Advice

[anak]

Hi to all the mums and mum to bes involved with IVF.
I was just wondering if I can gauge some advice from you all who are experinecing IVF at the moment and give me some insight, as I really am having a hard time,not so much understanding but keeping my mouth shut.
I have a very dear friend who had been TTC just shy of 12 months and decided she couldnt wait any longer and turned to IVF.The week before her final appointment she found out she was pregnant (naturally) but miscarried and went straight into IVF again and has just found out she is pregnant again after attempt 1.:yelclap:

The problem is....and she is a dear friend so I hope you can understand.....she is acting like she is the ONLY one in the world to have what she terms a "miracle" baby.Now dont get me wrong it must be such a long and hard journey for many of you IVF ladies and I can totally relate, but my friend has only been at it for 12 months and has been proven to be able to fall pregnant naturally, so I am starting to get tired of her sillyness.I have put it down to hormones but she really is starting to get ridiculous and I am getting tired. I dont want to lose her as a friend and dont want to say anything to upset her, due to the pregnancy.
Any advice?

[kirra_bodhi]

I am going through 2nd lot of IVF/ICSI at the moment and have been trying to get preg for approx 5 years in total, i have never fallen pregnant at all let alone naturally, but i guess all i can say is stick by her and maybe you will just have to keep biting your tongue at this stage, it is really hard to deal with the fact you have to do IVF it doesn't matter how long you have been trying for.
I don't know anyone that would just go through ivf for the hell of it! They would be mad as it is an emotional rollercoaster, it isn't easy watching people keep getting pregnant around you, and its not exactly easy being pumped with hormones everyday, and then going through the pain of egg collection, for people that haven't gone through it just wouldn't understand.
If you are a true friend you will just stick by her, and be there if she needs you. And the main thing is BE HAPPY FOR HER!
:smiliedance:

[Cian's Mum]

Dear Anak.

I got PG 15 years ago ( naturally ) and had a miscarriage after that .( Wrong Man , wrong time ).
I've been married for 7 years now and we have been trying to conceive for nearly 3 years and then started IVF ... and yes , I got PG with my first cycle ...

I think it 's important to know that what ever the number of cycle you do and when you finally get PG , your BB will still be called your " Miracle BB " ... It is true that it's not extremely often to fall PG with the first cycle but she is not the only one ... She is very proud of her self and it's understandable ...

Tell her that you had a look at a website ( this one ) and you found out that it does happen . I started this thread 6 months ago " First cycle in few days .. .part 1 and 2 " , and 9 Ladies got PG since January ... Out of those 9 , I think at least 5 or 6 got PG with their first cycle .... which is amazing ...

Be there for her and be patient .. you are a good friend ...
Take care and look after your self .

[anak]

Thanks Ladies,
your words of advice are much appreciated.

[SuperWoman]

Hi Anak, my son is a Miracle baby. We did IVF for 12 months and fell pregnant on our 6th attempt. We had been trying naturally for over 2 years. He will always be our Miracle baby and even if we are lucky enough to concieve naturally next time that child will also be our Miracle.

Just be there for her and be happy for her because it doesnt matter if she did IVF once or 20 times, it is a Miracle. She has been through alot emotionally and she does need you to be supportive. You sound like a great friend already!:)