View Full Version : What a terrible mother I am....
sharonnscotty
10-11-2009, 18:03
OMG what a terrible mother I am... DS of 6weeks fell out of his baby capsule today as I was moving it to buckle him in, and landed forehead first on tiles.... The ambulance guys came and gave him the all clear, DH came home from work early. I feel so very very terrible and sooo sad. When he hit he didnt move for a second, and then only screamed for a minute then was fine. He has a small egg and thats it. I just feel so very very guilty. The poor mite. It happened just after lunch. What should I watch for ?? I was going to go to the hospital for a check, but he seems fine, drinking his bottle fine, looking around, gooing etc. OMG i feel bad :no::crying:
Taylors_mum
10-11-2009, 18:11
if the ambulance gave him the all clear then he should be fine :yes:
Try not to beat yourself up over it...these things happen :hugs::hugs::hugs:
MermaidSister
10-11-2009, 18:12
If the ambos gave you the all clear i wouldn't worry. You will laugh about this later. Babies are so much more ready for survival in the big bad world than we give them credit for!!
If it helps u feel like less of a "bad mum", let me tell u about my son's tumble down the stairs when he was about 8 months...we'd just moved to a new house and i guess i didn't realise how mobile he was. The massive bump on his head that terrified me, but a nurse friend of mine said only to be concerned if he fell asleep at any time (when he normally wouldn't) and couldn't be roused. Of course it didn't happen. Or the time i left the pram for a moment on the back step without setting the brake and turned around to see him face-plant into the garden dirt. Or the time i woke up to hear a thump as he landed on the floor at about 3 weeks of age, because i'd fallen asleep feeding him and he just tumbled right off the couch.
We are all "bad mothers". Or...just human?
4OnEarth1InHeaven
10-11-2009, 18:23
Just Human i say! Don't beat yourself up, you did all the right things in calling the ambulance.
Myztiks#1Fan
10-11-2009, 18:29
these things happen. one time i was just going out and i had to close my gates so left coop in his pram on the grass and his pram toppled over and he fell out(wasnt buckled in as he was quite young and it was never something i really ever thought about. dont hate yourself over this as your only human :hugs:
HollyHotLips
10-11-2009, 18:38
Why do you feel bad? I'm sure you didnt do it on purpose!! :confused:
JimJamsMum
10-11-2009, 18:45
It was obviously an accident so don't beat yourself up about it. FWIW, just before I read this I found DS2 had moved on the lounge and had his head hanging over the edge just about to fall.
DH dropped DS1 down the stairs when he as a tiny baby.
My kids are fine and I'm sure yours will be too.
BTW, it's normal to feel bad about it, but kids are tougher than we give them credit for.
Did you know a woman in India gave birth on the toilet of a train recently, and the newborn fell through the toilet and landed on the tracks and nothing was wrong with him! They are pretty hardy little things :D. Don't beat yourself up over it though, it was an accident.
If if makes you feel better, when DS was 5 weeks, I was breastfeeding at the kitchen breakfast bar, and he flung his head back and hit the bar :eek: He was screaming and I felt terrible, but all was good. It happens to the best of us.
Boobycino
10-11-2009, 19:06
When bub was 4 months old I was on the mobile while putting him in the pram and sat him in, then went behind the pram to sit it up, pushed the seat back up and Jasper just rolled head over heal out of the pram onto the tiles.
Feel any better?
We all do 'bad' things. Its because where sleep deprived humans who make mistakes.
A friend set me at ease about that when she shared that the day after her daughter was born she fell asleep with her in bed in hospital and her bub rolled out of bed and landed head first on the floor - she said she felt like a bad mum when her 1 day old daughter needed her skull x-rayed :rolleyes: Her daughter was perfectly fine.
Should see what Jasper does to himself on a daily basis now. There is never a time he doesn't have at least one bruise on his forhead.
Oh, and this cracked me up, my bestfriend since primary school has a teeny tiny scar on the side of her nose, I only really noticed it because I'd known her for like 8 years... and I thought to mention it... and she didn't know what it was either, she'd never really noticed it because it had always been there - so she asked her mum and turned out her mum turned her back for a second and she rolled off the change table. Hahha - funny now... not so funny then I'm sure.... funny now because I kept saying "what, were you dropped as a baby or something" to her - of I thought I was funny :D
Theophania
10-11-2009, 20:38
I know just how you feel when my son was younger I used to take him into bed with me in the mornings when DP went to work, he fell out of bed one morning and I rang my mum in hysterics feeling so terrible and saying I was a shocking mother etc lol. My mum said to me that most women you speak to would have had something like that happen to them and to calm down lol.
Its true though most people you speak to will admit that at some point they have had an accident. Don't feel bad. My son is now almost 10 months and the other day he had a shocker as he is starting to walk and he fell and hit his head 3 separate times through the day ( I also have tiles) I got scared then as well but he was fine :)
How frightening for you. That must have been horrible to go through. I hope you are both ok now...
bubbasmum
10-11-2009, 21:03
:hugs::hugs:
The other night, i took noah into my bed to give him a feed when he woke in the middle of the night. Was taking him back to his bed and as I was walking out the door...THUD...I had completely misjudged the doorway and wacked noah's head into it.....he wasnt impressed....He also fell off the bed the other night when I turned for a split second to get a new nappy...and then theres the time he stood in the bath and I didnt hover and he slipped and wacked his chin so hard it bled oh and the other night he actually fell into the bath from outside of it head first and bled profusely from the mouth for like 15 minutes.....we all have awful moments like this, it doesnt make us bad mums, it makes us human....It is a terrible feeling but you cant beat yourself up about it or you'll go insane, glad your bub is ok :)
sharonnscotty
11-11-2009, 09:14
Thanks sooo very much for your stories,,,, we are just fine now but the initial shock was awful, i was shaking like leaf and crying, he was just sooo still and small lying there for the instant split second.... that brief crying was sooo good to hear !!
LOL some of the stories made me chuckle and I am sure that when he starts to crawl/walk there will be plenty more bumps to come.
(now the buckles will be done up as soon as he goes in, even if I have to get down on my hands n knees to do it !!)
TripleTime
11-11-2009, 10:19
Babies are tuff nuts!
One night back in the early days, i was feeding DD2 & fell asleep with her on the lounge. Relaxed in my sleep & she rolled off the lounge onto her bean bag.
DS has gotten suck under the coffee table, entertainment unit & gotten his foot stuck between the cushions on the lounge.
DD1 has gotten her feet stuck in the bars of her cot.
2sweetgals
11-11-2009, 10:53
I know you feel terrible about it now, but rest assured he will do much more terrible things to himself as he grows, and you will realise just how tough they are :D
When DD1 was 4mo I left her on our bed, left the room for 10 seconds & came back to her crying on the floor. Told the doctor about it at our scheduled check-up & he told me how his baby was in the pram, unbuckled, started to roll down stairs & bub flew out & landed head-first on the concrete step...not even a bruise!
Was taking him back to his bed and as I was walking out the door...THUD...I had completely misjudged the doorway and wacked noah's head into it.....he wasnt impressed....
I did the exact same thing to DS a few weeks ago. Poor kid. :(
I think every Mum has had a shocker at some point. Sleep depravation will do that to you.
When my DD was about 6 weeks old, I managed to let her roll off my feeding pillow as I was changing breasts during one of her night feeds. She fell off the couch that we were sitting on & landed straight on her head . She screamed for a while as my hubby tried to settle her, then she was fine. I blubbered about how stupid I was and how I'd never forgive myself if there was any damage done. She was fine.
They're tough little buggers. Look at the baby who's pram rolled in front of that train a few weeks ago. They're very 'user friendly', thank goodness.
I had moments with both of mine! My son was only about a month old, and we put him in the crease of the lounge once, the cushions had a slight upward angle to them so we thought yep, can't go anywhere, he can't roll, the cushion is up so he isn't going to accidentally slide off, he's right back low in the crease of the lounge (between the cushions and the back). So off I go to heat up a bottle, and I hear *thud*.... get back and he's laying (very happily mind you) on the floor.
With my daughter she was sitting on our steps, talking to mum, we were all there, she tipped forward and fell off where she was sitting (you know those verandas where the steps are sort of built into it, so the bottom step is level with the edge of the veranda? She was sitting on the veranda part legs dangling over the steps) and she planted face first into the hard tile steps... we were ALL there and none of us could grab her quick enough, and I was too scared to pick her up - had to get hubby to do it, because I was sure her 'beautiful' face was going to be ruined now with a massive broken nose... ohhh I was terrified of years and years of hating us because of it... lol anyway, she sat up, looked a bit shocked, and then got back into position where she had been - no blood, no nothing!!
StrawberryTheMilkshake
11-11-2009, 13:47
For those of you who have done the misjudging of the doorway and managed to smack your babies heads on things, well.... YOURE NOT ALONE! DD was only about 8 weeks old, id had about 3 hours sleep in 48 hours, and id just heated her a bottle. I walked out of the kitchen and smack! Hit her little head on the fridge. I had her cradled in my elbows and just totally misjudged. God. I felt awful. First time she'd cried a really painful cry.... i just cried with her and rang my mum!
Just so you know, she is 5 now, perfectly fine.
I think that if the ambo's said all was fine, then your baby should be fine. If it makes you feel better though, maybe go to your local GP for a check up, as an added reassurance.
We are human, we make mistakes, and sometimes these things happen. Dont feel too bad :hugs:
~Temet Nosce~
11-11-2009, 13:54
I've done the doorway thing too.. :o
When he hit he didnt move for a second, and then only screamed for a minute then was fine.
For future reference, if he cries after only a second or so, its a good sign. No need for the ambulance. How far did he fall?
Oh Hun, its just natural to feel bad but don't beat yourself up as you can see its happened to all of us.
When ds was 6 weeks old he slipped out of my arms in his bath and rolled under the water, I freaked and rang the hospital who assured me if he was coughing and spluttering he was fine.
When he was about 8 months old I turned to walk out the door way and hit his head giving him a massive egg.:eek:
And I have lost count the number of times I have hit his head getting him in and out of the car, 19 months old now and he has learnt to duck!
Hope you wake up tomorrow and feel alot better, bubs are made of tough stuff :D
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