teaching 2 1/2 yo how to deal with bullies/aggresive kids

[lizzymcfizzy]

hi

My 2 1/2 yo girl and I go to playgroup regularly, there is alot of boys in the group, mainly the same age or older.

They can be quite bossy and snatch toys or scream and yell when they don't get their own way.

How do I teach her to deal with these outbursts? It often makes her scared, cry and come to me.

If I catch a boy (or girl for that matter) take a toy from DD I give it back to her and tell him to wait his turn. Same if she takes something off someone else.

But then the boy might scream and yell like a lion so loud it scares me too! the mother goes "oh he's just asserting himself"!!! :hair: he needs to learn some boundries IMHO.

Do I tell her to yell back at him? Ignore him and go play with something else?

Same as when the boy won't share a big toy with her or muscles in on something she is playing with and screams at her to go away.

At 2 years old should she be standing her ground?

I don't want her being a doormat but I don't want her to be aggresive either.

what to do??

[made2bAmummy]

we have experienced similar things and to be honest I stopped going as my DD gradually withdrew to the point where she would sit on my lap the whole time we were there.
If she seems unhappy or really stressed by the situation I would stop going until she is older. Unless she is really enjoying the experience why put her through it? She's so little!

[lizzymcfizzy]

hi

she enjoys herself there most of the time. I would definately stop going if it made her withdraw, it wouldn't be worth going.

[codswallop]

i had this with Aby(now at times she is a bit of a rough nut )i just would say to both kids NO we must share and tell Aby its ok you are alowed to play
and remember to always use your good manners and ask nicely or never push Aby(found toodlers often respond better to over hearing then being told)

[Poppetfish]

My son is 2 and a half also. He has ASD and HATES it when other children touch him or get rough. I have just taught him to walk away.:yes: This way he is learning that he doesn't have to fight or get aggressive and it is not worth getting upset over.

He used to just scream or punch the other kid in the face.

[ManekiNeko]

I tell the children that they can both share and help them either take turns or play with the said toy together.

[lizzymcfizzy]

bump.