Priscilla
11-07-2006, 20:40
Hi AP mums,
I'm really hoping you can help me or at least share with me your experiences.
Cameron, now 10months is STILL not sleeping well. His sleeping habits are not consistent even though I'm trying to keep some sort of flexible routine - guideline is a better way of putting it.
Anyway, for a few nights a few weeks ago, he would wake every three hours during the night and that was heaven to me. Now he's back to waking every 40 - 80 mins until I get too tired from resettling which is when I bring him into bed with me and then he'll wake every 80-120mins.
When I am resettling him he's constantly rubbing his face on my shoulder or with his hand which is keeping him from falling asleep. The friction hurts me when he misses my shirt and gets my neck which would surely hurt him too and sometimes he'll put his head back onto my shoulder a bit too hard which definitely hurts him and then he'll start crying again. Resettling can take anywhere from 15mins to 2hours so when you calculate it, the amount of time he's actually asleep and the amount of time I spend resettle is pretty much the 50/50.
I'm so tired. It's so frustrating during each resettling because it seems like fairly firm back/bum patting is mostly what just distract him enough from rubbing to sleep but then just when I think he's asleep, he'll start rubbing again. I feel guilty in case I pat him too hard (sometimes out of frustration). He's never started crying from the firmness of the patting which tells me I'm not hurting him, but I think awful things like how I hate him and then I feel so so so guilty when he's finally asleep and I see how peaceful he is..... I'm so close to breaking point.
From about 4:30am onwards, he wakes every 40mins. I'd be happy to have him hanging off my boob 24/7 if it just wasn't sooo exhausting and draining.
I DON'T want to resort to CC but am afraid it's my only choice.
How do your babies sleep? How do you cope???
I'm really hoping you can help me or at least share with me your experiences.
Cameron, now 10months is STILL not sleeping well. His sleeping habits are not consistent even though I'm trying to keep some sort of flexible routine - guideline is a better way of putting it.
Anyway, for a few nights a few weeks ago, he would wake every three hours during the night and that was heaven to me. Now he's back to waking every 40 - 80 mins until I get too tired from resettling which is when I bring him into bed with me and then he'll wake every 80-120mins.
When I am resettling him he's constantly rubbing his face on my shoulder or with his hand which is keeping him from falling asleep. The friction hurts me when he misses my shirt and gets my neck which would surely hurt him too and sometimes he'll put his head back onto my shoulder a bit too hard which definitely hurts him and then he'll start crying again. Resettling can take anywhere from 15mins to 2hours so when you calculate it, the amount of time he's actually asleep and the amount of time I spend resettle is pretty much the 50/50.
I'm so tired. It's so frustrating during each resettling because it seems like fairly firm back/bum patting is mostly what just distract him enough from rubbing to sleep but then just when I think he's asleep, he'll start rubbing again. I feel guilty in case I pat him too hard (sometimes out of frustration). He's never started crying from the firmness of the patting which tells me I'm not hurting him, but I think awful things like how I hate him and then I feel so so so guilty when he's finally asleep and I see how peaceful he is..... I'm so close to breaking point.
From about 4:30am onwards, he wakes every 40mins. I'd be happy to have him hanging off my boob 24/7 if it just wasn't sooo exhausting and draining.
I DON'T want to resort to CC but am afraid it's my only choice.
How do your babies sleep? How do you cope???