Looking for a Surro angel to help us have a family

[Frozentissue]

Hi All

My story is long and a little sad, (I will post the blog that I have started).
The short story is that I had a complete hysterectomy at 22 (12 years ago) and my husband and I would like to start a family.
I have ovarain tissur frozen which would be used to create my eggs (another long story) so the child would be biologically ours.

I have spoken with my doctors and some councilors and a surrogate is the onlwat that I will be able to achieve having a baby of my own.
It is illegal in Victoria to pay your surrogate to carry the child for you but generally expected that you would meet all reasonable costs that you would be expected to pay if you were pregnant.
I am hoping that there are some angels out there who would be willing to help me in this journey.

The link as promised:
http://ourrollercoastertoparenthood.blogspot.com/


Thanks for reading this post:wave:

[jo-anne.36]

hello FT welcome b&H and you and me are on the some jounrey as each other

we have our surro mum we found her on hear i just want to say good luck and be patient your god sent will turn up soon :shakehands:jojo

[jo-anne.36]

hello FT just popped in to say hello and to see if you have had any luck yet :goodvibes:jojo

[Frozentissue]

Hi JoJo,


thanks for stopping by.
had a crazy week with work and this surrogacy ride is starting to take its toll at home. Did god really mean to make having a baby so hard.
I have raged all week over the injustice of it all and how unfair it is.
I would love for people to stop telling me that "god only gives you what he knows you can bere" or " what doesnt kill you only makes you stronger".
Please tell me how strong I am supposed to be
fractured spine at 15
face reconstruction at 17
endo
adenomyosis
multiple abdominal surgeries
a hysterectomy
and to top it off alopecia (lost all my hair)

I am only one person and quite frankly I thought that the first 2 were enough to test the strength of anyone.

Sorry to vent. But that feels great to get it off my chest.

I hope everyone else has had a better week than I have.

I am still here and still fighting and I will have a baby. It just has to be.

FT

[jo-anne.36]

hello sweet that is ok to vent thats what we are here for to lend a ear

and to what people say to you and to me and the rest of us is a bit of bull **** as i better it couple that all ready have children and i think they need to step in our shoe for a while to see have we feel
iam sorry to here that has happen to you if i could be surromom for you i would in a heart beat

christ your story is a bit like mne
but the only i have'nt had hysteromy sorry about the spelling
endo
pos
hubby has very poor sperm
and :yes:you will be a mum your surro:angel:will come along soon just hang in there mate do'nt give in :hugs::hugs:this the time last year when i was feeling the some as you our darling surro come along well it was new years day i still have the very first email we recived from sherrie and that was nealy a year ago we would have started by now but hubby losted his job as he got a hand injury and they sacked him well now his hand has heal at just a new job take care you can talk to me any time when you need to jojo

[Frozentissue]

Hi All,

I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas.
I thought I would give you a quick update.
I went to see our Specialist doctor just before Christmas and have some wonderful news. They are able to reimplant some of the ovarian tissue that I have frozen. This is a long process and it would possibly be next October to December until I have grown any eggs from the tissue, but all signs point to a positive outcome. My Dr. has been at a conference in Europe in early dec and there have now been 11 live births resulting from embryos created from reimplanted ovarian tissue.
The first hurdle for me will be the surgery to have the tissue reimplanted. As I have had multiple abdominal surgeries they are not sure of what my insides look like at the moment and how much scar tissue there is.
The other hurdle that will run concurrently with this surgery and the tissue starting to produce eggs, is that we need a surrogate to carry for us as a result of the hysterectomy I had at 22.
While these are fairly large hurdles I can not begin to tell you how excited I am that my dream of having a familly may not be the "pie in the sky" that it could be.
Well that is the great christmas news that I received and wated to share with you all. I will keep you all updated with any progress that I make as and when it happens.
If there is anyone out there in Bub Hub land that thinks they maybe able to help make my dream of being a mum come true I would be extremely happy to speak to you.
FT:fingerscrossed::flowerz:

[Myztiks#1Fan]

i cant help sorry but really wanted to wish you all the best in your TTC journey. i hope your angel comes along soon for you.

[pisces00]

Dear Frozen Tissue,

This is great news even if it seems like a very small chance its a chance you never thought you may have had. All i can say is never never ever give up and i applaud you and others in your situation for fighting for a chance to be a parent - something i myself take for granted from time to time. All the very best.

[skyla6161]

22 now and pregnant to our last bub that we would like to have.... i'd consider being a surrogate once i was finished having children, if i knew the family well enough and trusted their ability as parents.... good luck in your journey.

[Marzi]

FT, I just wanted to stop by and wish you the best of luck!
You will no doubt make an excellent mother!! I know this as those who have been on the long and painful path can truly see that If you put yourself through all this, then you are really going to appreciate the miracle at the end of it!
love and best wishes,
marzi xx

[ReneeRitaConnor]

i want to be a surrogate. atm though i am pregnant with my 2nd child.

Have you asked hospitals for some help in this area?

[cazzie07]

Just wanted to say goodluck.... I read your story and I really hope you find that special someone very soon :hugs:

[lotsofboys]

Hi Frozentissue

Just wanted to say goodluck with your journey. I am a mum to three very active boys and have finished having my family. I am in the early stages of looking into surrogacy. (so much information to go through:hair:)

Good luck :thumbsup:

[Frozentissue]

Hi Ladies,
Thanks for your kind words of encouragement.


i want to be a surrogate. atm though i am pregnant with my 2nd child.

Have you asked hospitals for some help in this area?
You are not able to have hospital, clinics or other organisations involved in sourcing surrogates or intended parents.


Hi Frozentissue

Just wanted to say goodluck with your journey. I am a mum to three very active boys and have finished having my family. I am in the early stages of looking into surrogacy. (so much information to go through:hair:)

Good luck :thumbsup:
Lots I would be very happy to talk with you further to let you know what I know currently. I would also be very happy to let you know what the councilors at my clinic are saying.

I am happy to share as much information as I am able to with everyone and hopefully find that special:angel: to help us.

Cheers
FT

[Logan&KodasMumma]

Hello,

Well.. haha don't know how to put this.

I would like to be a surrogate mother, I'm not pregnant, I have had two babies both boys and both are very healthy (well my youngest has a cold at the moment thanks to the bizarre weather)

I nearly started crying when I read what you have been through. PM me and we can have a chat about everything, and see what we can do :)

Bye for now

[jo-anne.36]

hello FT it been a while since i have posted in here and i want to say well that your DR sound good and i do kope that every thing go well and lk mum go on you keep trying to contact FT :shakehands:jojo

[starposs12]

Wow. What an inspirational woman you must be! I wish you and your husband all the luck in the world in finding a surrogacy mum xxx

[Frozentissue]

LKM

I dont think that I have ever smiled so much in a long time as when I read your post.
I will be in touch by PM tomorrow when I have time to formulate a proper message.
Just the thought that there may be someone willing to help or at least look into it with me is more than I could ever have dreamed.

[Logan&KodasMumma]

FT

Now you have me nearly crying again :)

I look forward to the message and discussing everything with you

:)

[Frozentissue]

Hi All,

I thought that I would let you all know where we are up too at the moment.

I have been back to the specialist this week and we are looking good to go. As some of you may know surrogacy is now legal in Victoria. It will be very interesting to see how the couples that go before us in the courts. I have also found out that there is an age requirement of the surrogate being at least 25.

I will be looking at having my ovarian tissue implanted in August. The doctor thinks that we would be able to have an egg pick up in Feb next year at the earliest. With a surrogate being implanted 6 months after that. I need to do more research into this so that I understand.

I had been speaking to a lovely lady about being our surrogate. I have not heard from here in a while so I am not sure where we are currently standing with this situation.

In speaking to the doctor and letting her know about this potential surrogate, she recommended that the surrogate ideally be located in the same state as us. While this is not a necessity she felt that we would be able to provide more support and maintain a higher standard of care knowing the full history of all parties.

I guess this makes sense.

This is where we are currently up too. I would love to speak to anyone who may be able to assist.

[jo-anne.36]

hello FT thanks for the up date well i do hope that you make contact with the lovely ladie :fingerscrossed: for all you guys take care :shakehands:jojo

[AnonySurrogateAngel]

Hi Frozentissue :)

I'm just wondering if you have found a potential surrogate yet? I can't send you a PM because I have not reached enough posts.

[Frozentissue]

:flowerz::goodvibes:bump:flowerz::goodvibes:

[Elvie]

Hi FT,

Your story truely is an inspirational one. You're obviously an incredible and strong woman, you just have to believe that things will come right for you. Good luck and hang on in there. :hugs:

[Frozentissue]

:flowerz::goodvibes:bump:goodvibes::flowerz:

[Frozentissue]

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[Frozentissue]

Hi my surro family,

I wanted to let you all know what has been happening in my world.
I went to my specialist last Tuesday (Melbourne IVF Clinic) to be advised that they have scheduled my surgery for August 24.
This surgery is to reimplant the ovarian tissue that I had frozen 13 years ago reimplanted into my abdomen to see if we can get some eggs to grow. If I am fortunate enough to have eggs develop I am one step closer to having a child that is biologically mine.
My doctor has repeatedly reminded me that this is not a 100% guarentee that I will have a child that is boilogically mne and that the only sure fire way at the moment is with donor egg or embryo. But how can you not try for the one thing you want more than anything else.
The next hurdle I have is to find a surrogate. To find that woman who will unselfishly help me reach my dream.
Well that is where I am at the moment.
I am happy to talk with anyone who may want some more information about where I am at in this process or where I have been I am happy to discuss.
Love, Hugs and Kisses to all following this thread.
FT

[lifes4living]

Wow FrozenTissue, I wish you the best of luck with your surgery, your courage should be applauded. :yelclap:

[hellosunshine]

Hi FT


Good luck and all the best for your surgery in august. Can u tell me who is your dr at MIVF?:angel:
I'll pray 4 u.

Sunshine

[mummykitty]

good luck! how is it all going? hope you are doing well and you find someone soon xoxox

[Shellen]

Hi FT,
Have been interested in your story but had to search to find your thread. How is every thing going?

[Frozentissue]

Hi to all my online family,

It has been a while since I posted.

I have been on the most amazing holiday to Jamaica. Such a long way to travel for a holiday, but what an amazing holiday I had.

I decided that I need to go on a relaxing holiday before I had my surgery. So to my surgery.

On Aug 24 I went in to the hospital to have some of my ovarian tissue reimplanted. The surgery went very well and I am recovering very well. The most exciting thing so far is that I have been off all HRT and I am having no hot flushes.
I will be going back to my specialist on Sept 15 so I will have more idea of where to from here.............so for now it is all good news and I am very happy.
I will let you all know what I learn when I see the dr in a few weeks.
:flowerz::thumbsup:

[flyingk8]

Hi FT,
I've been reading your thread & was wondering how everything's going?
My heart goes out to you & your partner for the long journey you are on & wish you all the best.

xx

[Frozentissue]

Hi All,
It has been a long time since I have posted and I apologise.
Most of you will know that I had my surgery in late August to have some ovarian tisuue reimplanted. While I was waiting for the rsults I have taken myself away from the forums for a while, I hope you all understand.
Now for the drum roll :smiliedance: :smiliedance: :smiliedance:
it worked. Yes it worked. The tissue has taken and is producing.
I will be trying to do an egg pick up through IVF in late March.
This means that I now am able to talk in real dates and not hypotheticals.
SO the search is on now. Looking for a wonderful person to help me make the Fairy Tale my dreams com true of being a Mum.
I am wishing you all a wonderful Christmas.
Cheers
FT:flowerz::flowerz::flowerz:

[jaydensmum]

Hi there, ive just been reading your thread and have been touched by the experiences you've gone through to have a child. Ive been thinking seriously about being a surrogate for a while now, it would be great to be able to help someone like you with a precious little miracle. I dont know much about it but it would be great to chat to you about it.

Im 25 and have 3 healthy children. Ill PM you now.

[Frozentissue]

Hi there

Thanks for you message. I got your PM and replied.

I will be seeing the councilor in the next week so I will be able to give you all more information on the way forward from here.
I am hoping to be able to create embies in March and start the surrogacy journey not long after that.
I will let you all know how I go.
FT:flowerz::flowerz:

[sophie11]

How exciting FT!! I was wondering how you were going! Everything crossed for you here!!!:hugs:

[angelbabytobe]

hi FT :wave:

Just wondering how your journey has come along since your last post.... I hope everything has gone for the better for both you and your DH...

angelbabytobe