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craigjjordan
30-11-2009, 23:20
In the early hours of the 16th of July 2009 my wife went into early labour at only 27 weeks. As we arrived at the hospital they knew this little boy was ready to come into this world. They prepped up for a c-section but had no time and my wife was soon pushing and screaming.
Not long after at 4:09am Blake was born but was very small and not breathing on his own, so he was placed on a ventilator. Blake was doing really well for the first couple of days and was put onto CPAP (constant positive air pressure) which was a good sigh but then our luck turned.
We received a phone call from the hospital to come down and have a chat. We were told that he had alot of fluid on his lungs which wasn't good but they were hopeful it would get better and go away if they put him back on the ventilator and that there was some sort of infection which ended up being the "ecoli" bug.
We were given a room to stay in while things were critical so we could be there all the time. All was looking good for a bit but nothing was getting any better and there was still alot of fluid on Blakes lungs, so they tried all different sorts of vibrations and settings on the ventilator but still nothing happened.
After a few more days they decided to put blake on the largest size ventilator and were hoping it would make a difference to his lungs. Blake had scans on a daily basis to see how things were progressing, but they weren't getting any better. On the Friday the 25th, we were told Blake had a stage 1 bleed in his brain and what the possibilities were of this worsening. On Saturday, it went to a stage 2 hemorage and by Sunday it was stage 3-4 which was the worst possible outcome. Our lovely son Blake passed away peacefully in our arms on Monday the 27th July.

This has been so hard to deal with and i'm not coping to well at the moment but don't know what to say to anyone who just wants to talk. I feel so angry at the world still and probably will for a long time.
If you have any advice for a loving father please let me know or just your thoughts. Thankyou

Our son Blake was too beautiful for this world and he is now a star in the sky, flying with angels.

...............RIP little buddy.............
Love for ever & always, Mum, Dad, Ahliya & Cody. xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

brizvegasmum
01-12-2009, 02:40
your story made me cry,and i cannot imagine your pain and suffering.
i'm sorry i cannot offer any advice but if you just want to vent, please,im all ears.
no parent should ever go through the loss of a child.
you must have so many questions,anger,frustration.i cannot imagine how your wife feels.
if i can hug the both of you,i will.if i could sit there and listen,i would.
thankyou for sharing your story with us.

megaminz
01-12-2009, 06:56
I don't have any advice for you either as I have never experienced loss like you have.

I also have a tear in my eye reading this.

My only thoughts can be let yourself be angry and grieve, don't put a time limit on it either or let anyone tell you its time to move on if you aren't ready.

I am sorry I wish I had something more poignant to say that would give you some comfort. I wish you and your family well

c2p08
01-12-2009, 07:19
i'm so sorry you have to go through this, i have nothing that can help you through this, but i couldnt not comment.

i hope that you both find a way, in time, to see some happiness again and not be so angrey, all i can say is that this wont ever go from your thoughts. but you learn to cope better.

(i'd send some hugs but my net is playing up, sorry)

RoarsomeMum
01-12-2009, 07:41
:hugs::hugs: I am sorry for the loss of your Son Blake. My Brother and sister inlaw had a stillborn baby girl in August last year. Both of them have found writing (blogs and diary's and poems and letters) to be very healing..

talking about loss is hard.. and they found that trying to talk to other people about it was uncomfortable and heartbreaking.. But they allow their blogs to be read by others and reading them helps keep us all in touch with how they are feeling.. as well as helping us to remember Hope and how beautiful she was, how important she is. Even without ever drawing breath.

Did the hospital give you a list of support services? If so, use them when you find the strength.. and do your very best to not shut your wife and children out of your grief.. :hugs:

thinking of you and your family.

TripleTime
01-12-2009, 08:11
From one Prem parent to another

:hugs:

kuddles
01-12-2009, 08:13
your story made me cry,and i cannot imagine your pain and suffering.
i'm sorry i cannot offer any advice but if you just want to vent, please,im all ears.
no parent should ever go through the loss of a child.
you must have so many questions,anger,frustration.i cannot imagine how your wife feels.
if i can hug the both of you,i will.if i could sit there and listen,i would.
thankyou for sharing your story with us.

:iagree:
She took the words out of my mouth and said everything I was thinking...

What a horrible horrible thing to face... I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through. How hard each day would be.
I hope you can find someway to continue on.
Have you thought about planting a tree? special garden?
:hugs:

2boybubs
01-12-2009, 08:36
Craig I am so sorry you and your family have been through something so awful. I had tears rolling down my face reading your story and although it has not happened to me and there is nothing I can say to take away your pain I wanted to let you know your in my thoughts and prayers...:hugs:

My husband's sister and her husband had a stillborn little boy 2 years ago at 32 weeks, it was such a dark time for them and no one really knew what to say or do to help. Its easier for friends and family to not discuss it, my mother and father in law were devastated and cried a lot for months afterward but didnt tell their daughter and her husband until recently, they thought it would upset them. My husband and I were a lot more affected than we let on as well, there was always a fear that we might make things worse. I couldn't speak about it without crying myself and I thought it might be a burden on them. Its important that you know Blake is special, loved, wanted, and will always be remembered even by those who avoid talking to you about him.

My sister and brother in law started counselling together and it helped their healing, and there is a support thread on here for those who have lost a baby or child that you may want to read. I wish all the best for you and your family. :hugs:

SomewhereOverTheRainbow
01-12-2009, 21:48
I'm so so sorry for your loss. :( :hugs:
The date of your sons birth is the same date our son was born sleeping last year.
Fly free with the angels baby Blake. :angel::hugs:

melbryan
01-12-2009, 22:03
So very sad to hear of your loss. I do not know what you must be feeling but remember time heals. It must be so hard at the moment, little Blake will always be in your herts and minds and by making a special box to keep everything of his will help you to let his memory live on physically as well as in your memories.
You're very right he was just too beautiful for this world.:angel:

overitand36
01-12-2009, 22:03
so sorry for your loss

we found great support through Sands Australia they can offer telephone and face to face help from people who have actually been though the same thing

talia11
01-12-2009, 22:49
What a terrible, sad story - I am so sorry for you loss. I don't have much advice for you but I hope that you have some good support around you for when you feel ready to talk about it. Such a sad, sad thing :(