thanks from "helpless"

[k&Hmum]

i just want to say thank you to everyone who replied to me. reading your messages really made me feel better and it was so nice to feel all of the support that you have given me. It got me thinking and i have made some arrangements for temporary care of Kiraleigh my mother is going to stay for a while whilst i look for work and have some ideas on childcare options now too. I have even applied for four jobs which i know im qualified for but probably wont get. It just seems so hard to reenter the workforce after being out for three years and having no references to back me up. The situation between roger and i is still bad but we will work through it for our daughters sake. I just need to get over the feeling of betrayal which i have no reason to feel as the other child was before i came along but i still wish id had the chice to decide to take this on rather then be told after we were committed to each other. And the fact that everyone knew before i did hurts too.To find out your fiancee has another child by strangers is hard to take. If he wasnt honest then how can i believe he is now?
Sorry once again for boring you all to death with my little problems but i guess i just didnt know where else to turn without being judged.
thanks again

Tracey

[Hokey Pokey]

Hi Tracey

I wish you all the best of luck with entering the workforce!

I'm so sorry to hear of the news you found out with your husband/partner. I would feel so hurt and betrayed too, you have every right to feel the same way. Has he explained to you why he kept it a secret? I mean, maybe he did have a genuine reason, not saying it gives him a right or anything?

Well I hope you guys can talk things through, sounds like you have a long road ahead and lots of things to sort out.

Lots of love

Kristy