So Scared

[Elle85]

Hey all...

Well just two weeks ago, i thought my life was just starting fresh- and i was loving it! My partner and I had finally split up for good after 3 years of on again, off again- and we had both had enough. I have a great job- im only 21 and earn great money. I was out partying and enjoying life! I found out two weeks ago that i was pregnant to my ex. I had all the symptoms, but after going through a breakup i just thought it was stress. I never imagined that i was actually pregnant. After all- my partner and I had not used any contraception and at times were even trying to fall pregnant for 3 years! Why now??
I dont believe in abortion, and i am prepared to raise this baby as my own- but i am petrified! I think the biggest thing is that i am going to be a single mum, raising this baby by myself.
I told my ex, and he was stoked to start off with, but things got really ugly between us- and there is minimal contact with us.
I never dreamt my life would go like this! See it in movies, but you never think it will happen to you.
im a couple months through the pregnancy already- and just starting to feel a little bit excited about it.
Anyone have any advice or stories they can share with me so that i can try and see the light at the end of the tunnel? I'm so scared!:no: :(

[Sarie]

Welcome to bubhub. You sound like you need a big :hugs:
Do you have family to give you support? If you need a chat feel free to PM me too!
Take care
Sarie

[Mell]

Hi and welcome :wave:

I can't give you any advice but there is a wonderfull single Mum/Dad section where you will find heaps of wonderfull people and heaps of support.:thumbsup:

Congratulations on your pregnancy

[Elle85]

I am very very lucky in the fact that i am the youngest child of 8, and all my family now all have their own children and my baby will be grandchild number 9. My family have been amazing, but i live by myself, and the lifestyle that i used to live and are now living are completely different and i am in a lot of ways trying to distance myself from those groups...:(

[Sarie]

Aw hon. It's hard enough and scarey enough to have a baby when you're in a relationship. I can only imagine what you're going through.
If you ever need a chat I'm here. I'm pregnant too, 10 weeks with my third.
:hugs:
Sarie

[♥My Innocent Angel♥]

if you ever need anyone to talk to i will be there for you i am a single mum so may understand some of what you are going through pm anytime thinking of you :hugs: *big hugs*

everyone here is wonderful and there is always someone around to help you or even just listen cause sometimes thats all you want

i hope you enjoy bubhub and that you have support where you are at home :)

[Poopa]

Don't be scared! (Yeah right!)... EVERYONE gets scared at first (even those trying to fall pregnant), so I can imagine that it would be scary for you being single.

There are so many single mums out there doing an awesome job, so don't fret! You'll get plenty of support from here.

Once you hold your baby in your arms, you won't care about anything else!

[Elle85]

How do i raise my child by myself? I always had respect for single mothers- but wow, I am so amazed and have a new outlook and respect for single parents. :thumbsup: :eek:

[♥My Innocent Angel♥]

how well that is the ultimate question

sometimes i dont know how we do it but we just do its like a natural instinct you just survive and take each and every moment as it comes you will be a wonderful mum and you will make every sacrifice to put your child first and all i can say is it will come naturally (but im not saying it will be easy)

[♥My Innocent Angel♥]

I am very very lucky in the fact that i am the youngest child of 8, and all my family now all have their own children and my baby will be grandchild number 9. My family have been amazing, but i live by myself, and the lifestyle that i used to live and are now living are completely different and i am in a lot of ways trying to distance myself from those groups...:(

you have already started making changes that are for the better just by changing the lifestyle you live as i said in my previous post(you just do it i cant explain why or how) maybe some other bub hubbers can :)

and congrats also it is a wonderful journey you are beginning

[Hokey Pokey]

You can do it sweets!! I don't know how we do it, but once that bundle comes along you just do!!!! I was thrown into parenthood at 15, so I know the shock you are feeling!! And yep, I did it alone with the help of my family. Sounds like you have a wonderful family there to embrace and support you!! :thumbsup:

[talon]

Hi! I just wanted to say welcome to bubhub. If you haven't already, maybe you could join us lovely ladies in the When are you due? forums also. It is a great place for a bit of support as you go through a bunch of changes. And we all love to chat!

Here is the link if you are interested:

http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=103

If you are a couple of months along already you might be due in Feb or March? Just click on the month you are due and join in.

:hugs: to you.

[Pixie]

Welcome, you have had a rough time, but the people here are lovely, supportive and come from all walks of life hope you stick around and get support :)

[Veritas]

Hi Elle,

I've been through a very similar thing to you recently, and am due to have bubs in about a week!

You def sound like you're on the right path, want the right things, and have a great support base.

Believe in yourself chicky, you can do it!

Feel free to PM me if you ever wanna chat!

:hugs:

[SuperWoman]

Hello and welcome to Bub Hub. Im sure you will get lots of support here hun. You sound like a strong person and Im sure you will be a great mummy too.:hugs:

[InSaneOne]

everyone gets scared at some point. just stay strong and you will be able to raise your child into the best they can be. your life will change but for the better. there are plently of singles mums on here to help answer any questions you will have.


welcome to bubhub :wave:

[mumslilspunks]

Hello, welcome and congratulations.
Everything will work out for you and just a couple more:hugs: :hugs: .
Where abouts are you from?

[Chanelc]

Welcome aboard - this is a great site!
It does get better - as soon you will have a little angel looking up to and love you like you can't imagine!
Dont forget there are heaps of wonderful mum's on line if you ever need to chat or ask questions - they have been great for me - you will see me chatting on the single mums section

[LeahW]

:wave: Hi Elle and welcome to bubhub.

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

You are going to make a great mummy to your precious little one, have faith in yourself you can do this.

[MeeG]

hay elle and welcome

all i can say from my experience (:laughing: ) is that me falling pregnant has been difficult but also made me stronger as an invidual and closer with those whoi know for sure now truley looove me, i broke up with my ex after an on agian off relationship but we didnt have much contact thru my preganacy now im 35 wks and hes sucking up to me trying to be my friend pffft anyways for my daughters sake if hes gon try so will i... i think hes realising hold all the cards here:laughing: , but yes goodluck and if i can get thru my pregancy anyone can :hugs: