What do i do about this? Dd 1st birthday party?

[meggie09]

I have a really good friend that has a little boy the same age as dd. However they are jehovah witnesses and dont believe in birthdays, xmas etc... Dd gets along really well with him and they spend alot of time together. Do i invite them or not? Would they get offended if i did?

[PeppaH]

I doubt they will be offended. Just let them know that your DD would like her friend there but you understand if she (?) doesnt want to go because of religious reasons. No harm in asking I reckon.

[FionaV]

I probably wouldn't invite them if they follow it strictly (I've known JW's who are far less strict about children's birthdays than they probably should be). Do you have the sort of relationship where you could mention it to her and just ask? I'm all for being upfront about things whenever possible.

[meggie09]

I probably wouldn't invite them if they follow it strictly (I've known JW's who are far less strict about children's birthdays than they probably should be). Do you have the sort of relationship where you could mention it to her and just ask? I'm all for being upfront about things whenever possible.

they are pretty strict with it. Its not a subject that i really talk to her about much. Its a bit uncomfortable, she gets a bit weird when i talk about xmas etc...

[SimplyMum]

I would just say that you were planning a birthday party for your DD's birthday, and although you are aware of their beleifs you would still like to let them know that you thought of them and perhaps you could do something else instead of. Perhaps a day out or something. Not birthday related- just a day out.

[Beeza8906]

No harm in asking, that way they can make the decision..

[JiminyCricket]

Could you ask her via email, that way theres no akward face to face communication.
Be honest and write to her saying:

Dear Friend,
Dear Daughter is turing one soon and we are having a party to celebrate, we would love you all to come but will understand If you don't attend birthday celebrations due to your religious beliefs.
Anywho the party will be at ..............Place
............ Time
............. Date

Hope you are all well , let me know if you are coming.
Love ...........

See what she says!
She must have been invited to partys tons of times and will continue to when her DD starts school so I am sure she wont be offended, thats something she will have to get used to eventually.

[meggie09]

Thanks heaps ladies. I going to send an invite and a note. Hopefully her little guy can come and have fun :fingerscrossed:

[overitand36]

i just found this funny how their beliefs became your problem

just ask them and don't make it such a big deal

[lochiebearsmum]

i dont think the OP has made it her problem! she is just trying to be sensitive toward her friends feelings... thats what friends do!

[traseal]

I was raised a JW.
I would still invite her and just let the mum know that you dont mean any disrespect and understand if they dont want to come but you didnt want to be rude and not invite

[meggie09]

i dont think the OP has made it her problem! she is just trying to be sensitive toward her friends feelings... thats what friends do!

thanks. I was unsure if i didnt invite them it might be rude or if i do it might insult them.