Planning to Conceive next yr

[Miss Curious]

Hi Girls,

I am new to this, very exciting! DH and I are planning on TTC in July (i know a few months off but we are excited about it now!) :valentine: and just wanted to know if anyone had any tips for preconception etc? What O kits did people find useful? what is the earlist time i can test for pregnancy etc?
Any advice would be much appreciated!

Thanks Girls :wave:

[bub4rosie]

Hi Miss Curious - welcome! And welcome on board the crazy/exciting/stressful but mostly wonderful journey that is TTC!!

The best advice I can give you is to come on here and read the threads in the TTC section - everything I've learnt I've learnt from other girls on here ... it can seem a bit overwhelming at first, but you'll become well-aquainted with the abbreviations and all the jargon to do with Oing and AFs and TTC :yes: ... and hopefully once you start TTC it will all happen quickly.

In the months before TTC, I started taking conception multi-vitamins and Omega 3 vitamins, making sure I was exercising and eating well and cut down on drinking. I also went and saw the GP to make sure all my vaccinations were up to date and to get a general medical check up.

I WISH now that I had come off the pill much sooner - 10 months on, my periods are still totally out-of-whack ... I thought that I'd come off the pill and WHAM we'd be pregnant! It happens for some lucky ladies, but not for others.

:ecomcity: I hope that's some help. Looking forward to seeing you in the TTC threads - hopefully not for very long!

[Miss Curious]

Oh thank you! I have been looking on this site a bit over the past few weeks and thought i may as well join! How do i find what some abbreviations mean?
I was planning on coming off it in FEB, do you think maybe i should come off it earlier???:confused:
I hope you are expecting very soon! :yelclap:

[EquineMum]

If you go into the main forum, there is a whole section there right at the beginning devoted to terms and phrases and general info for newbies :yes:

As for when to come off the pill, I fell PG my first cycle off the pill last time - we too, thought it would take months, but not so. There's no right or wrong to this one - just follow your gut - don't expect to fall straight away (but you might!) and don't expect to take ages either (however it could take over 12 months!) - just go with the flow as much as you can.

Best of luck with your TTC journey - the BH ladies are a GREAT bunch :thumbsup:

[overitand36]

hi Miss Curious my advise but please take this as someone who is doing IUI maybe IVF -not all end up like this

once you have decided you want a baby don't want until the "right" time just do it

come off the pill now or as early as you can
i hope you don't end up in the situation like me and bub4rosie where the waiting has ended up driving us crazy

maybe get some of the pre pregnancy tests done check that you are Oing this may also sound silly but even a sperm analysis just to check that you both are right to go where ready

hope you are one of the lucky ones who wakes up one day and is just pregnant

me unexplained fertility you have to love that

[VikkiB]

Welcome! This is my 6th cycle off the pill/TTC. It seems to me like quite a lot of ladies on here who came off the pill a few months before TTC fell the first month. My GP said I could start TTC straight after stopping the pill, but next time I'll definitely stop a few months before hand.

Definitely have a preconception check up - you need to make sure that you still have immunity to Reubella. My GP said to just start taking folate or a pregnancy vitamin when I stopped taking the pill.

Good luck!!

[Miss Curious]

Thanks girls so much for your advise.
We are planning on seeing the Obs in Feb to get all the tests etc done and run through a few things with him.
Overitand36 and Bub4rosie i wish you all the luck for conception :fingerscrossed: I can only imagine what it would be like when nothing is happening when you want it so bad :no:

[Tigerlillie]

Miss Curious,

I agree with everything that has already been said. Start to take your folate 3 months before. My nurses told me that elevit is the best, there is one for men too.
My Dietican told me to start using Iodised salt. She said there is a real problem with women not getting enough Iodine. You can buy this from any where, its in a green bottle.

I would also recommend getting as many tests done now. Sometimes they can take a while.

Start charting now, obviously its very important to know when you ovulate every month. I also bought a hole heap of ovulation tests online. So much cheaper than buying 7 for like $30 at safeway. I bought 50 for the same price. I used everyday till i could pin point when O was.

I also recommend, if you have no luck for the first few months go to the Dr and tell them you have been trying for over 12 months. They will not help you until you have been trying for 12 months, this way it will get the ball rolling for you alot quicker. It took me 2 years to finally get referred to the right IVF clinic.

Overitand36, I hear what you are saying! We have been trying for almost 3 years now. I am doing my 2nd FULL cycle of IUI. I go tomorrow for my BT. AF was due on sat so fingers crossed! I have had a few faint pos on the HPT. Which clinic do you go to?

[MyTwoBlue]

do you think maybe i should come off it earlier???:confused:


I came off the pill and conceived twins the very next month! Its such an individual thing that you just cant predict. Ive also read things like dont try to conceive right after you come off the pill if you dont want twins cos the chances are high pffft really!? dunno lol

[mardev]

Hi there ladies!

I am new to this but thought that I would join in the chat even though DH and I haven't started TTC yet. Hope no-one minds!

I would give anything to be TTC now but DH says that he isn't ready yet.... don't know how long I am going to have to wait. We have been together for 10 years and been married for 4 years this week. I've had enough of the waiting but I guess I don't have much choice. Has anyone else been through this sort of thing? I could use some advice.

All I have ever wanted was to be a mum but it seems like I don't even get any say in it at all! All I can think about is having a baby. It won't go away!

Sorry to lay this on you guys! :hair:

[hales83]

Hi there!

I'll be TTC #1 early 2010. I've been down this road before but about 6 months ago DH and I decided to sell our house and buy a bigger and better one for when we have a family. So now we have pretty much decided that we will try in March/April. I hope the next 5-6 months flies by!!!

Last time I went went off the pill and started taking folate, then I started on Blackmores Conceive Well Gold a month or so after. I also went to the doctor for blood tests to check on Rubella immunity etc. I would also recommend having a dental check up before TTC.

Good luck girls! What an exciting journey!.... hopefully it's not a long one!

:babydust2::babydust2: to all xx

[overitand36]

Hi there ladies!

I would give anything to be TTC now but DH says that he isn't ready yet.... don't know how long I am going to have to wait. We have been together for 10 years and been married for 4 years this week. I've had enough of the waiting but I guess I don't have much choice.

All I have ever wanted was to be a mum but it seems like I don't even get any say in it at all! All I can think about is having a baby. It won't go away!


mardev you do have a choice I would be asking him straight up what is he waiting for what is the problem

if it is something that can be fixed then you need to get on with fixing it, if he can not answer you then you may have to ask yourself what YOU want in life

this question is for everyone
do you discuss timeframe expectations before getting married or just hope you both want the same things afterwards

i knew before I got married that a baby was very very important to my DH I would not have been fair to get married if I had not wanted another baby

[kate2010]

ive come off the pill 3 months ago, and my cycl:)es all out of whack, but we're trying anyway, im in child care and have always said to everyone that oh the kids put me off having them, but at 27 and partner who will be 37 next year, we decided to start trying, its a whole new experince for the both of us, im sorta nervous but excited.

[mardev]

Thanks for the advice overitand36!

I have always been very open with everyone (including my DH) about wanting to have a baby. He has always known that it was something that I wanted sooner rather than later. Unfortunately for me he wants to wait for the right time (yes all of us women know that there is no such thing). Up until recently we have both been suffering from depression that stemmed from unhappiness at work. I left that job over a year ago and am now medication free. DH never needed mdication and has finally started a new job that he is happy in. He has never been as happy in our whole relationship as he is now.

I guess that I now think that let's go now before anything messes things up. DH is one of those people that doesn't like change (hence it took him 14 years to leave a job that he didn't like). He doesn't change things unless they are broken. The only reason that we got married is because I gave him an ultimatum.

I don't want to have to do that with this. I know that he wants kids but my concern is that he will wait until it is too late and we won't be able to have a baby.

Unfortunately this is a conversation that we end up having every few months (although with his recent depression we haven't had it for a while until recently). The answer always seems to be the same though. He isn't ready yet so we have to wait! Why doesn't what I want seem to come into it. I have aske him why what he wants is more important than what I want and he says "you can't hand a baby back". I know that... but it's not like we can't cope or anything. And as much as he has doubts about his own ability to be a dad... he is going to be a great one!!!

Thanks for listening!!!

[mardev]

I forgot to say good luck to everyone who is TTC!!!

I have my fingers crossed for all of you!!!:fingerscrossed:

[MrsHappy]

Hi all just thought i would join you so im not just stalking this thread! Im Mel been married for a year to my amazing hubby and weve been together for 7 years and we have made to wonderful decision to start TTC as soon as we buy a house in June/July next year! im so excited that we have a plan in place and am in the process of ungrading my Private Health Insurance and sorting out what vitamins i want to take and just generally trying to get as healthy as possible! so for now i'll keep following this tread and hope to talk to all the ladies TTCing in 2010 soon!!

[mardev]

Hi MrsHappy!

I have just joined today too! DH and I are not actually TTC but I wish we were though so I thought that I would join in the meantime!

Glad to hear that you have a plan to work towards and that you are happy about it! :yelclap:

[overitand36]

Unfortunately for me he wants to wait for the right time (yes all of us women know that there is no such thing).

DH is one of those people that doesn't like change (hence it took him 14 years to leave a job that he didn't like). The only reason that we got married is because I gave him an ultimatum.

I don't want to have to do that with this. I know that he wants kids but my concern is that he will wait until it is too late and we won't be able to have a baby.



Mardev please believe I am not trying to be horrid with the comment just I think you really need to take another stand on this issue before you end up in a situation you will regret.

I do not think your DH is ever going to be ready or for that matter capable of making such an important decision an ultimatum after 10 years is terrible.

you don't have 10 years for a baby what is worse another ultimatum or the possibility of waiting forever and never having a baby which I would find unforgivable

He will never understand your internal pain for a baby but will you be so understanding when waiting to long becomes never.

This is from someone who also waited for the "right" time the right time is now a nightmare 18mths of waiting every month and then BFN

[overitand36]

mardev

i just had an idea that might get him interested in the whole baby thing a little more

maybe you could do some of the pre pregnancy testing to make sure you are all ok when the time comes

sorry if you feel I am being pushy etc just would never want you ending up in the IVF line like me

[mardev]

I don't think that you are being pushy overitand36! I really appreciate having someone to talk to about it!!!

It's one of those things that no one really understands unless they are in that position so I'm stuck in a small town with friends that don't understand because they either already have their kids and didn't go through it or friends that aren't ready yet themselves!

I know that what you are saying is right I think that I just have this romantic view of how I would like things to be and even though deep down I know that he isn't that person, I keep hoping that one day he will surprise me!

He is improving though (unfortunately too slowly to get anything done). This is the first year that I have managed to get him to agree to go out (just the two of us) for our wedding anniversary (or anything). He has also surprised me by trying to organise a surprise for me for Christmas for the first time in 10 years!!! I accidently found out though.

The change in him over the last couple of months since he left his old job for this new that is making him happy is amazing. I know though that it isn't going to change things on the baby front without me putting the hard word on him though!

I just don't want to wait much longer... I will be 31 in January and I'm scared that it isn't going to be easy. I had hoped to not be that person that becomes totally focused only on having a baby but I know that having had to wait for so long to start trying when I finally can I am going to turn into a crazy person (more than I am now). :eek:

[overitand36]

mardev

i am guessing here as I obviously don't know what method etc for not TTC

but maybe next time you need to get a new packed you could ask DH to get if for you

then add or not
rather than him making a decision or actually talking about it he could then just choose not to do something

by choosing not you would be choosing to start

what would happen if you just stopped talking the pill what would happen between you

[Opinionated]

Mardev, I waited for a long time. In the end, I started taking folate and went off the pill. I told dh I was not taking hormones that I didn't really like to prevent something I actually wanted. I handed him a packet of condoms and told him the ball was in his court. We didn't use the whole packet.

[mardev]

That's a good idea! Unfortunately I have only just got a new pack a few weeks ago.

I have in the past tried to say that it was time for me to come off the pill and that if he didn't want anything to happen then it was his turn to do something about it. Maybe I should try that again... but be a bit firmer this time!!!

[mardev]

Thanks to everyone for all your advice... I really appreciate it. It is really nice to be able to talk to people that actually understand!!!

Sorry to Miss Curious for taking over your thread!!! I hope that everything goes well with you TTC! :wave:

[overitand36]

Opinionated great idea love it

mardev stopping making this your problem and responsibility make him do something as far as new packets etc now your making the excuses

as far as taking over well its more interesting now

and firmer yes you may need the practice comes in handy for terrible 2's as well

[Opinionated]

Mardev, perfect. Stay on the pill while the pack runs out. Get started on the folate. You should take it for a few months before conceiving. Also, get your rubella status checked or just have a booster. Some people's rubella immunity drops and they need a booster. After having the booster, you are meant to wait 3 months before conceiving. Get ready to start the minute he is ready. You don't want him to be ready and then find you have to wait.

[mardev]

Thanks for the advice ladies!!!

You have been very helpful.

I have already had everything checked out by my doctor after we got married so all set to go in that respect. Have my vitamins here ready to go too so I will start taking them again (started a while ago but gave up)!

I have also been trying to work on eating properly and getting a bit fitter while I wait too.

Thanks so much for listening!!! You have made me feel like I'm not being unreasonable or anything. I feel much better!

I am going to try to talk to him about it this week! Wish me luck! :fingerscrossed:

Hope everything is going well with everyone else! If I can return the favour and lend an ear please let me know!!! :hugs: