young mum's

[Sarak7]

Does anyone respect young single mum's?
Do more people treat you as an adult and other mum's relate with you more?

[chameleon]

I'm not sure about single Mum's because I'm married, but I find a lot of older people seem to talk to me more like I'm an 'adult', and they will single me out from other teenagers. There is one older lady who now discusses the problems she has with her daughter with me...her daughter is only a year younger.
And I definitely find it easier relating to other Mums, no matter what the age difference. Sometimes it seems like it's the people who don't me who kind of look down on me. Everyone who knows me seems to have more respect for me now.

[Niki]

well im a younge mum and my bestie is a young single mum and i no that we do get respect from other young mums and most older ppl, its not very often i get a negative comment and even if i did i wouldnt care i love my life

[Niki]

i do think that i get treated older now thou i have a baby

[HugsAndKisses]

im not single eighther but i definately think older mums and people that are older than me in general treat me more like an adult when they see im a mum....dont think ive been asked for advice but i definately seem to be treated better than other young people who arent mums but i also think u have to earn it...wat i mean is single or not being a mum means u will get judged and all u have to do is ur best and older mums will see that i believe and it makes it easier for u to be accepted :hugs:

[MeeG]

im not a mum yet but i will be a single young mum, even now being 34 wks pregnant ive noticed people being very supportive i do get the occasional 'disapproving looks' for older women, but most people i found have a great respect for what im doing and can see how much stregth it takes to do it on your own its not easy and its jus gonna get harder and in that i believe it makes you stronger,

[LA62]

Im not a Single mum, i was young when i got married, then had bubs after (honeymoon baby:D ) at 21 so i think myself a young mum:yes:

No matter, what age and married....or not as long as your baby has love and support of one or 2 parents, it does not matter.

I look at adele, Bub hub member and she is only 18 ( i think ) and she is an insperation, i know she's not single but she has a great head on her sholders, loves her baby skyla and makes sence in everything she says so Dont give a toss what other people say or do.

I was married young and i cot moaned at for that, and im still here 2 kids later and a happy marriage.....:thumbsup: sorry for the :ecomcity:

[SassyMummy]

I'm not a single mother, but I don't LIVE with DP, so I guess I kinda am in a way. People can't tell I'm not single when I'm out and about anyway...it's usually just me and my mother (and DD or course) or friends.

I find that other mothers, usually older, can relate to me better now. I seem to get more respect.

I know this will sound bad, but I actually sometimes feel as though I'm "higher" (for lack of a better word) than other women who don't have kids. It sounds mean...but I don't mean it in a mean way...it's just that when you become a parent, so much changes...you realise so much more than you have before. You're no longer living for just yourself...and all the little cr*p you used to worry about no longer matters so much.

I don't know if young mothers respect me though...I don't respect all mothers myself. I'll admit I'm judgemental...and sometimes if I see a young scruffy-looking woman out with her 5 snot-nosed kids under 5 I'll think "ew...". It's a flaw in my character, but I can't help how my mind works. I assume that some people see me and think similar thoughts sometimes.

I think you definately belong to an exclusive "Mum" club when you have kids though...no matter your age or whatever. ALL kids can be difficult...and I think all mothers can relate to each other BECAUSE they have kids.

[mandimoo123]

Hey just replying to your post do people respect young mums?
I live in a small community and usually they dont accept it but with me everyon seemed so supportive and great but tha main people who i found out who didnt support it were my friends well my so called friends, i am now 19, but i was 18 when i had my beautiful lil girl Aliah, i also found out that i could and did have more in commen with older women and other mothers espeacilly my mum and my older sister who is 19years older than me, before i had Aliah i couldnt talk about all the women stuff but as soon as i had bubby i opened up and could talk and have things in common! :kiss:

[*Chels*]

I respect ALL mums!!Young and old,married or single!!
Mums have the hardest but most rewarding job in the world!!!:yelclap:

[Niki]

I respect ALL mums!!Young and old,married or single!!
Mums have the hardest but most rewarding job in the world!!!:yelclap:

well said :yes:

[smithie]

well, im glad you guys have all had positive reactions from your communities, i must be seriously paranoid because i have had some outrageous experiences. we move round quite alot for my dp s work and ive found general attitudes vary from place to place.

tamworth was the absolute worst i have to say. hobart has been much more accepting although i have had my most truamatising experiences here. when we first moved here we went to a indian restaurant, our son at the time 18 months went into a tantrum and dp got quietly stressed. the man next to us with his family of 3 kids and wife spoke anashamedly loud and statred using us as an example of why its a terrible thing to become a young and incompetent parent and how miserable thiere lives would be. he gestued in our near direction of less than a meter away and his yng tnage son said 'yeah and shes fat' the yngest who was about 6 looked straight at me and said 'yes she is very young!' once we were out for breakfast for a special occasion, again ds was understandably a regular impatient tot, so i took him to the park near by while we were waiting for coffees. i pulled him away from park as he cried to go back. as i walked into cafe ppl outside mimicked old iron add and screamed at me 'oim ar seengol marm weeth ar dawdah' all laughed, as i walked inside much older couple with baby next to us kept shaking thier heads at me in disgust and repreating 'its just a disgrace', looking sympathetically at my 'poor' son. and that day was mothers day.

[Ashleigh<3]

I respect ALL mums!!Young and old,married or single!!
Mums have the hardest but most rewarding job in the world!!!:yelclap:

I agree!

They said if Mothers were to be paid for their job as Mother, it would be around $170k a year! :goodvibes:

[Mum&bubs]

I respect all mothers that deserve it. Young, old, black, white, single, married we are all mothers and going through the same experiences. If you treat your children right you get my respect :thumbsup:

[neostudded]

I find a lot of older people seem to talk to me more like I'm an 'adult', and they will single me out from other teenagers. There is one older lady who now discusses the problems she has with her daughter with me...her daughter is only a year younger.
Me to, I find I get more respect than I used to.:yes:


I find that other mothers, usually older, can relate to me better now. I seem to get more respect.

I know this will sound bad, but I actually sometimes feel as though I'm "higher" (for lack of a better word) than other women who don't have kids. It sounds mean...but I don't mean it in a mean way...it's just that when you become a parent, so much changes...you realise so much more than you have before.

I think you definately belong to an exclusive "Mum" club when you have kids though...no matter your age or whatever. ALL kids can be difficult...and I think all mothers can relate to each other BECAUSE they have kids.
well put, I feel the same.



I guess in a way you could say sometimes I put myself 'higher' (or at least older, even though we're the same age.) So I don't really keep in contact with most of them now.

And I can be judgemental too sometimes, and I hate to think anyone might ever look at me as being an irresponsible girl who got herself pregnant so young. Because although it wasn't planned, it wasn't unplanned either...Same here :yes:


I respect all mothers that deserve it. Young, old, black, white, single, married we are all mothers and going through the same experiences. If you treat your children right you get my respect :thumbsup:
me to, infact Ive always prefered talking to mothers over other people because they are so wise.:D they seem to know so much, ive always admired them.

[Tillismama]

I've never had any problems with people giving me respect since my daughter was born but I had lots of trouble during my pregnancy.
I found people would hold doors open for other people and then see me and close it.
My own grandmother used to walk an aisle or 2 behind me at the supermarket, push me into shops if she saw someone, make me stay in my room if people came over .. I guess that was the most heart breaking thing.
But i've never ever seen myself look at other mothers and disrespect them straight away because of age, race, size or marital status.
Tho I have sat in the mall and seen grotty kids, with grotty parents .. parents yelling and screaming and i know i've had some bad thoughts.

[neostudded]

My own grandmother used to walk an aisle or 2 behind me at the supermarket, push me into shops if she saw someone, make me stay in my room if people came over .. I guess that was the most heart breaking thing.

:hugs: How nasty of her, I cant believe someone would serioulsy do that in this day and age.You shouldnt have put up with that appauling imature behaviour!!!!!!:shame:

[Benji]

I have a great amount of respect for young Mums who are doing the best they can for their bubs.

If you feel like the world is against you - just think at least things are a lot better than they used to be.

My mother fell pregnant at 17 and didn't want to marry the boy with which she fell pregnant. Her parents are religious and they made her adopt her baby. She had to give birth to him and never see him again. That would be really rare these days, but it was common back then (just over 30 yrs ago). At least most girls have choices now.

What really annoys me is when people give these girls a hard time when it's too late. What's the point in giving lectures to young pregnant girls when the baby is already here or growing in her belly?

My friend's daughter is pregnant and she is 17 and he keeps carrying on about how she will never have a career etc. I think well.. it's too late to go back now and good grief she's having a baby not a funeral - it's not the end of the world!

[neostudded]

Angike I agree it isnt the end of the world.:yes:

My mother fell pregnant at 17 and didn't want to marry the boy with which she fell pregnant. Her parents are religious and they made her adopt her baby. She had to give birth to him and never see him again.
My mother's real brith mother was one of these people, she gave birth at 15 & was made to give up my mum.So my mum was adopted.

I remember hearing it wasnt just young mothers, it was also single mothers.The hospitals had ways of trying to get people to give up their babies.Apparently alot of people couldnt have babies for some reason (I think it had something to do with war) but iam not sure.

[Benji]

I remember hearing it wasnt just young mothers, it was also single mothers.The hospitals had ways of trying to get people to give up their babies.Apparently alot of people couldnt have babies for some reason (I think it had something to do with war) but iam not sure.

Ahh I didn't know that the hospitals were involved. Doesn't surprise me actually.

I can imagine single mothers would have received a talking to back in the "good ol days" because a lot of people's decisions were based on religion and what the Churches frowned upon.

[neostudded]

Yes I was told that one woman visiting from overseas gave birth in a hospital here.They tryed to talk her in to giving up her baby, she refused.After alot of arguing they aid "fine then just sign out and we will let you go".She signed the papers but it turned out it was an adoption form she signed & her baby was taken off her.:shame::(