only parents with Teenagers reply please!!!!!

[my babyemmy]

hi girls do you ever feel like running away from your Teenagaers,I have been at the stage of why the hell do i bother for about 1 yr now,My youngest son now 14 can be the most wonderful,loving and prefect child but change into a mean and aggressive boy in 1.5 secs. We are having arguements every day now and they are over stupid things and ive ran out of ideas what to do!!!!!!:banghead: What do any of you do,well if this happens in your house:ecomcity:

[Sarie]

I don't have any teens but I just wanted to send you a few :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: , I hope things improve for you soon!
Sarie

[my babyemmy]

thanks hun:)

[Sarie]

:kiss: No worries. I'm sure someone will have some good advice for you!

[jasminesmum]

I have a 16 yr old son. He is pretty good now. I think his worse stage was when he was 14.
He had heaps of attitude and thought he knew it all.(still does sometimes.)

I tried everything with him at the time. Nothing really worked. Sorry. Apart from talking to him and explaining that this was not happening in our house. He was a bit better after our talks.

I think with him it was just a stage and hormones. Thank goodness. He is far from perfect now but doesn't have the attitude and the disrespect he had then.

Sorry I wasn't much help. It is very hard and stressful to go through.

All the best:hugs:

[daisyxs]

i had that kind of relationship with my mum, we would argue everyday.

i hated that she was so set in her ways and i felt like she refused to listen to me if it meant she'd have to compromise.

but now looking back i realise that it was because we were too much alike, both as stubborn as each other and didnt like to be told we were wrong.
daisy

[anak]

hi girls do you ever feel like running away from your Teenagaers,I have been at the stage of why the hell do i bother for about 1 yr now,My youngest son now 14 can be the most wonderful,loving and prefect child but change into a mean and aggressive boy in 1.5 secs. We are having arguements every day now and they are over stupid things and ive ran out of ideas what to do!!!!!!What do any of you do,well if this happens in your house:ecomcity:
aha! I know EXACTLY how you feel:hugs:
I get stress headaches thinking that it is nearly 3.20pm and the cyclones will be home very soon.
Its like they are Jekyle and Hyde.
2 were away last night and I only had 1 home and it was like being on a tropical island holiday it was so peaceful.
Honestly if there not fighting with me, their brothers or sisters, I am sure they are fighting with themselves.it never stops sometimes and then you will have days of angelic peace(which isnt often)
I am giving lee-way and putting it down to hormones, but I have talked to them about it and suggested that they also need to be mindful of when I am having hormonal days and not to take their mood out on me those particular days:D

They never listen:thumbsdown:

[FOURtunate]

Hi.

I have a 12.5 year old girl. Ever since she started High School (only 5 months ago), we have been having harsh words/doors slamming/crying/rolling of eyes. She was a very good kid in primary school, and she never got into any trouble. But now I'm getting letters home saying that she is too outspoken on class, and too argumentative (no not my Katie!!!!).

I guess it's hard these days because they are expected to be so mature as teenagers. Look at what they are exposed to, that we were not. Adult content in Music, Music Videos, Tv Programs, even advertising. My 10 year old was dancing to a song called "Promiscuous" last night. They don't even try to throw Adult Content in tongue in cheeck anymore. It's so in their faces. How confusing? :confused:

Plus, I have a 2 year old, and I think that teens don't quite like having an annoying baby around. Don't get me wrong, Katie LOVES her brother. But I'm sure she'd love to go shopping in the school holidays without having to be home by midday for nap time.

And don't get me started on her PMS Tanties.........:devil6:

[mich71]

its thoughs years i call i know everything you know nothing everything is an emergancy my 14yr old has been like that since high school started all i can say is what was said to me just hang in there it does get better im still waiting but ive learnt to pick my battles with him only important stuff know its hard but there is no quick fix for this prob its pubity some kids go though mood swings a little later than others hormonoes racing duck for cover when there in a bad mood cause you cant do anything right

[EskimoMumma]

Just wanted to give ALL you lovely mums to teenagers hugs :hugs:


I am now officially scared for when my kids grow up :eek:

[Jo_Jo]

oh be scared be very scared!.....lol:devil6:


oh hell here have a :hugs: because my babyemmy you give them to me when im going through the same stuff, teenagers well they are a handfull god love em, but they can so push you to the edge.....i hear ya babe..there are times when you cant do 1 thing right by them and as calm and understanding you try to be it does not work and then you have no energy left for anyone else or arguing, take a break yourself babe, and hey i find chocolate always a good peace giving.....lol;)


cheers....jo

[mrsd]

I have a 12.5 year old girl. Ever since she started High School (only 5 months ago), we have been having harsh words/doors slamming/crying/rolling of eyes.

My eldest girl is going on 11 in Sept. and we've been having this kind of behaviour for about three years - I just find it so confusing !!
One moment you've got a nice, helpful, intelligent child, the next she's screaming and "everyone hates her" and she has her fingers in her ears for no apparent reason - I don't get it. And the next two girls are starting to copy :(

As a HS teacher, I thought I'd have a few more years before I got to that - hopefully she'll have snapped out of it by the time she's 14 ?? :fingerscrossed:

Either that - or Boarding school ;) !

[SuperMum10/12]

hi my babyemmy l hope you don't mind me having a say l am a proud mum of 10/12 children 3 of my children are teenagers Melissa 19, Jamie 18,and Dylan 14 l can fully understand what you are saying l have been through it all before l am going through the same thing right now with Dylan we took him to see a Psychologist he had 12 visits with her he told her all the things that he was going through as he was refusing to go to school he and l were arguing all the time he would dig his heels in and l guess so do l as we do things a curtain way in my home as with 10 children you need to have rules well at the end of the 12 visits she told us that we had a very clever young son he loves you very much and even thew it feels like that you are at the end of your rope with him he is a 14 year old she said at that age they can not and will not see past them selfs in there eyes they are the only one that mater's to them but that doesn't mean that he is a bad kid so l thought how dose this help me with Dylan he even follows me around and argues with me and he ones said to my friend that he wont give up till he has the last say.... Well you now what l do with him now l tell him to do what he has to do e.g clean his room if he doesn't do this l take his games or TV or what ever he likes off him till it's done also if he is gunning me (as l put it ) then l try with all my might to not go back at him (l tell myself to stay calm don't answer him ) even if he follows me l don't answer him if l reply to him he's got what he wont's he's won and that's what it's all about him thinking he's got to mum he won.....so l think even thew it drives me crease l try not to fight back at him also the other thing is this stage that he is going thew will pass and he will stop arguing with you the other thing that added to my problem my older 2 moved out so Dylan is the oldest at home so he now thinks he's boss of the kids ......

[stefsmum]

hi just wanted to say ur not alone i hav 2 teenages in the house one 17 and the other 14 girl boy they argue like cats and dogs the 17 yr old constantly yells at me and her younger siblings shes moved out several times come back again no change she disrupts the house up all hours barly offers help arond the home. im a working mum with an interstate driver df . i dread it wen im home and i hear her car pull up i think oh no here we go again so ur answer to do u feel like runnin away is **** yeah just for sum peace and quiet. mum of 4 17 14 10 and 5

[Loopy Linda]

i just seen this thread and i think supermum 10/12 has some great advice, i am sure this is my son too.

for now i have told him to stop answering back, i say something, you do it end of conversation. probably not best solution but he drives me nuts. and another thing is everytime he wants to start i give him housework chores, if i have to put up with his nonsense at least i will get my house cleaned!

[WorkingClassMum]

Sorry I don't have teenagers (yet)

I have teenage nephews (I hope that qualifies me a little)

My Bro#1 made his 18yDS use a boxing bag everytime he lost his temper until he was exhausted and apologised

My SSis#2 gives her DS Mens Swisse Multivitamins and its helped

[mybabyandew]

hi i thought i mit have some help for you im a teenage,the best thing to do is preety much stay out of his way not just totally avord him and not talk to him just dont pick at him to do things i find thats the most annyoing thing is when my parents pick at me about things.

[SuperGranny]

hi, i dont want to stop anyone sharing , but the original post was from 2006, maybe that person has left the building, ahah I almost posted my reply before I noticed how old this tread is. Take care, Marie.

[artemis66]

hi all i can advise is to keep communication open don't take their rebuttal as a need for space its to see that your still there.and that you care
i don't want to alarm you but my arguments led to my d to find solace with a liar who offers nothing but freedom and no rules
it's important that you always talk after the storms about how each of you felt and how it can be worked out mutually :o

[mollyk99]

Hi.

I have a 12.5 year old girl. Ever since she started High School (only 5 months ago), we have been having harsh words/doors slamming/crying/rolling of eyes. She was a very good kid in primary school, and she never got into any trouble. But now I'm getting letters home saying that she is too outspoken on class, and too argumentative (no not my Katie!!!!).

..:devil6:

I am sending all my most positive, loving and 'this too shall pass' vibes to you, I really am.

My eldest 2 are now (tgft) 23 and 21. But oh, how I remember.....

My youngest 3 are yet to be teenagers... But oh, how I dread it.

Sometimes, laughter is the best medicine.

My (then) 14 year old DD used to slam doors. Often. Loudly. I have always tried to parent on the theory "Never make a threat you will not carry out"..... I said, one day...."The next time you slam that damn door I'm taking it off the hinges!" She did.

So did I.

It was in the shed for 2 months, after which she begged, pleaded, grovelled, and generally - having sulked for week initially - swore she would never slam it again.

I put it back, and she didn't. My DS (and this still makes me laugh) has never, never, slammed a door in his life.... a 14 yo boy with no ability to shut his bedroom door, would be a boy in trouble, I swear;)

It will pass. Be calm. Do not buy into arguments. I found... "Well, you would know best, of course" in a calm tone, often enraged them, but made me feel in control.

It takes two to argue, and sometimes you can defuse an argument by refusing to buy into it. I could go on for pages, but I'm unwilling to bore you all to death.

good luck! And remember, it really, really will pass.

Molly
Parent of Five, 23 to 4.

[Pax]

i am about to reveal more than i want to but i love my teens so wtf.

tonight my ex husband called me exasperated and upset because after 13 years he finally has both our girls in his care.... my 14 year old daughter has driven him insane :yes:

i am of the opinon that at this age there is little you can do to pressure them. all you can do is be there and support them in their decisions and in their **** ups.

you cant make them do anything anymore

i would say more but i dont want to.

[studyingECS]

This thread is really really old.

But my advise to anyone is to let your teen hibernate..everyone wants alone time right? teens just want extra.:p

[Loopy Linda]

"Well, you would know best, of course" in a calm tone, often enraged them, but made me feel in control. [/quote]

mind if i use this line? i think it is perfect!

also i will be remebering the removal of a door! very clever!

[my_lot]

Lets start a thread for people going nuts because of their teenagers. .....

[ACT1]

Your original post was a few months ago now so I hope that your DS has got through the difficult phase and things are cruising along nicely.

I have a 19yo and I have been very blessed because I had a relatively easy time of it. Whenever he got crabby, moody and wanting to backchat I simply made sure he got extra sleep and presto the problem was gone. Not an easy thing to get teenagers to get more sleep though, and sleep isn't always the answer.

I have personally found 19 a harder age because I have to let him go out and do his own thing and make his own mistakes and hope he learns from them. Letting go is one of the hardest things IMO