What would you do??

[2tob3!]

I'm really struggling with this. I'll give you a very quick run down of my last two labours...

My daughter. Born 2 days over. Back to back labour, only 2cm's dilated contrations evry minute lasting for a minute. Had pethedine which made me sick. 9 hours later began to push. 3 hours later a very distressed baby was born using Drs hands to try to turn, ventous, forceps and Mum got a third degree tear. Baby was in huge foetal distress and passed and swallowed muchonium. Mum hemmoraged. Baby weighed 8lb 5oz and was 59cm's long. I'm 4ft 11 and a bit. It took me a week to be able to sit down. Then i got an infection from the scar and was pretty sick for a while.

My son, born 3 years later at 34 weeks 5 days. Head not engaged once i got to hospital after being in denial since sunday afternoon. It was now early wednesday morning. On the Obs advice i had an epidural in place should it all go wrong and i need a section. A few hours in and foetal distress started and they decided that the cord was round his neck but i was ready to push. Gave birth in about 8 pushes to a 5lb 9oz baby. I threw up but had no stiches this time. Baby had to go straight to special care where he stayed for a week with all the usual prem baby dramas and an infection they thought was meningitus. He had a lumbar puncture at 3 days old. (and there is a link between that and the fact he is badly dyslexic dyspraxic and has add)

So its 9 years on :eek::eek: and here I am trying to decide what to do. Have first appointment next week but would love to hear some views about number 3 and from people who have opted for a c/s for their babies sake. What about recovery? Does it make a difference to the baby not having been distressed (both of mine had huge reflux and sleeping issues for months) Or just any advice?

Thanks. x

[mich71]

ive never had c/s came very close last birth they were on the phone when i had him and to tell you the truth that birth still frightens me it is hard to get over but what might be an idea if it still worries you which it sounds like it does go for the c/s its not cheating and dont feel bad about it you have to think about whats right for you :kiss:

[Hokey Pokey]

I can understand why you would be thinking of a csection after all you went thru. Maybe a c/section might be the way to go and for once you can have an enjoyable and positive birth experience? :hugs:

[Kaileysmum]

I can understand why you would be thinking of a csection after all you went thru. Maybe a c/section might be the way to go and for once you can have an enjoyable and positive birth experience? :hugs:

I agree, if you feel you need a c/s so that you don't have to go through a negative birth experience do it.

With the recovery thing my bub was born via emergency c/s and she had no troubles at all. But I haven't had a baby be VB so i cant compare. I found the c/s recovery really easy to. Talk to your OB about it and explain how you feel and hopefully you can get some advise for what will be best for u.

[Aynsley]

Then there is the other thought - if you were to attempt another vaginal birth, and things were to go just beutifully, then it might go a long way to help heal old wounds (not physical, of course!) Talk to them about your fears at your appointment - they might be able to help alay them.

[Kristy1979]

Ive had 2 c/s.
#1 was emergency c/s under epidural. , quick recovery, out of hospital in 48hrs and healthy content baby who sleeps very well.
#2 was an elective c/s under spinal block, very quick recovery , out of hospital with in 48hrs of birth again with another very content little boy.

I made the decision for a c/s and was very happy with it. It was a beautiful experience, i still got to see my baby born and hold him, i just thought it was the safest way due to the complications i had with #1 .

If you want any details PM me and i will tell you more, i also have pic's i dont mind sharing if you really want to see what its like.

Kristy :p

[msiccita]

I've had two c/s as my pelvis is too small to give birth naturally......

We are the same height...so maybe if you haven't be tested, your pelvis might be too small as well.

the c/s were fine, i got to cuddle and hold both my boys after they were born and my husband was by my side the whole time....got some great photos.

Recovery was fine.....you just have to take it a little easy at times.

Do what your heart is telling you....or maybe do the natural birth but make arrangements that if anything goes wrong, to have a c/s.

If you need any further info, just PM and ask.

[2tob3!]

Thank you all so much for your replies.

To be honest a C/S terrifies the life out of me. I've had my appendics out and i couldn't stand straight for a week and i found it agony. It did get very badly infected and have to be re cut a week later so maybe that was why?

Anyway i am a total stich wimp, just seeing them makes me gag:barf:NOT good! So the thought of being cut deeply disturbs me. However, that said, the thought of going through what i went through the last twice and the thought of watching that babies heartbeat drop futher down with each contraction totallly freaks me out too!

I have had to reschedual my appointment for 7th of August so hopefully i will be advised some more then and able to make some kind of decision!