gender dissapointment with a girl?

[iMischa]

i'm curious to know how many woman who have experienced dissapointment was when they found out they were having a girl? it seems its ALOT more common to be disappointed over boys??

[SimplyMum]

Could this possibly be because this is a parent forum with majority of women and majority of women want the mother-daughter relationship/pretty girly girl dresses and stuff. I think there'd be more men that would prefer a son to carry on the name/play sports with etc etc

[CrankyAndTired]

I think it is culture related to some degree..

[Love is all you need]

Mischawonderland I definitely had it with DD, I wanted a baby boy so badly I didn't believe DD was girl (we didn't find out but everyone had been telling us it was a boy so some how got my hopes up!) so those first few moments were interesting and not that I would ever give up or wish my little princess was a boy but I desperately want a little prince.....

[Benji]

I think it is culture related to some degree..

That's what I think too.



When I had my newborn baby boy (btw I didn't even come close to having gender disappointment - I was just over the moon to be lucky enough to have a healthy baby) my XDP's family kept telling me how "lucky" I am that I had a boy because they are "easier".

XDP's mum was telling me that when her sons were teens and her sisters daughters were teens the girls were much more "difficult" to raise.

The stories she would tell me didn't sound to me like they were more difficult, just that they got in trouble for doing things that the boys did. I.e. interest in the opposite sex, bickering, fighting and whatnot.

I just think we're taught that girls are "*****y", "catty", "slutty" and "troubled teens".

Our society needs to get with the times!!

[Love is all you need]

I think with me, it was a case of my mum made a lot of stuff ups and I am so scared of doing the same with DD and yes Benji I got it all growing up "You girls are such pain in the a$$es I wish I had five boys"

[overitand36]

:iagree: with benji and the wifey re culture

some thing they are little gods NOT

and getting with the times what a great idea

[Skittles]

I have suffered GD this time around with a girl.....becuase i know how desperatly my DH wanted another son. Im stoked now as i get to buy more pretty little things. However i know that he is still holding onto the fact they could still be wrong.... 5 ultrasounds later :D

[Misheycat]

DH and I both really wanted a girl and got one. Eventually I would love #2 to be a girl also, but wouldn't be disappointed to have a boy either.

[sweetseven]

I have seven daughters and no sons, and have only had the occasional twinge.

#1 I had a childish preconception that older sisters were fat, so I wanted a boy first so that my daughter wouldn't be fat. (DH predicted early on she was a girl, and I trusted his intuition. I was happy to have a girl, and no she has never been fat.)

#2 DH insisted on finding out gender at scan. I really didn't like this and wanted a boy only to prove the sonographer wrong. I worked harder on the perfect boys name and my only disapointment was not getting to use it.

#3 happy either way

#4 I was afraid of having a boy. What would I do with such an alien creature?

#5 I expected another girl, and wanted another girl, but my mother insisted this one would be a boy. I had selected Daniel as this baby's male name, and every day, my mother would ask "So how's Daniel?" or greet "Hello Daniel". When she was born, suddenly Daniel was no more, and I felt like I was mourning the loss of a twin that never was.

#6 DP really wanted a boy, and I wanted to please him, but I was comfortable with girls and still afraid of the concept of a boy. When she was born I feared GD in DP, but didn't seem to have a problem.

#7 The pregnancy differred so I expected a boy. Also, as this was to be my last, I thought it would be nice to have a little boy running around. And, towards the end of the pregnancy started looking at toddler boys thinking, I could have one of those soon. She turned out to be another girl. Sometimes, when I see a really nice little boys outfit, or a young boy playing on a playground, I get the occasional regret that I wont experience having a son, but that is all.

[simba6]

I have a daughter this last time round,i desperatley wanted a boy, after loosing my last son. At the 20 week scan i found out i was having another girl,i should have been happy with anything and i was, but i still definately had that disapointment about having another girl. 4 scan later and i ended up with a boy anyways.

[iMischa]

7 daughters hehe wow! my dad used to complain about having 3 daughters alll the time before my brother came along now he says we were so much easier to deal with compared to him lol.

well i have 2 boys and i knew they would be boys even before we found out at the ultrasound...cant say i have experienced dissapointment when their sex was confirmed.

i will admit that when my sister comes over with her daughter *10 weeks older than my bug* i look at her pretty little dresses and dolls and her feminine little coo's she makes and i get that longing feeling for a daughter, but it doesnt make me wish the boys were girls...just makes me wish i had a girl as well.

[iMischa]

also, simba so very sorry to hear about the loss of your first son :( *hugs*

[Maybelline]

Very glad to have a girl...i see women with boys and they just seem to be exhausted!!!
of course if she was a he ..i would still love them to bits!!!!

[iMischa]

lol @ mabelline.

maybe i should request extra mothers day pressies then for double the work? haha.

[Kayangel]

Very glad to have a girl...i see women with boys and they just seem to be exhausted!!!
of course if she was a he ..i would still love them to bits!!!!

lol really? I always get comments about how quiet and gental my son is, i must be lucky.

To answer the OP, I didnt experience GD with my son and i wouldnt have if i had a girl, though for number 2 i have to admit i would love another boy. In the end though i would love to have atleast one of each gender there both so different it would be ashame not to experience and get to parent both genders.

[Areca]

Just butting in...it's my girls that exhaust me! Far out! But I think DD1 may be a boy in disguise. She's 4 on Thurs and we went shopping yesterday and she was cuddling my dad, stuck her finger out and he said 'what's this for?' and grabbed it and she farted. She's really lady like.

[MrsBeee]

I was disappointed, but really only for DH, as I know he really wanted a boy first, 'to get it out of the way'. He's the last son in his large extended family, so wanted another boy to 'carry on the name' and thought if it was a boy first, we wouldn't have to worry for any further kids. I was sure it was a boy, I think just because he wanted it so much. So I'm now glad we found out, because I think we both would have been disappointed to go on for another 20 weeks expecting a boy, to be handed a girl.
EVERYONE thinks we're having a boy, family, friends, work etc. So everyone else will be more likely to have GD!
But I think really it would have been the same if we'd totally been expecting a girl, and found out it was a boy. It's only that we were SO convinced (for no reason) that it was a boy thata it ended up being an issue!
Now I'm really happy it's a girl - girls clothes are so much cuter :cloud9:

[iMischa]

HMP- best of luck in getting a boy :)

[singa06]

I sort of wanted a girl first and when the OB said "Its a boy" I had to check between the little bubs legs to be sure! Yes, I was disappointed at first, but now wouldn't have it any other way (of course). Next time round I would actually love another boy (funny?), but would be happy to have one of each.

[SCORPIOGEMINI]

[QUOTE=sweetseven;4254046]I have seven daughters and no sons, and have only had the occasional twinge/QUOTE]

Just got to say you put that down so beautifully:thumbsup: I have 2 daughters whom I adore and was over the moon that I had another girl second time round, I loved growing up with 3 sisters.

Now that Im ttc bub #3 I thought it would be nice to get a boy, I do the same thing as you when I see a little boy I say 'gees it would be nice to give my daughters a little brother', the good thing about my husband is he treats them no different, he takes them fishing, plays computer games, kicks ball with them, I can go on and on, I have a wonderful husband, so if I end up with another girl, well let it be:yes: