how much is to much?

[sweetmummi]

Ok i have been reading many threads over the last few days and people saying they bed every 2nd day is there a reason for this? is this not right to bed every day is that too much hmmm i know this may be a stupid question but its doing my head in as i think i could be beding too much:rolleyes: hmmm dont think dp would think that tho :laughing:

anyway whats ur opinion is beding every night to much when trying ttc :confused: should we cut it back to every 2nd night.......

[MothersMilk]

As i understand it the sperm needs time to regenerate - if you bed too much you are not allowing the sperm to build up and could be hurting your chances of falling pregnant.
Every second day is best :yes:

[KatiesMum]

No. Every day is absolutely fine.

In general, at LEAST every second day is a rule of thumb.

If your DP has any sperm issues (especially low count or motility) then usually every second day is preferred as it gives him time to build the sperm count and motility.

However - the vast majority of men have no issues, and every day is absolutely no problems. (is better as you make sure that you have every chance of catching that egg).

[TTCin2009]

Most doctors will tell you that every BD every 2nd day is enough to get PG. It worked for us.

[skyeblue]

Although, recent studies have found that men with lsc are better off to BD every day as it forces the body to regenirate faster.... :ecomcity:

[Rebdot]

When I was TTC this time, I BD every day for the 3 days before I O'd and 3 days after.

It worked,

[happyluvy]

id say every second day is fine darl .. and tbh if your doing it EVERY day, it may become a chore, losing the romance is prob the last thing you want to happen!

best of luck!!
:goodvibes:

[Paul64]

Hi all.

Romance! You're kidding right. My wife and I began to feel like sex machines until we conceded that we needed "special" help from the IVF people. We had sex every second day a few before ovulation, during and a few days after. You sure get to know each other's bodies well.

Good luck and....well....go for it.

Paul
AU

[happyluvy]

Hi all.

Romance! You're kidding right. My wife and I began to feel like sex machines until we conceded that we needed "special" help from the IVF people. We had sex every second day a few before ovulation, during and a few days after. You sure get to know each other's bodies well.

Good luck and....well....go for it.

Paul
AU

umm no i wasnt kidding :confused:

sorry you and your wife had to go thru IVF.

But i dont see why we should be robots doing the deed simply to create a being... My dh and i were close to going thru IVF, but because of some sort of miracle, for us i found out i was pg the day of my FS appt. A gf of mine also did go thru IVF so i completely understand it becomes a structured timed chore, and some of the romance fizzles out, she and her OH did everything possible not to lose that fizzle in order to keep their selves sane ... I like to think that this miracle inside me was made with the romance and love between Dh and I - so no i wasnt kidding.

[Rebdot]

Hi all.

Romance! You're kidding right. My wife and I began to feel like sex machines until we conceded that we needed "special" help from the IVF people. We had sex every second day a few before ovulation, during and a few days after. You sure get to know each other's bodies well.

Good luck and....well....go for it.

Paul
AU

:iagree::laughing::laughing::laughing: Your not doing it for romantic purposes, your trying to catch an egg, Id rather a baby than risking loosing alittle romance lol

Im glad I got all that BD in though cause its made up for the month its been since we havnt.

[happyluvy]

wow am i the only one that thinks there should still be some sort of romance in making a baby? ... oh well. i like it that way. :wave:

best of luck sweetmummi!! :babydust2:

[Silver_Lining]

wow am i the only one that thinks there should still be some sort of romance in making a baby? ... oh well. i like it that way. :wave:

best of luck sweetmummi!! :babydust2:


Nope, :iagree: hence why sometimes we don't even do it every second day.
The last thing I want is forced sex and to do it when one of us isn't in the mood! To me, that's not how a baby should be made.

[sweetmummi]

wow thanks for all the comments.... but i would like to say this cause me and my dp bed everyday does not mean we dont have romance we make it special so its not a chore nor do i feel like a robot and both dp and i always agreed if we dont feel like doing it we dont have too... we have romance but we are also still pretty young so expressing our love is what we enjoy doing.. maybe ask me when im 5months preggers but at the moment we enjoy it hmm i was just wondering if it is bad thing or if proven studies show that we have to bed every 2nd night i guess everyone has their opinions :yes: so i guess when im ment to catch eggy i will if that means beding everynight to 3 days a week.....

[Silver_Lining]

sweetmummi, sounds like the perfect way to be and as long as you're both happy then that's the main thing :thumbsup:

There's research both ways so until you find out that you shouldn't do it every day (if there's low sperm count or something) then if you're happy with that, then why not :p

[DanceInTheRain]

DP and I had sex almost every day before we were ttc, so when we decided to ttc we didn't change anything except stopped any form of contraception. We fell first cycle and I can't tell you how many times we dtd, but it was a lot!! We also never had a time in there that felt like a chore, not once. We have slowed down a little now that i'm pregnant cause of my nausea and tiredness but it's still a few times a week. I have a higher sex drive than DP most of the time.

I guess we were very lucky to fall first cycle and if we had of had to keep ttc month after month it may have been a different story?