I never thought it will happen to me..

[timogirl]

Hi my name is Pina and this is my first time here. I will be married for 2 years next month to my wonderful hubby Damien. We have been trying to conceive since our honeymoon night and saw our GP 6 months ago to find out if we had any probs. She then referred us to the Infertility unit at RPAH. Today we found out that my tubes may be blocked and that I have to do IVF if we want a baby :crying: . The nurse is calling me tomorrow to book an interview. I don't know weather to cry or be happy that we have another option. I just read through the IVF info booklet and the process seems so daunting and I am so scared that I won't be able to fulfil my lifelong wish to have a baby. I am 28 and the eldest of 3 children. My husband is 30 and the eldest of 8 children. We are starting to get the questions about when we are going to have children and I can't tell anyone about our situation. I really feel like a 'failure' that I cannot conceive naturally. :gloomy: I am really trying to be optimistic and I think that being on this forum will help me out a lot and just reading the other threads - I am starting to be a little more optimistic and positive that eveything will be ok.

I hope to learn from other women out there who have similar experiences so I don't feel so alone.

Thanks for reading my story and I look forward to hearing from you guys as I go through my IVF process.

Cheers,

Pina :wave:

[kirra_bodhi]

Hi Pina,
welcome to the site, you will find a lot of great help and info on here i know i have.
My name is Jacqui and I have been going through IVF for the last 1.5 years. I found the hardsest part of the whole ordeal is dealing with the fact you have to go through IVF. once you have dealet with that it makes the rest a lot easier.
No one will think you are a failure, my friends and family all know we are going through it, just makes it a lot easier and you then don't have to put up with everyone saying so when are you going to have a family etc etc.
But do what you think is best, you will have everyone on this site to help you get through it and answer any questions you may have.
good luck for tomorrow when the nurse rings you back, I am going through Repromed in Adelaide and they gave me a dvd to watch about the whole IVF procedure which helped understand the whole process.
talk to you soon keep smiling:kiss:
keep smiling

[heart]

Hey Pina/Timogirl, yes it is a daunting time, and very natural to feel this way, we are all in the next thread (First Cycle....so join us all there) we are here to support and understand. All our journeys are unique and we all feel the array of emotions going through IVF, see it as an option to create your dream. i do. I have been on 2 cycles thus far and not giving up, i know deep down we will have children, like you i love my DH (darling husband) and to be able to have children is just the natural progression of life right. see you on the other thread, sweetie

you are not alone, this is a great forum for all of us.. :hugs:

[Tonysgirl]

Hi Pina:wave:

Welcome hun.I can understand that everything is so daunting but as Jacqui said the hardest part is having to deal with the fact that you have to have IVF .You have only just learnt that today so give youself and Damien time to take that in.

You have lots in your favour - you are young and most importantly sound like you have the great support of a loving husband.You are not a failure - you have done nothing wrong.What you are doing is turning your situation around and looking at the other option. I have done 2 cycles ( so far ) and although everyone has different experiences I found it was nowhere near as scary as I thought.Just take a step at a time and deal with things as they happen.Make sure you ask all the questions you need to of the nurses and your doc and it will make it less daunting.

When ever people ask me ( who dont know we are doing IVF) when are we going to have children I just say we are trying and please pray for us ( I have lots of religious relatives so that always shuts them up!!).
You might want to confide in a close friend or family member for some more support - dont be ashamed of that.And all the girls on these IVF threads are wonderful support - especially since they will understand exactly what you are going through (whereas friends and family may not).

Good luck hun and please keep as posted on your progress. I wish you all the luck in the world,

Donna
xx

[Cian's Mum]

Hi timogirl and welcome to Bub Hub...

Just to let you know that you are not alone ....
Dh and I tried many years to have a BB before we found out that we had to go through IVF ... a big shock , specially for DH ...
You are not a failure at all .. if we go through IVf it's because we need it ...
we have no other choices ...

We are very welcome to join this thread :"First IVF Cycle in a Few Days Part 2".
You will find lots of other Ladies in your position ... who started the treatment or not yet ...
I hope that will help you ... take care .

[SuperWoman]

Hello Timogirl, :wave:

Please do not think of yourself as a failure. My DH and I went through the same feelings and it really isnt anyones fault, so dont put the blame on you.

We started trying for a baby 2 months before our wedding in Oct 2001. We decided to get tested for infertility issues 2 years later and started IVF. We did 6 cycles of IVF and are now blessed with our baby boy who is 7 months and 3 weeks old. Dreams do come true hun, we are lucky that IVF is around and we are able to use it.

Come and join the IVF thread that Beatrice mentioned.:hugs:

[timogirl]

Hey guys,
Thank you so much for your replies and support. Just reading your posts has already uplifted me! :) I am already over the sadness and realise that there is so much I have to be grateful for like many of you have mentioned.
I have told my sister who is currently in Scotland and my cousin and I do feel better telling someone.

Thanks once again for your support and friendship!

I will be thinking of you who are waiting for pregnancy tests :fingerscrossed: and going through another cycle. :hugs:

Thanks for the thread - I look forward to chatting to you all on there.

Cheers,
Pina

[leebubs2bee]

Hello Pina,

Welcome to this forum. I have been on this now for only two days and already I feel there is so many women with so many questions but also soooo many answers.

I too have both my tubes blocked which was diagnosed in May06 and now we have had to start IVF.
My journey began when we started trying almost two years ago and when I was diagnosed with PCOS we were shattered. Like you, I felt like a failure and thought I'd been punished as I chose to have a currette when I was only 17.

I do no deep down I made the right choice and it was the best choice as i have since travelled the world and now met the best man in the world. We did months on end of clomid as i was not even having a period. I now get them monthly but have long cycles, but atleast I am regular now.

I guess I was a little anoyed when I could have found this out in Oct last year but ha! you can't dwell on what you can't reverse. I do believe things happen for reasons and as I have always wanted to married before we start a family, we married in Mar06 and believe now it will happen.

The best thing I got out of the whole knowing what's wrong, is atleast you know. many women have no idea which can make it all much harder to except.

I have become so strong through this journey and in time you will know what I mean. The way I look at it and tell myself every day, you can't afford to stress on things you have no control over. As hard as it is, be open as much as you can be and believe me it's helped me as I am one of 6 and out of 6 only 2 are left to have kids. It's best that way as you will stop all those people asking personal questions.
You don't have to be too open and tell them everything just the main part.
For the others who don't really know you both that well, don't tell them anything....just say.....when nature takes it course! or when I am blessed the way you were (If they have kids that is) That may seem harsh but they will think twice asking the next person that question.

In this day and age many people assume women will all have children, I just feel bad for all those unfortunate people who can never or have chosen not too! Having children is mistaken and it's everyone own choice.

Sorry I am rattling on but it astounds me that people can quickly judge, can't they.

You just stay focused on what seems right for you and hubby. Stay happy and remember your not alone sweety......We both I am sure will be chatting very soon discussing pregnancy or baby strategies together.

Keep strong and my fingers/toes are crossed for everyone, icluding you Pina!

Good night, i must get some sleep......another dose of syranel in the morning.....gee that taste **** when it trickles down your throat!

Our next appointment is for Friday for bloods to determine when we start the injections....we are excited but being open minded. If it does not happen this time, perhaps the next......Can't wait for parent hood!:ecomcity: