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twinkles
21-07-2006, 12:29
Hi!

I am new to the forum and am looking for some support. Please excuse the long post, but I wanted to be clear about what is happening.

I am 10 weeks pregnant today, I am certain my dates are correct because of two factors; one when I tested positive for pregnancy, and the other due to certain events that need to happen for pregnancy, and my husband was away for a while ;)

I tested positive on the 14th of June (a few days past 4 weeks after 1st day of last period), after having known I was pregnant for at least a week or so. I started to have this very strong feeling for no particular reason that I was pregnant with twins - could have been paranoia, but I had not had it with any of my other 3 pregnancies. On the 30th June I started cramping, and hard a rock hard tummy and sharp pain to the right side of my belly button (seems unrelated, but I do have a slightly dodgy liver), and occasionally very low down near my pubic line. On the 6th of July the spotting began, at first I wasn't really concerned and let it take it's course for a few days, by the 10th small particles and clots (no larger than 3mm) started to pass and the blood darkened and increased significantly, still not a period, but far more than spotting. I felt a loss, and the concept of twins just disappeared, cravings disappeared, and the pregancy test the doctor did only just showed a very faint positive. He organised an ultrasound but pretty much told me I had miscarried or would in the next few days. The ultrasound showed a baby 2 1/2 weeks smaller than she should have been, with a heart beat but it was only 85bpm and irregular. The Doctor at the ultrasound (he was called in after the result) also prepped me for the imminent miscarriage. On the 15th, the bleeding stopped, but the cramping continued, preganancy symptoms slowly returned, but not as prominent. A few days ago, it began again, as did the cramping, and it is now as heavy as a period and dark, with tiny clots. I have another ultrasound on Wednesday and am really worried now. The doctor told me to hold tight till Wednesday, but it's much easier said than done. This baby is already a part of my family and I love her very much. What I need right now is to know whether anyone experienced this and the baby survived.

I can't talk to my husband right now, as he handles things differently and worries all the more if I say what I feel. He seems also to be only focusing on my health, not the babies and it hurts to think he has already given her up, like the doctors have, perhaps I am not being fair, as everyone has the right to handle things differently, but I need support now :gloomy:

Thanks in advance

Twinkles

Tea Lady
21-07-2006, 12:47
Twinkles I can't answer your questions, but just wanted to say I hope you get a good result on Wednesday. You must be so worried about everything and I'm sorry I can't tell you it will be alright, but I hope you get all the support you need here. :hugs:

twinkles
21-07-2006, 12:56
Thanks tea lady (mmm, would love one right now; cuppa that is ;) ). I appreciate your support. I am not looking for someone to tell me it will be fine, but I would like to know it is possible that it could be fine if you know what I mean. After so many negative responses, and already feeling as if I may have lost one, I guess I need the hope that it might be ok. I understand that those stories may not be easy to find though...

Tea Lady
21-07-2006, 13:33
I know there was one girl on bubhub who had severe bleeding with huge clots at around 12 weeks and went on to have a healthy bub....... when I had my m/c the dr said that lots of bleeding definitely doesn't always mean that you've lost the baby. I;m not sure about the size prob. and the heartrate though.

If you look in the yellow pgs there are a few counselling services (free) for pg probs - I rang the gov. one once and the nurse who answered was lovely and knew alot - maybe you could give them a ring :hugs:

Hokey Pokey
21-07-2006, 13:55
Huge hugs to you at such a scary time for you.
I had a similair thing with my second, she was a twin and we lost the twin in the second month and threatened to loose her right up to 18 weeks and then we found out I had placenta praevia and a slight abruption of the placenta coming off the uterus wall... she is living proof now 3.5 years later that miracles DO happen... :fingerscrossed:

~Danni~
21-07-2006, 15:27
I have no advice but just wanted to offer my support, I hope that you are doing ok and you get the result you are looking for:hugs: to you and your family:hugs:

twinkles
22-07-2006, 13:18
Thanks for all your support; it is greatly appreciated. Unfortunately, I misscarried last night and have just got back from hospital an hour or two ago. We buried bubs in a special new garden and planted a beautiful honey scented pink magnolia above her. It will be a delight in our 'fern gully' that the kids and I have been creating, and even if she couldn't grow, she will help the magnolia to, and hopefully, become a beautiful memory.

Take care

Twinkles

Hokey Pokey
22-07-2006, 13:39
I am so sorry twinkles :hugs:
That was a really nice idea planting a tree above your angel.

~Danni~
22-07-2006, 22:06
:hugs: The tree is such a beautifull idea:hugs:

:hugs: I am sorry for your loss and just wanted to offer my support:hugs:

Tam-I-Am
23-07-2006, 10:59
I'm so sorry for your loss, twinkles. I can't imagine the pain you and your family must be experiencing at this time. I have no words to describe how sad I feel for you. I hope you have a speedy physical recovery. I think burying your loved little baby under the magnolia is such a lovely idea. :hugs:

~EmsMum~
23-07-2006, 11:01
Thanks for all your support; it is greatly appreciated. Unfortunately, I misscarried last night and have just got back from hospital an hour or two ago. We buried bubs in a special new garden and planted a beautiful honey scented pink magnolia above her. It will be a delight in our 'fern gully' that the kids and I have been creating, and even if she couldn't grow, she will help the magnolia to, and hopefully, become a beautiful memory.

Take care

Twinkles

:( so sorry to hear about your news :hugs:

twinkles
23-07-2006, 21:04
Thanks for the support. It is greatly appreciated.