please help my sons so sad

[suemp]

my son is nearly 5 and goes to public pre school 2 and half days a week. my son has always been shy and intimidated by other kids. every morning i drop him at school he clings to me crying. he has told me afew of the kids pick on him calling him a baby etc so he does not want to be there. as soon as i leave though he stops the tears (i check thru the window) so i assume he is doing it to get attention, so i try to ignore it the best i can. my question is should i keep ignoring the tears or succumb to it and give him the attention he wants and how do i build up his self esteem? he already does martial arts. i also tell him to stick up for himself.

[the_queen]

Normally kids who are "attention seeking" are doing so because they need some extra attention, so I would make sure there's lots of one-on-one time with him and you. Talk about pre-school, ask him what are his favourite things to do there, talk about what he could say to the bullies when they call him a baby.

And I'd be talking to the teachers, it is completely unacceptable that bullying is happening - I know it happens everywhere but that doesn't make it ok. They should have an anti-bullying policy.

Good luck, :hugs:

[Crazyfamily]

Hi,
I also have a son in pre school so I know how hard it is to leave them when they are upset. Maybe you could have a chat to his teacher about it. The teacher would have a good idea on whether he is coping or not. I f he is happy most of the time I would just give it time.
Good luck.

[Fitmumma]

That is so sad, my heart aches for both of you! It must be so hard to walk away when he is upset like that, Im a big softy so I'd give in & comfort him as much as possible, maybe hang around until he has calmed down a bit & when he is distracted let him know you will be back to pick him up later.
I would speak to the teacher about the other kids, the last thing your little one needs is to be teased.
Best of luck.


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[nkenward]

If you son is shy etc, maybe he needs a way of increasing his self esteem & confidence.

Maybe he needs to start a sport or join a social club like cubs - they are a great environment to encourage team activities etc. Oh just realised that in cubs you need to be a little older - but I am sure there are outside activities of his age.

[jessgray]

acting classes can help build self-confidence and higher self esteem :)
it helps people who are shy overcome their shyness as well. i know in my aera there is acting places that have classes for 5 yr olds but you would have to look into the ones in your aera as some are more focused on adults and teens.



good luck:fingerscrossed:

[illawarramumof2boys]

hi:wave:

one of my two boys is like yours and i'm going to try him in pre school again next year. it hasn't worked the twice i've tried before (but he was younger than). just a suggestion but maybe you could try playgroup i'm finding that helps my son alot or maybe a mums group. that way he still has the interaction but you're there too. i'd still persist with the pre school for a little while though.

i know its hards to leave a crying child :hugs: to you and keep your chin up. i'll probably be in your position next year;) :o