found out about proposal.. oops..

[bumMum]

eeep I just found out accidently the other night that dp is planning on proposing to me at xmas and that he has been paying bit by bit for a ring this year... ??? how did i not know? lol


feel bad for knowing but oh well...

i never thought I would get married. my parents dont beleive in marriage. cant be bothered going into why. but they don't. plus the people in my family who are or were married are unhappy/divorced.

I guess over time I have convinced myself that I do not beleive in marriage either. silly as it seems, I thought maybe there is no such thing as forever, and it is dilusional to beleive otherwise. the thing is I'm a bit older now and I am happy as can be (mostly) lol.. I can't imagine being with someone else. I feel no regrets. no pangs of "im so young, and I haven't had the chance to hunt around"... I enjoy family life as it is and we have already been through so much together. so now I think, well, maybe I do beleive in marriage. maybe WE will live happily ever after. so far so good anyway.. :)

but the thing is, does marriage change anything? what does it actually mean? I am not religious. my partners family is very catholic and I would imagine we would get married at the family parish.. which I would not imagine being the type of wedding I would have... but at the same time, if it meant something to him to do, I would actually do it. for him.

does anyone else have any advice? what does marriage mean to you? why did you get married?

dont get me wrong, it is exciting. mostly because it is a huge surprise to me!

[Jess988]

Wat happened? Did he pop the question

[ChelsLuke]

Ohhh how did it go?

MArraige to me didnt change anything only cos we already had a child and were living together in a marraige like relationship. It just helped us have all the same surnames. To me then it was a piece of paper.

Now i enjoy it i love the idea of being the wife and my husband. I also intend on renewing my vowels for our 10 yr anniversary. Its a different feeling once you are married. I understand hwo you feel.

But not all marriages are miserable, you need to work on it. Now days too many peope get divorced because its convient. Have you seen the austar ad, about a wedding with a no lock in contract being free to leave whenever. I think this is why marraiges fail. People assume the second they are unhappy its over, theres no room to fix things. If this is how you feel i agree marraige isnt for you. If you want the freedom to leave whenever you please.

But if you want to keep an everlasting union, one which involves effort and work, and a committment to work through pretty much everything (not everything can be worked though i know this) then go for it. Try an engagment and then after 12months or so see how you feel about marraige.

[Seacretsquirrel]

Ooh ooh ooh did he do it did he do it :smiliedance:

I love being a Mrs we have been married 4 years and we too have had our moments as all couples do and I agree with ChelsLuke it takes work and too many people seem to bail at the first hiccup. I think we see the blissfully happy movie marriages and think that this is what it is like all the time (it would be nice if that was the case) but in reality people have flaws and faults no one is perfect all of the time and you can't expect to agree on everything all the time and that is where compormise come in.

I think for DH and I it was something that was important to us and important to do before we had kids adn I am still pleased we did it that way around. My parents have been married for 35years in March and DH's for 20yrs so I guess we have both had that as a role model which I think in this day and age is fairly unusual.
We did a very small wedding in a park near the reception venue and are very happy with that decision (we are not religious either) and though it didn't really change anything relationship wise it was nice to have that sense of permanence. I see it as cementing our relationship and that it makes you work that little bit harder during the tough times because you are married - I know this isn't the case for a lot of people and it is just my opinion but before you are married it is "easier" to pull the pin and leave.

:smiliedance: for you.

[Yummy_Mummy]

i think you ladies might like to read this :)
http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=311962

[bumMum]

hehe
yes he did do it.
and i am totally happy :)

[ChelsLuke]

:smiliedance::hugs: Congrats hun Im glad to hear it.

[Nomsie]

Congratulations :D

[2girls&1angelboy]

Congratulations!

[bumMum]

:):):):):d

[mum2ethan]

Congrats!!!! How exciting! Did he know that you knew?

[bumMum]

naw he knew i suspected it i think cos i was so excited to open my xmas present. but then i started to doubt it also cos he tricked me!!! the box he wrapped it in was a long lavender soap box grrrr... when i opened it and thought he gave me soap i went :confused::confused::confused:
tee hee but the real ring was in there. i started to cry bahaha

[SuperGranny]

Aint he a sweetie, how clever. Congrats, and best wishes, what a nice way to start the New Year. Marie.