when to get rid of the dummy?

[katie8]

hi everyone,
my sons 20 months old and boy does he love his dummy!!
during the day i distract him with toys and playing outside or with our cat.but there are sometimes where he just wont budge he needs the dummy to play or do anything except eat or drink.Every night he has to have his dummy clipped on his pyjama top.i feel embarased going out because hes a toddler with a dummy. i know you have to weane them off it and put it only for bed and then after a little while he doesnt get it.but its easier said then done so my question is
what age do you get rid of it?
how do you do it?

katie:o
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[Lateralus]

We went cold turkey when DD was 5 months... perhaps not so easy with a 20 month old though.

My friend had the "dummy fairy" visit her DD when she was about 2 years old. My friend introduced the idea of the dummy fairy over a few weeks then set a date when the dummy fairy would come and take all the dummies away to give to the new babies. In exchange for all her dummies, the dummy fairy left her a present (a trike). She only asked for the dummy a few times after that, but accepted not getting one with no fuss when she was reminded that the dummy fairy had taken them all away. You might have to 'boy' it up a bit... maybe have the dummy elf or something?!

Good luck! :flowerz:

[mimsie]

Ok, I'm probably not the norm here but I'm a fairly relaxed parent. My son was 3 when the dummy went. Mostly because it was a major fight and so we waited until we could reason with him a little bit.

There was a lady who was heavily pregnant a friend of a friend, and he saw her, and so we decided to 'donate' his dummies to this lady. We talked about it for a while with him, explaining that this baby will be so little and might need them more than he does, and got him used to that idea. Then one night he came out after we'd put him to bed, handed over his favourite dummy and pointed to the top of the fridge where we were 'collecting' them for this new baby...

Anyway he never asked for it again :)

With our daughter, she had no interest in dummies until she got sick at about 7 months, and then used them. But she saw her big brother giving up his dummies, she was 1, and wanted to do what he was doing - and so they both did it at the same time. Was quite sweet, actually, lol.

Anyway we did the same thing with TT and waiting that bit longer when we could talk to him made both the processes super easy. DS was getting comments about his dummy from people from about 11 months because he was a big baby and quite tall, so we were used to it!

TT was similar, he watched other kids at daycare, he got to play on the toilet seat we had (refused potty completely) and then one day he took his nappy off, asked for undies and that was it - no accidents or anything.

[nat28]

Hey there,

My dd was really attached to her dummy and i thought she was going to have it forever, when she was about 18mths old she put the whole dummy in her mouth:no: so i took if off her cold turkey as i was petrified that she would do it agian, maybe when she was in her bed and she wouldn't be able to breathe,........... she was fine and never really asked for it again.

ds is 21 mths and only has his dummy for sleep, he has a little toy bucket in his cot and when he wakes up he puts them in there before he gets up. I started doing this with him about 6 mths ago and he took to it really well, its kind of his rountine now, he wakes up I change his nappy, put his socks on and he puts his dummies in the box.

Goodluck hope its not to distressing for your ds

[jlea]

Ok, I'm probably not the norm here but I'm a fairly relaxed parent. My son was 3 when the dummy went. Mostly because it was a major fight and so we waited until we could reason with him a little bit.


I am quite the same, aylaah!

My 2 year old is VERY attached to his dummy, he's quite a sensitive boy so when he gets upset he needs his dummy to calm down again. If we don't give him the dummy he just cries until he vomits, which is not fun for all of us :(

We do tell him all the time that he will have to give them up soon as he's getting to be a 'big boy', he just nods his head in agreeance, so maybe one day before he turns 3 we can pry it from his mouth!

Good Luck :thumbsup:

[katie8]

thanks so much to everyone that relied.very much appriciated!!!:)
some fantastic advise. i think i will tell him that once he is 21 months he has to give his dummy away to the babies!!!
thanks again:yelclap:

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[MrsTiggyWinkle]

DD1 has just turned 2 and still uses hers, she is very attached to it but I hate it!! I try to limit it to bedtime except when she is sick and then we just can't get it off her. I dunno how we are going to get her off it altogether, that will be murder, I really like the idea of the dummy fairy tho, and agree with pp who waited until they could reason with their child a little.

In the meantime, every morning when she gets up, I lift her up and we put 'dodo' (as she calls it) up on a shelf out of her reach, we say "bye-bye dodo, see ya later". If she puts it there herself, she is happy, but if I do it she whinges for it aaaaaalllllll morning - it does my head in! And when it is bedtime we lift her up again and she takes it down. If she asks for it, we say 'no, dodo is for bedtime'. It took a while to get her into this habit, and I really try to be consistent with it too. now I jsut have to teach DH to be consistent, he gives in too easily the bit softie! :laughing:

[pkbub]

My DS gave up the dummy about a month ago, at 25 months. He was using it just in bed.
For a few weeks before it was gone, we talked about how it was just for little kids and he would not need it much longer as he was getting to be a big boy and then one day we told him his friend gave all his dummies to the bin man (whom he adores:p) and then all the dummies were gone. On bin day, that same week, he woke from his nap and put his dummy in the kitchen bin all by himself.

There were a couple days of not settling well for his nap, but night time was fine. And if he asked for it we just reminded him what he had done and where they were and it was all ok:yes:

Is your son excited to see the bin truck? That could be a good way to do it - just make sure it is his choice to put them in the bin and get really excited with him about it. Good Luck:yes:

[Pices_79]

DD still has her dummy for sleep and she will be 3 in January. We have been talking to her lately about giving hers to Santa this year. She seems quite happy to be giving them up however we will see how we go.

I dont mind having her dummy for bed although a few months ago she had a dummy quite a bit during the day as well - including car trips etc