i kept looking around like we were missing one ...i looked , counted all there i felt like we were missing or lost one weird.... i said to my hubbie we are going to have another one , everytime i have had that feeling yepp ive got pregnant.i just hope that after 5 it stops... lol but it's so weird the feeling my hubby reckon i feel like that cause we have sadly lost 4 children and perhaps that has something to do with it????
anyhow so happy to see there more people like me that think 4 5 kids is so beautiful.....always did like the waltons lol
best of luck and enjoy!!!!
have beautiful day all looking forward to making new friends that are parents to tribes
cheers ada

[stellarella]

How wonderful for you!!
I only have 1 so far but DP and I want at least 4. I can think of nothing more wonderful than a big family full of children.