Rubyzz
16-11-2009, 00:37
Does anyone else besides me feel like chopped liver when it comes to the FOB. Honestly you know it would be nice (ok idealistic maybe) to think if you were on a burning ship and there was only room for him and the kids or you and the kids a man would put a woman first but I have to tell you right now with FOB I know he would jump into the life raft with the kids and say every man for himself bye!!
Im having a real problem getting my head around FOB treating me not like Im not even a person. I posted a thread a few days ago saying Ive sent my child off to him so I could finally get a break before I had a melt down and NOW he is saying things like Oh you cant cope maybe I should have her full time...WTF! For the first time in 19months Ive asked him to help me and he knows Im a nervous wreck and he just had to drive the screws in. Does he actually want me so far down that his daughter hasnt got her mum around at all. Honestly what is going on in a mans head that he would want the mother of his child to at least be happy and well for his child.
Im losing it with this sort of treatment and ok he isnt responsible for me, but kicking me when Im down is not called for.
Unfortunately my coping levels have diminished as Ive been worn down and Im starting to think he likes it like that. Grrrrr:banghead:
Oh he also mentioned that he doesnt want to take her on weekends otherwise he doesnt get to have a life!!!!! but cant take her during the week.......how can one person be so self involved and selfish. Oh but he of course misses her and wishes he could be there for her more.....mens logic??? More like make it up as you go to suit yourself....
Im having a real problem getting my head around FOB treating me not like Im not even a person. I posted a thread a few days ago saying Ive sent my child off to him so I could finally get a break before I had a melt down and NOW he is saying things like Oh you cant cope maybe I should have her full time...WTF! For the first time in 19months Ive asked him to help me and he knows Im a nervous wreck and he just had to drive the screws in. Does he actually want me so far down that his daughter hasnt got her mum around at all. Honestly what is going on in a mans head that he would want the mother of his child to at least be happy and well for his child.
Im losing it with this sort of treatment and ok he isnt responsible for me, but kicking me when Im down is not called for.
Unfortunately my coping levels have diminished as Ive been worn down and Im starting to think he likes it like that. Grrrrr:banghead:
Oh he also mentioned that he doesnt want to take her on weekends otherwise he doesnt get to have a life!!!!! but cant take her during the week.......how can one person be so self involved and selfish. Oh but he of course misses her and wishes he could be there for her more.....mens logic??? More like make it up as you go to suit yourself....