What great advice..... NOT!

[Whispers]

So I'm on facebook and my cousins status is

"wishes he would just go to sleep..there's nothing left in my boobs!! "

So there are some great reply's for advice and then there is this one -

"Give him formula if your not doing so good . Trust me"

What sort of advice to you call that?? Am I the only one who see's that as unhelpful?

Don't get me wrong here I have nothing against formula feeding mothers, I think it is a mother's choice. I just hate seeing comments like this which makes the mother feel as if hmm maybe I am not doing to good and should just give him a bottle.

I don't know maybe I'm going on about nothing :laughing: but I really did see that as unhelpful and imply that the motherr should just give up.

[Kema]

No offence but I wouldn't take a comment on a FB status too seriously.

I get your point that its not the best advice but I dont think anyone will go to their FB status over profeesional advice.

Kema:bee:

[gonnabeaGR8mum]

no i agree, it is an extremely unhelpful comment. i had this a few times when i was struggling with my supply and all it did was make me feel like and idiot for struggling with breastfeeding when there was this other "easy" option. i felt wholey inadequate when i thought i couldn't feed her myself.

its good that your cousin has such a supporter of breastfeeding in you and hopefully she will call on you for advice and support.

[MsMummy]

I agree, it is a very unhelpful comment.

And, who knows, it might be the straw that breaks the camel's back. Surely if enough people say that formula is that magic cure-all, people will try it and then there will be more supply problems, and then it's the beginning of the end.

I imagine you're not angry at an isolated facebook comment, but more that it's indicative of the type of rubbish breastfeeding mothers have to put up with.

[Fuchsia!]

Its just how society is now sadly.

[UmmInayah]

Makes me angry.

So what if it is "just a facebook comment" (people on facebook are supposed to be friends, so you would assume advice given would be something you would take into consideration if they were someone you looked up to etc..)

Absolutely no support in that comment whatsoever. And it's the last thing a first time breastfeeding mother who is obviously not having a great day needs to hear.

What a dumbo.

[~BEXTER~]

I think she was just trying to help.

I tried to breast feed I tried for 3 weeks and Keiara just cried till she slept then cried more.

I went to doctors and hospitals and they all told me that she was fine because she sucked for an hour on the boob and was feeding every hour.

I went to see my Aunty and she got me to ring the breast feeding line as she had some concerns and they tell me Keiara is dehydrated because she isn't have wet nappies, you could not hear her swallow and you could not see the milk in the side of her mouth plus she had dry lips.

Took her back to hospital and once again they said she was fine, never checked my milk or anything.

a few days later keiara was just loosing weight and crying every time you held her she was trying to suck your neck looking for food so my grandma went and brought me formula.

From that day she really was fine, I knew she was getting fed, her lips became moist again, she started having ther 6 full wet nappies a day and she stopped crying.

So all I am trying to say is if BF isn't working where is the harm in trying formula? or topping baby up with formula?

Brest feeding doesn't work for everyone.

Sorry if i offend anyone.

[Sheer Bliss]

Makes me angry.

So what if it is "just a facebook comment" (people on facebook are supposed to be friends, so you would assume advice given would be something you would take into consideration if they were someone you looked up to etc..)

Absolutely no support in that comment whatsoever. And it's the last thing a first time breastfeeding mother who is obviously not having a great day needs to hear.

What a dumbo.

:iagree:

I had a similar one not long ago...DD is being really cranky and the first person to respond said that around 4months both hers started fussing and milk was the problem, both went great once she switched to the bottle....it ended with good luck whatever you decide, so there was some element of support. I know that milk isn't the problem, so didn't take the advice, but it worries me that others would see it, and if it was my first, i just might have believed it and weaned early. 4-6months is a tough period with lots of bubs....bottle or breastfed, it usually just happens that you persevere with the breast for a while, then people decide afer several weeks of it to give a bottle, and that co-incides with things getting better....and in most cases (i know it was with both my kids) if you don't give the bottle, bubs gets happier anyway!! It is a phase, nothing to do with milk!!