Mr Kindy No friends

[hippee]

Howdy ladies...
Ds5.5 is in kindy and is a lovely natured kiddo yet seems to have no friends to play with at recess and lunch. Whats going on with that? He likes all the boy stuff and is a good looking kid, meaning he's not smelly or have cooties, so I don't see the problem.. Did anyone elses kids take time to bond to a group?

[Elfin]

Yes it can take a while to bond but it must be breaking your heart Hippee in the meantime.

Maybe just talk to the teacher and see if there is anything going on at school. The teacher might be able to help your son team up with someone or encourage play with other children which could kickstart some friendships.

I also think it is good to have some playdates outside of school as this can build friendships. I hope things work out well for him:)

[Angelmist♥]

Hi hippee, My DS1 was a bit like this at the start of Grade 1 and I was starting to get really sad.It turns out that it's not that they didn't like him,they were already playing and he wouldn't butt in.I told him to just ask the kids if he could play too and now he's Mr popular (:laughing: ha ha even with the girls!!).

Maybe as Elfin said, have a chat to the teacher about it and see what he/she says.And maybe have a chat with him about joining the group or asking someone to play with him.

[hippee]

it does break my heart to hear of him playing alone, the one time I he did pluck up the courage the boy he asked said "no" :eek:
Poor kid. I am signing him up for little atheletics next month so we'll see how he goes with that, hopefully he will get some pals there.
My poor baby!!:kiss:

[Elfin]

Good luck with Little Athletics, your ds will love it and might give him some confidence. But do have a word to the teacher I am sure she can help with the friendships, it can't hurt anyway.

[Little Gorilla]

it does break my heart to hear of him playing alone, the one time I he did pluck up the courage the boy he asked said "no" :eek:
Poor kid. I am signing him up for little atheletics next month so we'll see how he goes with that, hopefully he will get some pals there.
My poor baby!!:kiss:

hi hippee,
my partner's 6 year old daughter is also going through exactly what you have described.
poor wee thing was telling me about it on the weekend - she only has one friend and sometimes that one friend goes and plays with the other "mean" girls.
I asked her what she does at little and big lunch and she said "oh, nothing, just sit bymyself" - after she had gone, I bawled my eyes out - its heartbreaking isn't it.
she is the kindest, sweetest girl in the word - wouldn't step on an ant.

[hippee]

Thats like my son, sometimes I think he is too nice for his own good.:hugs:

[suemp]

my son is a loner too. he is quiet and gets put off joining those already playing he just stands back and watches. never gets invited to parties. it hurts.

[NZMama]

My DD was like this when she started kinda here. The children in her kinda had already established friends and seperated into groups and there was my child at mat time sitting right at the back of the mat. So far at the back of the mat in fact that she was nearly under the table :(
Luckily one of the mother helpers noticed this and one day when I was kissing DD goodbye she came and took her hand and led her to the mat 'Hello J how are you....how about we sit over here O have you met Jordyn?' that sort of thing. By the end of the week she was little miss popular.
She was lovely and I was really greatful for her taking the initiative to involve my shy child. Perhaps this could happen with your DS? Maybe he just needs an icebreaker?

[sarah81]

Could you invite one of the children from his class over for a play? That may help him be included in the group at school if he had a friend that is part of the bigger group. Hope he finds some lovely friends soon :hugs: