She wont stop saying NO..... or having tantrums :(

[mischief79]

I know I know, its probably just part of the terrible two's..... but how do I cope with it!! I'm a single mum (well, have a partner but we don't live together, and I actually think we broke up on the phone tonight!) and am pretty much "at my wits end". The answer to EVERYTHING is "No mummy, no, no, no, no"..... you get the picture? And then there's the tantrums! over everything!
Pretty much I just want some sympathy :laughing::laughing:

Seriously.... I feel like I'm going to snap. I've even yelled at her a few times. She's only 2 and 2 months.

[Teley]

Oh that sounds like my house when I had an almost 2 year old. What can I say?

You've only got another year of this to go? Does that make you feel better:o?

[PeppaH]

Im sure you wont damage her by yelling at her a bit. I just ignore my sons tanties when he does them, he stops after like 5 seconds. Im very casual about them, compared to his dad who just gets angry. Getting angry at a crying, tantrum throwing toddler...Just doesnt work lol. I just walk away for a second and if he doesnt get straight up I just say "Oh stop it, dont be silly" and he stops lol. Might get worse as he gets older but so far that works for his tanties.

[AM]

Um I always think from 2 1/2 to 3 1/2 is the hardest year I've come across so far (my eldest is nearly 6 now)

My now three year old has seemed to be three for 10 years, not 1!!

It's hard.

Have you read the book "Raising your spirited child" by Mary kurcinka?

It is fabulous, and has allowed me to understand my 3 year old SO much more, we get on a LOT better these days, as I can figure out where his emotions/tantrums are coming from, and how to help him deal with his feelings in a more constructive way.

I highly recommend it.

Take care :)

Oh I've also got the book "Stop the screaming - how to turn angry conflict with your child into positive communication" By Carl Pickhardt, I'm not far into it, but so far it seems to be pretty good.

[guerin]

It's normal and I know that is pretty easy to say but it just is. My Dd is at the same stage and has the no no no down pat and the get out and the other demands she makes. Also to be honest she is only giving me demands that I give her but she says them in such a cute voice.

Yep if she is like my dd she will have tantrums at all requests but you just have to do what you have to do and if she wishes to have a tanty just carry her or guide her with her hand. But do not give into what she wants if she has a tanty.

An example is when I go to the shopping centre and the first things she wants to do is run around and go to every single toy car, roundabout etc rather then walking with me to get the shopping done. I at first would indulge her but now I get hold of her hand and even if she whines or cries or says no or pulls on me. I firmly hold her hand and if she lies down I firmly, but with out jerking stand her up and walk and I tell her chores first play second. I used to get anxious until I accepted in my heart deep down that is what 2 year olds do. She is going to push me and whine and try not to walk with me and try and play all the time. It is a learning stage for her and she will over time learn that it is chores before play and that when I ask her to hold my hand that is not negotiable. She will also learn not to point and whine as I make her say words but it is all learning.

You are doing nothing wrong and there is nothing wrong with your child.

If you get really frustrated put her in her cot and let her whine. Take a deep breath or have a cup of tea, but know this is normal.

[Aaliyahsmummy]

my neice (who for a while lived with me) is exactly the same, her problem is a mix of terrible 2's and being absolutly spoilt by her grandparents that she lived with before me.

I ended up setting up a time out mat, everytime she refused to do something, like pack up her lego ect or threw a big tanty for not gettin her way she had to sit on the time out spot for 2 mins, every time she got up i would put her back and start the time again. She learnt quickly and after the time out we had cuddles, told her I loved her, and said how her not packing her lego (or whatever) made me very sad.

Over the few months she lived with me her behaviour did get better (more due to not expecting to get her way) Now shes back to worse, living with her grandparents and mum and dad, but ah well While she was in my house she was much better!!