very upset with partner at the moment...

[Josh&Avasmummy]

Im feeling very alone at the moment as my partner and i have been fighting alot this week about something that happened 2years ago.Not to go into too many details but my partner cheated on me 2years ago and the reason we are fighting about it is my sil is been her friend again. i had misscarriage when he left me and josh . Should i just get over it and get on with it.Since then we did get back together and now have daughter.:crying:

[bronny-jane]

i dont think you can just get over it, if its still a raw wound:no:
you need to talk about how your feeling and why, your not in the wrong, i doubt i'd ever forgive my dh if he cheated on me, let alone be able to fully trust him again

[veve]

I dont think I can offer any advice.. I haven't been there myself.. but things are always 'messier' when there are children involved..

I just wanted to send you a big :hugs: ... I do hope you sort it all out soon .. whatever the decision is .. :hugs:

xxx

[Baby Girl]

Your sister in law is not your partner so there should be no reason that she can't be friends with "that woman". I can understand your concern but he is your partner and he is not friends with her, his sister is.

Good Luck.

[Ana Gram]

You are fighting because his sister is friends with the person he cheated on you with?
Since he has no control who his sister is friends with, perhaps the real reason is that you haven't resolved your issues about him cheating.

[Kari_Adel]

You are fighting because his sister is friends with the person he cheated on you with?
Since he has no control who his sister is friends with, perhaps the real reason is that you haven't resolved your issues about him cheating.

I have to agree with Chelle. But I can understand how you would feel. :hugs: No-one has written a book (well not a good one hehe) on how to "get over it" and we all deal with these things in our own ways. I had a partner cheat on me (in a previous relationship) and convinced myself I could move on.. but if things that remind you of that event keep popping up its hard to forget. I doubt you're fighting with your DH about his sister being friends with this woman, maybe more because you are bitter as old feelings have been brought up due to knowing she's floating about. And being the "cheater" he'd be very defensive of his actions and would most likely be not taking your feelings seriously as he feels you are attacking his sister. Be careful.. it could get messy. :o If you can, sit down with him and tell him you really want to be able to move on from this.. but you've been hurt and having that woman hovering in the background makes it hard for you. You need to be on the same side to get through this.. not against each other.

I hope all settles for you soon. I dont think time heals all wounds.. the way you use that time does. :)

Kisses, Kari xo

[ashika]

:hugs:

I know you are angry at Dp but i think the one you should be really talking to is his sister and tell her that it upsets you about her being friends with that lady.
But if your Dp isn't dealing with this lady anymore you shouldn't worry too much.
Just talk to ur sil.

Hope I was of any help to you.

[Josh&Avasmummy]

Thankyou for all the replies my partner and i have sorted things out and hopefully this woman wont be a problem for us.:fingerscrossed:

[mum2bubba]

Im feeling very alone at the moment as my partner and i have been fighting alot this week about something that happened 2years ago.Not to go into too many details but my partner cheated on me 2years ago and the reason we are fighting about it is my sil is been her friend again. i had misscarriage when he left me and josh . Should i just get over it and get on with it.Since then we did get back together and now have daughter.:crying:

I have never been cheated on (hopefully never will be) so i don't know what advice I can offer, but as for your SIL still being friendly with this other woman, MY SIL is friendly with Grant's ex, and she thinks I don't know. :rolleyes: The only thing the two of you should do is go to councilling or something, I must admit, I'm not sure if I'd forgive Grant if he cheated, once a cheat, always a cheat in my opinion, even if I DID forgive him and he swore he'd never do it again, I would always be suspicious iykwim, anyway, Grant's ex cheated on him so he knows what its like. I hope things work out for you, do you get along with your SIL? Maybe you should speak to her about this, I have told my SIL how I feel (not that it matters because she is a compulsive liar anyway-long story) it annoys me coz she tells Grant's ex everything that goes on between us (being engaged, pregnanvy etc) stuff she doeesn't need to know, she is married to someone else for crying out loud :banghead:
Anyway, sorry to hijack your post, but I sort of know how you feel. :)