negativity between mothers just a vent

[jaidynsmylilman]

Ive been a member of this forums and been lurking as a guest for yrs till i had the courage to post and then i thought i would see what other aussie forums have to offer and found one which I though looked like a nice forums to ask a very sensitive question about step parents.

In proceeding this I was bombarrded with ppl (mothers) saying they r skepical about the post and that cause i only posted 3 times beofre i asked a highly emotive question about domestic violence. I was after genuine advice and im appalled that I was humliated and shamed on cause Im a very open woman and dnt believe domestic violence needs to be hush hush.

I was picked on for my grammer as Im a 2nd yr uni student I shouldnt have spelling mistakes according to one poster , Im kinda upset tht no one believed my genuine problem in asking for advice. I am definately a bubhubber as this forum has some people to understand.

I just cannot believe australians can be so pigheaded and so shameful when it comes to believing those who r suffering domestic violence and child issues arghhh just a vent.

[Myztiks#1Fan]

i am so sorry you have been made to feel that way. i have been made to feel the same and at times, i question why i am even on here as i am not a perfect parent or person like some of the people on here. there have been times where i have burst into tears due to one comment or even a few however i think as we are all adults, we should be here to support one another no matter how little or big the situation is.

[PeppaH]

Ive been a member of this forums and been lurking as a guest for yrs till i had the courage to post and then i thought i would see what other aussie forums have to offer and found one which I though looked like a nice forums to ask a very sensitive question about step parents.

In proceeding this I was bombarrded with ppl (mothers) saying they r skepical about the post and that cause i only posted 3 times beofre i asked a highly emotive question about domestic violence. I was after genuine advice and im appalled that I was humliated and shamed on cause Im a very open woman and dnt believe domestic violence needs to be hush hush.

I was picked on for my grammer as Im a 2nd yr uni student I shouldnt have spelling mistakes according to one poster , Im kinda upset tht no one believed my genuine problem in asking for advice. I am definately a bubhubber as this forum has some people to understand.

I just cannot believe australians can be so pigheaded and so shameful when it comes to believing those who r suffering domestic violence and child issues arghhh just a vent.

Lol believe it because alot of people are just that. :hugs: For you having a hard time. There can be alot of judgemental people out there.

[greeneyes81]

:hugs: unfortunately there are alot of ignorant and narrow minded people out there hun...hope you feel better soon

[Lily of the Nile]

The last 3 months of my pregnancy and fisrt 2 after he was born I didn't even come to any of these sites because it was so stressfull to read what people write to you and to have to argue back or defend yourself. But you have to sometimes ignore the negatives because there are genuine people that will try and help. I can only handle it at my least vulnerable state of mind.

[smileygirl]

I did not see your original post :hugs::hugs: to you, I hope that what ever that is happening you have the strength to get yourself to safety.

AS for the comments about "why are you asking such a question so soon"...

I've never felt that exactly, but I have fallen victim to liars on forums and it can really hurt. I had been taken in by such a person on a forum...was trying to be really supportive etc...and then I found out that she had been lying...about doing IVF (which i am currently doing) and it hurt me really badly.

I know it sucks when you bare the brunt of other peoples past hurts...but as humans we carry our baggage and can not put it down easily.

I do take time to get to know people on a forum before launching in. However, i also understand the need to ask for help when you need it....

mostly, sometimes these things will go overboard and the innocent get caught up. I think people get sort of a radar for bull**** and maybe something you said....tipped off someones radar incorrectly.

hang in there....i am loving this site and i hope you give it smoe time and see what happens:flowerz:

[jaidynsmylilman]

I wrote a post on another well known baby forum and thats where i got the negativity. Bubhub is alot more respectful ive noticed and will be coming in this forum as my main interest.

My post was about how i can prevent my son from experiencing my ex's violent fiancee.