Why cant i get pregnant?

[StrawberryTheMilkshake]

:gloomy::gloomy::gloomy::gloomy:

We just cant seem to concieve.....

And im sad and hurt and i dont know what to do.....

Yes, I have a healthy 5 year old. Yes, im lucky to have had her. I know that and i cherish her every day.

However, im divorced and my new DH and i do not have any children together. I would just love to have a child with him.

Its not working. And its been 12 months now.

Im just so sad about it. :gloomy:

[mim1]

:hugs::hugs::hugs:

[RoarsomeMum]

:hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs: It Does hurt.. and it is totally unfair..

I hope that your beautiful miracle is on their way (just got a little lost, or had a long way to travel:goodvibes:)

[dillydAlly]

:hugs: For you babe!

I have told you my advice....... It's been 12 months now! Time to go and see someone about it!

Take the bull by the horns..... It will happen!!!

:flowerz: Positive Vibes!

[*Need~More~Coffee~Please*]

hope u can get your new bubba soon ((hugs))

[Miss_N]

:hugs:'s STM! I hope you get your BFP soon!

Just know we are all here to support you and listen to your frustrations! :yes:

[elleandsam]

:hugs:
I hope it happens for you soon.

[overitand36]

same thing happened to me

GP said oh just wait and all that crap

my advise would be don't wait any longer go and see a specialist and start doing something about it NOW

we are 18mths later still no BFP and in TWW with 3rd IUI
but apparently nothing wrong

i am hoping you will not become familiar with the term unexplained fertility and get a BFP really soon

best of luck just don't sit back and wait take back some control not that there is a lot in the TTC nightmare

[StrawberryTheMilkshake]

Thanks guys... im just worried.

[Paul64]

Hey, don't sweat to early just yet Stawberry.

I'm 45 and my wife and I have been trying for 5 years and now we've finally worked out....we may just need a little medical intervention. Long story short, my wife is now on the Synarel, we begin the FSH (folical stimulation hormone) in a few days time. The medical staff are hopeful for us as my sperm morphology they are telling us should be good enough to extract a few "good ones".

You should both talk to each other and make an appointment with your GP in regard to this issue. Don't put it off any longer.

Cheers and kindest regards
Paul...

[StrawberryTheMilkshake]

Thanks guys.

Ive been to the GP.... i went to a different GP. She was very reassuring and didnt mention my weight once (im very overweight but working on it).

My previous GP said "its your weight". And that was it. Like i dont deserve help because im overweight. Never asked me if i was working on it, etc.

Welll, this new GP never mentioned it. No doubt, a fertility specialist will tell me to lose it (and like i said, im working on it) so i feel better that i can confidently say "yes im working on that".

So we send DH (who is petrified i might add) for a sperm sample and we go from there.

I guess im feeling a little more positive than i did last time when the GP said "your old and your fat" . Im 31!

So we will see how it goes.

Would a fertility specialist refuse to treat me if i dont loose a certain amount of weight?

[SweetSerenity]

Aww STM :hugs:

I feel for you so much, hate seeing how hurt you are. I would be the same. As lovely as it is that you have your first child, when you REALLY want another one, especially with your new partner, the need is so strong and it would be absolutely heartbreaking not being able to achieve that straight away.

If you ever need to chat pm me :hugs:

Thinking of you :hugs:

Love Nat xox

[logiesmummy]

Hey STM,

I don't think they will refuse to treat you but they may suggest you lose 5% of you weight before beginning treatment.

I am currently in teh process of waiting for my new fs to gain an appoinment. My old one told me i had to lose at least 10-20 kilos before he did anything i was horrified. so now i am back to stage one lucky i have already had my tetsting and everything done!! Just wait and see what they say when you see them.

Goodluck!!

[mimsie]

Hey strawberry :) (note before I start, I ramble! lol)

I know the weight thing, it's horrible isn't it? I finally found a good doctor in Newcastle who didn't use it as an excuse for anything going on with me, ever. He looked into all those things that might have caused the weight along with energy issues I was having, rather than calling me lazy (has happened before)! He was lovely. Even when I had a fatty liver result, he goes 'it's a bit fatty, but it's working and thats all we care about' lol. He ended up losing a ton of weight and the first time I saw him after he's like, I hate 'reformed' types and I'm not going to become one, this is what I needed for me, not everyone does... my step mum was once told by a doctor who was sure her weight was doing 'something' to her, that he'd never seen a more healthy overweight person in his life, and that she was healthier than a lot of 'normal weight' patients... and not to bother losing it unless she wanted to cosmetically.


Anyway I just went to a doctor for this pregnancy, who has basically decided that I'll have diabetes, pre eclampsia, already had pcos and a few other issues ALL because of my weight... there's never been any looking into pcos for me, there's never been any diabetes or anything else like that in my previous pregnancies - it was a little bit jaw dropping... I was bigger than I am now with my 2nd! Oh and while he acknowledged he'd seen 3 patients that day who got performance anxiety with the blood pressure monitor, when I mentioned that as soon as he mentioned it I felt my heart rate jump, he decided I was seriously at risk of DVT because I got a 122/91... omg...

Anyway I just wanted to come and say hang in there - and definitely avoid any doctors who are quick to blame your weight because while sometimes it's an issue, it is not always - and if it is, then they are probably thinking PCOS and if so I'd ask for confirmation of that before they decide to diagnose you!!!

My good friend is pcos, overweight and TTC - but she's managed to find doctors who have looked past it all for her and her husband and who are taking them down this road carefully. She's lost the 10% weight, and it hasn't done anything for them. It's not the answer to everything. She's in a different position - she's barely had her period since it started, she can count the total over last 13 years on one hand...

Anyway - sorry I go on - fingers crossed for you both, you might find they look at hubby first because you've had a successful pregnancy previously, but perhaps it might be worth looking into things like luteal phase for you? Just a thought - it was a problem for me until I started taking some vitamins that balanced out the hormones a bit and extended it, even though my husband and I had 2 babies very easily before now.

[StrawberryTheMilkshake]

Thanks guys .....