If you had to?

[Booo]

(Just happened to a bestie of mine)

If you found out you were pregnant would you move to where the father was such as like 2000kms away or make him move down with you where your friends and family were, if you were both willing to give the relationship another go? Opinions please :yes:

[Miss_N]

I don't think "making" someone else move is the way to start a relationship! IMO relationships are all about compromise! And it would really depend on the compromise the couple could come to!

Perhaps they would move somewhere in the middle?

Perhaps one persons job opportunities were too good to give up at their current location?

I think it comes down to figuring out what will be the best for the BABY!!!

IF the mother is going to get depressed being away from her family and friends then obviously it is not BEST for baby for her to move away!

If the mother is going to struggle without the father around then obviously it IS best for baby for the mother to move away!

Then there is considering how important it is for the baby to have BOTH parents in its life.

It all depends on SOOO many things!

[Bubs'n'Roses]

I'd make him. I already have to be pregnant. I shouldn't have to move.:)

But then again, does he have a good job where he lives? Has he got himself a house?

Lot of factors. But I wouldn't want to move if I didn't HAVE to. In case the relationship fell apart, I'd want my network.

[Booo]

I think it comes down to figuring out what will be the best for the BABY!!!

IF the mother is going to get depressed being away from her family and friends then obviously it is not BEST for baby for her to move away!

If the mother is going to struggle without the father around then obviously it IS best for baby for the mother to move away!


This was her problem!!! She has both these issues... she doesnt know what to do.... I cant advise her cause it'd be hard! They're 2550kms away from each other he just moved there recently. She just found out and doesnt know how to do things....

[Booo]

She has to move regardless her place is a tiny unit she'll need more room.... but she doesnt think she'll survive without her family or friends

[Booo]

Bumpers

[sweetseven]

She has to move regardless her place is a tiny unit she'll need more room.... but she doesnt think she'll survive without her family or friends
IMO, The current legal climate makes it too dangerous for her to move to him. Because he may be able to prevent her moving back if she later feels the need to.

If she does move to him, perhaps get legal advice and a prenup style contract protecting her right to choose where she and her baby lives.

Note: I have no legal background to know the validity of such a contract, but it seems like a viable option to me.

[moozle]

I think she needs the supportof her family and friends and so does her baby. I would get him to take a few weeks/a month off work when the baby is born to help her settle in etc and with any luck, he wont want to leave. If he does, maybe he's not worth the effort anyway?

[Miss_N]

What did you end up deciding to do Booo???

Or have you not made the decision yet??? :)

[Booo]

Staying.... he going to try for work closer