Anyone else still waiting...

[lucysummers]

to...ahem.....do the deed since bubs has been born.

I'm BFing and when I went for my 6 week check I was given a script for the mini-pill. At that point I didn't think I'd be feeding for very long so never got it filled thinking I would wait until I'd stopped feeding and go back on the normal pill.....

I am now at the stage where I am thinking of feeding until February time....hhmmm.....don't think i can let DH wait that long!!!

I could just go and get the script filled but something seems to be stopping me and I don't know what.

I think part of it is being worried about falling pregnant again. 2 is absolutely it for us and it would not be good news if I fell again....we struggled to conceive DD and ended up with fertility treatment but fell naturally with DS so there is always the chance that I could conceive naturally.

Sorry.....I'm rambling...just wondered if anyone else was in the same boat.

[kuddles]

No sorry we started up when DS was about 3 months.
My Best Friend held off until 6 months for the same reason as you though.

[Butterflyqld]

Hi
Sorry to jump into your thread. My son was born in August. I, to have a script for the mini pill but haven't got it yet. When do you start taking it. I haven't got my period yet and I always thought you had to wait for the first day to start. Both of my sons were conceived through fertility treatments. But it could happening naturally I know. My husband and I started around 6 weeks after the birth of DS2.

I am also breastfeeding.

[Ushas]

Hubby and I haven't DTD since bub was born and he was 6 months yesterday. It's got nothing to do with fear of getting preggy or contraception issues. Frankly I wouldn't mind if I did as I am old now and waiting a year or so isn't an option really. But I had 3rd degree tearing with bub and stitches inside and out. When I went for my six week check and she was having a look down there it really hurt, so I've stupidly got it in the back of my head that it will be very painful... so that's why... Although it's fine now really... but my head jsut keeps saying OUCH!

[kazza76]

We waited till about 4 weeks after we had our bubs. I know it seems soon, but we were pretty active (like 3/4 times a week) before we had him, We are now down to about once a week. Though I had a mirena put in three weeks ago so it's off limits thanks to the lovely sideeffects of it (NOT)

We just used protection before as we didn't want an accident.

[Herchy]

Whoops... we were back into it 2 weeks after giving birth. LOL I was lucky and didn't have any issues at all though.
With DS I had 2 tears and we waited until 5 weeks.
I don't want anymore kids. I haven't filled the mini pill either. I have not been taking any contraceptives but we have been using some protection.
I'm still BFing, but in the process of weaning so I guess I'll probably just go back on the standard pill when we've completely finished.
oh and I just got AF back on Sunday.

[GoldLeader]

we dtd 2 weeks after ds was born because he was born by c/s otherwise it would have been sooner. DD was 5 days later :o. We used condoms both times until I could go back on the full pill because we don't trust the mini pill.
I think how long you wait is up to you and your partner. For us, it is a very important part of our relationship and happens every day (and never feels like a chore even though we may be very tired). Other people don't have this and must think we are mad...each to their own.
My sister had major tearing and they waited 6 months. Her partner was very understanding and their relationship is better for waiting because she never felt any pressure which could have caused lifelong issues. She was fully healed well before then of course, but she was not emotionally ready. I on the other hand was emotionally ready straight away. It was not like I really needed it physically, but it is important to me emotionally.

You should talk to your partner and figure out where you are both at. There is no deadline except the one we impose on ourselves.

[kuddles]

We waited till about 4 weeks after we had our bubs. I know it seems soon, but we were pretty active (like 3/4 times a week) before we had him, We are now down to about once a week. Though I had a mirena put in three weeks ago so it's off limits thanks to the lovely sideeffects of it (NOT)

We just used protection before as we didn't want an accident.

Sorry I was talking to my Dr and he suggested Mirena and I was just wondering what you think about it? Feel free not to answer if you don't feel comfortable with it.

[2pink 1on way]

We DTD 3 weeks after as i had no issues after the birth.

i got the mirena put in 6 weeks after the birth and it is great so far its been 3 1/2 months that i have had it in now. I got cramping on the day it was put in and spotted for 3-4 weeks after it was put in and since then i havent noticed it and havent had a period and have not fallen pregnant which is the important one, so, so far i love it.

[kazza76]

Kuddles, I am getting mine taken out tomorrow. Don't let that put you off though. It's just not for me. I seem to be having some sort of bad reaction to it, I'm not spotting, for me it's like CD1 or CD2 every day. So very heavy flow. Plus the cramps floor me, it's like I am in labour all over again. But I know quite a few people that have had it in, cramped and spotted for a couple of days and have had nothing since. No AF nothing and swear by it. I think the concept of the Mirena is fantastic, it's just not agreeing with me.

[Jaspat24]

i think we dtd about 8 weeks after. I got a script for the mini pill and started taking it but i kept forgetting to take it and we don't dtd very often anyways and now DS is 7 months we're just seeing what happens.
We're going to TTC actively after Christmas and when my period returns.
In regards to the Mirena, my friend had one and it didn't work out for her either, she got heavy long periods and just felt yuck. you can always get it taken out if its not working out for you.

[Sheer Bliss]

I think the twins were about 9 or 10weeks old when we took the plunge. It was more out of tiredness and opportunity than anything else though. :p With twin newborns, a 2yo and 4yo there always seems to be one of them in our bed or wanting our attention!

With my first we waited until 8weeks, I was petrified, but it was all good. So with DS it was only 3-4weeks, long enough for a second degree tear to heal.

[lucysummers]

Thanks for all the replies......looks like I'm certainly in the minority. Had a chat to DH last night a bit about it.....Like you CM it has a lot to do with opportunity. DH is a 'morning' person and I'm more of an 'evening' person!!..Mornings just aren't happening at the moment with never knowing when DD will wake or DS will come running through!!!!

I was dreamfeeding up until a few weeks ago so DH was always going to bed before me whilst i was expressing and now I've dropped that DD has started waking a bit earlier so I'm shattered by 9!!!!

Fortunately we have never been massivly regular so it isn't a sudden change!!

Am sure we will fit it in sometime soon!!!! ;)