Deal breaker?

[kar]

Went and met a possible nanny yesterday. She is still BFing her 2.5 yo is an advocate of gentle parenting and generally ticked most of my boxes BUT the TV was on the whole time I was there, she made a joke about her daughter being a TV addict and when her daughter went to play outside she said 'I'll turn that off while she is outside'. We don't do TV except in desperate times.
Would this be a deal breaker for you?

[Izy]

IMHO As a nanny she should respect your TV stance, so it's only a deal breaker if she chooses not to acknowledge that. (will only know for sure with a trial period)

The fact that her daughter is a TV addict shouldn't really impact too much on it's own. All the other boxes being ticked while being available is pretty impressive!

[smileygirl]

it would be a deal breaker for me.

I am very careful with what my son watches and at 2 1/2...he would not watch more then 30 mins of tv a day...and that was play school.

At 5...he now watches up to 2 hours....but still NO commercial TV, no news etc.

In "desperate times" ...he'll sometimes watch a bit more....after one of my IVF EPU...he did watch about 5 hours in a day cause i could barely move :yes:

So, for her to allow her child to watch that much tv...says to me she is not spending quality time doing activities with her child...so she wouldn't with yours.

[NonnyMouse]

I approach my work totally different to my home life. At work I'm uber organised, at home I'ma pig. So I would assume she will approach a nanny job caring for your child differently to how she would parent her own, so if you're not OK with TV being on, then she would probably respect that.

Where it might be an issue, is that if she's bringing her 2.5 yr old "tv addict" with her, things might get volitile if her daughter isn't allowed to watch TV while she's there.

[ontheway]

So, for her to allow her child to watch that much tv...says to me she is not spending quality time doing activities with her child...so she wouldn't with yours.
:iagree:
Is she a nanny? (who comes to your home)
Or FDC?(you drop DS to her home)

[kar]

Nony that is exactly what I was thinking. Mummy nanny, she would come here but have her daughter with her. If you are reading this mummy nanny let me know!

[MummyNanny]

Talk to her :yes:, if you don't want the tv to be over used then tell her what your limit is (ie 30 minutes per day) and then ask her if she is willing to stick to that.

If she is perfect in every other aspect, why wouldn't you just set a limit to what is excepted? What she does in her time is her business. but while she is your Nanny she really needs to follow your families wishes.

My suggestion is talk about it :shakehands:

[NonnyMouse]

I would ask her outright. Tell her that the TV is not on in your house during ther day, and ask whether that is likely to be an issue for her child.