Is this appropriate? Q about wedding speeches

[bec79]

Hi all,

My brother is marrying his lovely fiancée next weekend. They have been together for almost 9 years and we (myself, my now DH, my bro & his fiancée) lived together in the early stages of their relationship. My brothers fiancée has been through quite a lot for some-one so young. Most of her childhood was spent in foster care and she has only recently had a lot of contact with her biological family (started seeing them frequently about 5 years ago).
No-one from her family wants to give her away (she is giving herself away) and no-one is willing to make a speech on her behalf. (The traditional father of the bride speech). I was going to offer to get up and say something on her behalf (as she doesn't want to do it herself), but I'm not sure if it would be appropriate. Do you think that it would be odd for the brides SIL to stand up and do the 'father of the bride' speech?
Opinions please....

[halloweenmum]

Nope I think thats a beautiful thing to do :)

These days anything goes at a wedding and since its the single most important day of her life, somebody should be proud to stand up and speak on her behalf. Everyone else that traditionally "should" be doing it should be ashamed of themselves.

Good on you :yelclap:

[onkybear]

:iagree: I think its a wonderful idea :yelclap:! I am sure she will appreciate it more than you would know.

[JustUs3]

What a lovely thing for you to do!! I say go for it, I'm sure she'll really appreciate it. :)

[MrsBeee]

:iagree: with everyone else. How sad would it be for her husband to have people stand up and talk about how much they love him etc, and for her to have no one to do the same for her. These days weddings are much more flexible in who speaks and who doesn't, so go for it!! :)

[MumNeedsCoffee]

That's lovely. It would be a shame if she didn't have anyone to stand up and give a speech for her. Good luck

[Shepherd]

I think it is absolutely appropriate and a gesture of true friendship.

[gizmoduckus]

Beautiful! Just beautiful! It would be wonderful for someone who loves her to stand up and give a speech, it doesn't matter who the person is.

[FiveInTheBed]

bugger tradition :p

I think it is a lovely thing to do.

Are you going to tell her your plans? or suprise her?

Alot of the weddings I have been to have impromtu speeches. Or pass the mic around...Makes for a fun night:D

[Bunnyhugs]

It doesn't always have to be the 'father of the bride' who makes the speech. It's really just a speech on behalf of the bride and as the father of the bride is traditionally the head of the family, he usually is the one to speak on her behalf - KWIM??

I think it's a lovely idea for you to say something. What a wonderful SIL you are :thumbsup:

[Me]

I think its a wonderful idea, it'd be a very sad thing if no-one got up and talked about how wonderful and precious she is!

[bec79]

Thanks for your replies.

I've decided that I'm going to offer to make a speech. I was going to just surprise her on the night, but I spoke to my brother this morning and he thinks that it would be best to mention it to her first. I'm going to their place for dinner tonight, so will talk to her about it then.