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zephsmum
13-07-2006, 11:12
I have some concerns about a relative of ours and her 2 children aged 4 and 2 and was wondering if you think Welfare should be involved. On the surface everything looks pretty ok with the children clean, well-fed, occassional day-care and dancing lessons, however I have been told by a reliable source that the 2yr old is left in the bath with the older sibling and often they are not restrained properly in the car (I have witnessed this myself) among other things.

They are often left in the care of their father, a known user/addict who has recently done jail time, one time resulting in a car accident (unreported) where he was driving unlicenced and the 4 yr old (3 at the time) was unrestrained and luckly thrown clear when the vehicle rolled, on another occassion the youngest child was rescued by a neighbour when found standing naked in the middle of the road, and once when the children were left in his care his mother came to visit and found the baby in the cot screaming, no nappy and covered in pee etc and the older child terrified hiding in a corner while he was coming down off heroin/morphine on the couch.

It is unconfirmed whether or not the mother is abusing hard substances (she is a dope smoker) but her appearance suggests that she may be. She can be very volatile and violent towards the children's father often hitting him and once ran into him with a car and broke his hand. I don't think she would hit her children but I am disgusted by names she calls the oldest child - "****-face" and "Slit-show" - whether it is considered a joke or not, it is certainly not appropriate. Neighbours in the past have commented on the mother yelling and swearing at the children all day. She often "kicks" the children's father out and he is replaced by another known substance user, until he is kicked out then the father comes back again.

As I have said, on the surface the children look to be well-cared for and I'm sure if Welfare turned up they would probably wonder why they were called in the first place and the mother can be very convincing IYKWIM, but I guess its whats going on behind closed doors that is the worry. All that said, Welfare did pay them a visit earlier in the year after the father apparently left the baby in the car while he went into Centrelink.

Sorry for the long post, but your opinions will be appreciated.

Ana Gram
13-07-2006, 11:35
Normally I am hesitant on the calling of child services but if it is certain that he is using heroin around the children, then they do need to be notified. My Dp has 3 nieces who were around there mother and boyfriend of the moment while they were using and it is not pretty.

Hunter's Mum
13-07-2006, 12:01
I agree - children should not have to be around people when substances are being abused and not only for what they may see but for the lack of care they are receiving. I would notify welfare - with all that you have said - tell them that things may look ok on the surface and maybe they could monitor them or something.. maybe they could even get statements from the neighbours to confirm your concerns?/

kirstenriley
13-07-2006, 13:59
I dont think you have much of a choice, if something happened you would never forgive yourself (not saying that they are in danger or anything), but always better to be safe than sorry especially when a childs welfare is concerned.

zephsmum
13-07-2006, 18:56
Thank-you for taking the time to reply. I am convinced now that Welfare should be at least be made aware of the situation and hopefully they will take steps to make sure the children are safe. Thanks again.

Baby Girl
13-07-2006, 19:41
If they are using while the kids are in the house it is a recipe for disaster. It only takes a split second for a baby to put the wrong thing in its mouth or jab itself with a needle and it can lead to major illness or death. Chances are if they are using the kids are copping emotional and or mental abuse (it sounds like it with the name calling) and that is just as bad as if they were beating them.

I would call welfare and make sure they know the full story. They might not be able to do anything immediately but they may be able to keep an eye on the kids at least.

jessgray
14-07-2006, 07:53
if there is drug abuse happening while the children are there i would call the children's protective services.

*Chels*
14-07-2006, 13:17
I dont think you have much of a choice, if something happened you would never forgive yourself (not saying that they are in danger or anything), but always better to be safe than sorry especially when a childs welfare is concerned.

Totally agree!They might be clean and clothed but they are still in danger.Not fair on innocent kiddies!
AARRGH People like this make me so frustrated!!
Good luck hun