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moonblossom
22-07-2006, 12:10
The best laid plans of mice and men, or so the saying goes LOL. Well not in my case i'm afraid, Alexanders birth was nothing like i had anticipated, but I want to first say, that in the end everything turned out well, so don't feel afraid of my story.

I woke up at 2.30 a.m. with strong period pains, and when i went to the toilet i had my show. WHOO HOOO finally after being 8 days overdue things were happening. I had a shower and got dressed, put a little bit of a face on LOL and waited to see how things would go. The contractions were 7 minutes apart so i thought i would get my daughter up and finally give her the news that things were happening. We sat together for a while, I decided the contractions were progressing enough to phone Alexanders dad and let him know it was time to get his butt into a taxi and head here. He lives 45 ks away from me so I didn't want to leave it much later.

When he arrived, we settled down to playing Uno for an hour or so, then I decided to call the hospital and let them know I would be in later, but they wanted me in NOW because things could progress very quickly being my eighth child.

I couldn't believe how cold and icy it was at 6 in the morning, it took us 10 minutes to scrape the ice of the windscreen before we could go. We arrived at the hospital where i was examined and was only 2 cm dialated, waters still intact and everything looking good. They wanted me to stay for the above reason, so we were escorted to the birthing suite where we quickly set up our game of Uno again, and was introduced to the midwive who would stay with me till Alexanders birth.

I had to have a drip put in (nothing attached tho) just incase I bled out during the birth. That was fine. Time went by and by 11 am I gave up playing Uno, was just too hard to concentrate on two things at once LOL. During this time the baby's position and heartbeat was checked numberous times and both seemed fine. The midwife kept commenting on how high he still was, even though I was fully dialated. But she said he would drop when I started pushing, who was I to question?

Anyway I was fully dialated, got on the bed ready to push my son out. My eldest daughter was on my right and Alexanders dad on my left, he had just got the video started when the midwife did one more internal. I felt my water leaking as she did ...then a gush. She was pushing her hand high up, even putting a knee on the bed to go further when all of a sudden she started staying "****, ****, ****"...i DIDN'T know what was happening, she said "I'm so sorry I did this to you", I asked her what was wrong and she informed me the cord had come out and Alexander was breech. She kept her hand inside of me to push Alexander back and keep pressure off the cord, Alexander's Dad kept stroking my head and giving me words of encouragement even though I could see the panic in his eyes. My midwife leant over and pressed the emergency button and four midwives ran in, ordering me to get on my knees and for my midwife to keep her hands where it was, and keep pushing the baby back. I heard them call over the microphone for emergency in delivery room 3, and when a midwife asked what had happened all hell broke lose.

Before i knew it I was being wheeled into the operating room with the midwives hand in me, calling out to everyone that the baby had grasped hold of her finger. All I recall is the operating room being full of doctors and midwives and it seemed so disorganised, until one doctor yelled out "keep it together people". Then I drifted off to sleep.

It is quite strange how one can feel calm in such a traumatic situation. I felt extremely calm and somehow knew i had to remain relaxed for Alexander's sake. I didn't panic nor lose faith in the people around me.

I hadn't had any pain releif during my labor, not even gas so it must of been my natural endorphins kicking in, and maybe intuition.

Anyway I woke up in recovery to the news that my son wasn't well, he had become extremely distressed and was being transfered to another hospital for specialised care. He had drips and nose tube in and I just wanted to cry. He was so beautiful and so loved and the thought of losing him after everything we had been through just killed me.

I had to spend the night apart from him, but went to the same hospital as Alexander the next day and didn't leave his side. His condition had improved and everything was looking good, we were just waiting to see how his MRI revealed to know if there was any permament damage. THANK GOD it was normal. My little man was out of danger, feeding well and we were transfered back to my hospital, where we were treated like royality, given a double room with a double bed, spoilt rotten and I finally felt like I had my son.

Everything has been fantastic since then. He is such a good little boy, I'm crying all the time with releif and joy, he is much loved and much wanted and my heart just aches for him.

When i came home, I watched the video , and it shocked me to see all this could of been avoided if they had realised he was breech. I cannot for the life of me understand how they DIDN'T know this, they are professionals and should of known. The video is damning evidence against the midwife, I just don't know wether i should take it futher.

anyway, My son ALEXANDER BLAKE is here, he weighted 7 lbs 12 1/2 ounces and was 52 cm long. Everybody is so relieved and happy he is here healthy and happy.

I want to take this chance to thank every single one of you for your support and love over this challenging 9 months. My first post was so sad yet with everyones support things improved. I cannot be more happier with my choices and my life.

Love to all.

And THANKS..will never forget the kindness you have shown me.

Desertress
22-07-2006, 12:17
Congratulations.... you have been through so much but i am very glad things turned out alright in the end. As for the midwife... i would consider taking things futher becuase what happens the next time she stuff up like that.

~EmsMum~
22-07-2006, 12:17
congrats on the birth hun.
im glad to hear you are positive despite everytrhing that happened

EskimoMumma
22-07-2006, 12:23
Oh thats a beautiful story. All that worry you must have been through and all those emotions.

:hugs: to you and congratulations on your arrival of your beautiful son :smiliedance:

Jenko
22-07-2006, 12:27
Wow! Congratulations Moonblossom :smiliedance: ...what a story. I can't believe Alexander had grabbed on to the midwifes finger, that's amazing!!

I'm really glad to hear you are both doing well. Welcome to the world Alexander Blake! :smiliedance:

Briannabear
22-07-2006, 13:14
Congratulations Moonblossom! Thats amazing about your son grabbing the midwife's finger!
I know how frustrating it is when they dont work out that your baby is breech until the end :rolleyes: - we had a similar experience. I bet that midwife is sweating it out right now knowing you have it all on video! :laughing:

Glad to hear you are both well! :hugs: :D

Tam-I-Am
22-07-2006, 13:36
Congratulations on the birth of Alexander Blake.

I'm so sorry that you didn't have the birthing experience that you wanted, its so disappointing when that happens, and it sounds like such a scary time.:hugs: I'm sooooo glad that you and Alexander are well and happy!

lukaelmo
22-07-2006, 13:45
Wow, congratulations MB and welcome to the world little Alexander...

Pixie
22-07-2006, 13:47
First off welcome back, great to hear from you, time flies by so quickly!
Reading this I was :eek: truly scary but I undertand the bit of when there's a storm you're the calm one I had a similar experience. Welcome Alexander Blake and glad to hear you are now a nice healthy baby.

Hope to see you around more MB :):hugs:

xkwzit
22-07-2006, 13:56
MB, so glad to have the update, and far more glad that everything did turn out OK. Look after you lovely little man.

Cheers

Funkychicken
22-07-2006, 14:00
WOW-Alexander is finally here! Congratulations to you, Moonblossom.

You're a wonder!
:yelclap: :smiliedance: :yelclap:

sshellzp
22-07-2006, 16:55
Congrats on the birth of your baby boy!
Shell.

WeThree
22-07-2006, 18:04
Oh my gosh!!! Reading your story my hand flew to my mouth, I couldnt believe what I was reading (well I could but ykwim) I am so so so glad that you are both ok and that your little man is home with you.
Congratulations, well done and welcome lovely Alexander Blake :yelclap: :yelclap:

reAllytee
22-07-2006, 18:31
Oh MB :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:
Im so glad everything turned out well in the end & that little Alexander is doing well loved by all :hugs:
I am just in total shock about all that happened i just dont know what to say. Your a strong lady.

bronny-jane
22-07-2006, 18:35
wow what a story:eek:
hey moon blossom werent you sure you'd go early:D :p

Seekrit
22-07-2006, 19:17
Oh my Bloss! I'm glad everything eventually turned out okay with Mr Alexander! You have had quite an adventure. :hugs:

draught
22-07-2006, 19:29
Congratulations on your gorgeous boy's arrival - but what an adventure in the process!! Well done (and welcome back!)

AM
22-07-2006, 19:35
What a fantastic story, although I bet a lot of it felt far from fantastic...
Amazing that he grasped onto the mw's finger!!! :eek:

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!

stellaj
22-07-2006, 19:54
Wow Moonblossom, what a dramatic yet wonderful story. Congratulations on your beautiful boy. So lovely your daughter was there.:hugs:

Peaceangels
22-07-2006, 20:07
Congrat's MB on the newest addition to your family, Alexander Blake and thank you for posting your birth story, we have been waiting in anticipation!
Sorry to hear the birth didn't go according to plan, thank goodness all was well in the end.:)

JenNT
22-07-2006, 21:12
Congratulations MB,good to see you back.:wave:
Welcome Alexander:)

SamanthaJane
22-07-2006, 21:26
Wow! What an eventful last delivery! (or... maybe not the last... ;))

Welcome to Alexander!!! :hugs:

Wondermum
22-07-2006, 21:28
Congrats to you and your big family :thumbsup:
How amazing!

*Chels*
23-07-2006, 20:25
Hey MOONBLOSSOM!!
Weve been wondering where youve been!!
Glad to hear lil Alexander is doing well!what a scary experience for you!
Hes so gorgeous!!
Take care:hugs:

ETsMum
24-07-2006, 14:25
Congrats Moonblossom!!!! :smiliedance:
I was just thinking of you this morning and wondering if Alexander had arrived. I would never have imagined such a dramatic entrance!! Thanks so much for sharing your story.

InSaneOne
24-07-2006, 14:30
wow i am so glad you 2 are alright.

welcome to the world alexander.

LittleBoysRock
24-07-2006, 15:39
Congrats!! Welcome to the World little Alexander Blake (love the name!!)

Blessed Mum
24-07-2006, 16:55
Congrats Moonblosson & Welcome Alexander Blake :smiliedance:

TwoBlue
24-07-2006, 21:05
Congrats Moonblossom on the eventful yet safe arrival of Alexander !

I am so glad he is ok and you are too

:hugs:

Nan
25-07-2006, 21:26
:smiliedance: CONGRATULATIONS MOONBLOSSOM!!:smiliedance:
I'm very happy for you and very glad that you and your son are fine now.
I hope he continues to grow in leaps and bounds.
Well done - you supermum you!

Love,
Nan. xx

the_queen
25-07-2006, 21:36
Congratulations MB and Welcome Alexander !!

Wow on the birth story - I'm utterly speechless. Will you be taking things further, complaint to the hospital, etc?

Lunar
25-07-2006, 21:46
Oh Bloss......Congrats! And welcome to the world special little man!

I am so so happy that you are both well and happy. What a story huh!?
All worked out though and that is what matters at the end of the day.

NZMama
28-07-2006, 14:33
Wow how things can change so quickly and dramatically!
Thank goodness that you are both well and safe...
CONGRATS on the arrival of your little man!

brooke
28-07-2006, 14:52
wow what an amazing story! welcome little alexander!

i was reading your story like this :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:
I am so glad that things turned out so well in the end!

Niki
28-07-2006, 14:55
Congratulations.....im glad it all turned out ok in the end

Foxymoron
28-07-2006, 15:01
Awwwwwwww :hugs: Congrats to you!

Welcome earthside little man! What a dramatic entrance you made!

I'm so glad you are both well. :D

Melo
28-07-2006, 15:02
Congratulations MB!!

:smiliedance: :smiliedance: :smiliedance: :smiliedance:

SuperWoman
03-08-2006, 22:19
:yelclap: Congratulations.:yelclap:
Great to hear that Alexander is doing well.:hugs:

Lisa&Davey
11-08-2006, 01:13
You are so amazing. I'm so moved by your and Alexander's story.

Well done!!!!!

Kirstlea
18-08-2006, 23:49
WOW

Congratulations Moonblossom - I have been meaning to check how you went as I knew you should have had Alexander by now, but I haven't been online much lately.

Welcome little man and I'm glad you are ok and that mum is ok too.

I am finally past the 24 weeks so feel alot more confident about this one infact I am very excited now and can't wait for it all to happen.

becschasebaby
23-08-2006, 15:44
wow what an amazing story! congratulations and i am so glad that little Alexander is ok. i hope you are too.

bec and chase xx

Will
28-08-2006, 17:01
Wow congrats! You sound like a very strong woman - good on you!!

moonblossom
28-08-2006, 20:24
Thanks guys, I must admit though nearly 7 weeks down the track and I still haven't quite recovered from it.

I go to bed everynight determined to have nice thoughts etc, but ALWAYS his birth comes back to haunt me. I KNOW I KNOW, time to get over it, move on etc, and I am.

I just have anger that I can't seem to get rid of, which is SO NOT LIKE ME.

Yes Alexander is a picture of health, BUT that doesn't deminish what he endured in the beginning.

I thank you all though for your kind words and welcoming my adorable, beautiful wonderful little boy.

:kiss:

reAllytee
29-08-2006, 00:04
Thanks guys, I must admit though nearly 7 weeks down the track and I still haven't quite recovered from it.

I go to bed everynight determined to have nice thoughts etc, but ALWAYS his birth comes back to haunt me. I KNOW I KNOW, time to get over it, move on etc, and I am.

I just have anger that I can't seem to get rid of, which is SO NOT LIKE ME.

Yes Alexander is a picture of health, BUT that doesn't deminish what he endured in the beginning.

I thank you all though for your kind words and welcoming my adorable, beautiful wonderful little boy.




Its obviously not time for you to move on yet :hugs:
If anyone says that to you send 'em my way i will show 'em what for :p
It sounds like you may be suffering from Post Traumatic Stress especially if your having flashbacks, anger etc.
Please please talk to someone about this you need to heal not just for yourself but for Alexander also.
I still have my bad days but im working through that now & in time i know that it will be better for both Boof & myself to move on .... When im ready not because of anyone else ;)
Take care :hugs:

Ashleigh<3
29-08-2006, 00:24
Oh My! You are so strong ladeh :)
I admire you for doing so well, and 8 kids, congratulations! :hugs: