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babyno.1
04-08-2005, 13:20
I am 5 mths pregnant and the Father and I broke up and we are not speaking, he is aware he is the Father and did say he wanted to have his name on the birth certificate. I was wanting to find out if he needs to sign the application or can I just put his name down as he is being very difficult (I know I have a few more months before I need this but its just playing on my mind). Also I was told that if you don't claim for child support you can't get parenting parent single from Centrelink. I am a bit confused as I would like to do this by myself and really don't want to claim child support but I do want his name on the birth cert. Does anyone have any advice?
Kamaikia
04-08-2005, 15:29
I was in this situation not too long ago. Unfortunatley you can't have it both ways - if he is on birth certificate he has to pay child support. the only way to not claim child support is to say you do not know who the father is - therefore his name can't be on BC. To get his name on it he has to sign in front of a witness. if he won't then you fill in his details and send it off without his signature and births deaths and marraiges will send him a form to sign if he wants his name on it.
My ex wouldn't sign the birth certificate form which screwed me with child support as i had to either get him to sign a stat dec saying he was the father or get a DNA test done. While waiting for him to sign any forms my payments were cut.
And yes you will lose your payments if you don't claim child support within 28 days.
Its not easy so try talking to him so you can figure out what to do. feel free to PM me if you want
Hi There, I am in the same situation, I'm a single Mum to a 4 month old boy. Riley's Dad and I are working together (and I just returned to work), in the beginning of my pregnancy all was good, but then he started with smart *** comments as to he isn't sure if he is the father. So, as soon as Riley was born I went to Centrelink (they are quite helpful and very understanding at times!) for my Payments and also got hm registered with The Chils Support Agency. You CAN tell them that you know who the father is and tell them that you have a private arrangement for payments from the father (even if you don't want $$ from him). Riley's Dad has obviously not signed the BC nor signed a Stat Dec, but I've been told by the Registry of Birth that you can amend this and get it signed by the father once the Paternity Test has been done. IF you want DNA Testind, I advise you to contact Child Suppoer, they refer you to Legal Aid and they will do EVERYTHING for you!! Like I said it's been 4 months now, and I've been told that the DNA Testing is not too far off...........if you need any more info, PM me and we can have a chat ...Belinda
Kamaikia
04-08-2005, 19:47
Yeah thats right - but if you are going to go for a dna test you have to get the wheels in motion within a certain time period so you don't lose any money.
I also told child support that my son's father and I have a private agreement and they accepted that but i was told that if the father is earning alot of money, then they may question this and the amount of money that should be deducted from your pension.
Yeah, I thought all I had to do was to register with CSA and it'll all sort itself out. But then Centrelink had to make an appointment for a social worker to see me to get Legal Aid Assistance - which was good, as I would have never known what to do next. So at the moment I'm dealing with Legal Aid only, and still get paid from Centrelink. Like I said, until we get the DNA Testing done it can take another couple of months (so I've been told) as now it's his word against mine and the Family Law Court has to decide and request the DNA Test. The other problem I am facing then wether to contact his parents, I know that he hasn't told them yet, but I want to give them the chance to meet their grandson. It's just a bummer situation cause we work together.........
Kamaikia
04-08-2005, 20:25
Must be a hard situation. Least my ex accepts that my son is his - I don't think I could have been calm about it all if he questioned me. And as far as telling his family my thoughts are - you are his mother its up to you to see that he has every opportunity in life. You have tried to get his father involved and he has made a choice he will have to live with and I think that his family should have the choice also. My family is very involved in my nephews life even though his father, my brother isn't. Yes it will always be hard for him knowing that his father is a dik who doesn't want him but at least he will know that we did - it isn't that he isn't loveable its just that his father has no heart.
But only do this if you are prepared for anything. Have you considered how you will react if they don't want to know him?
This may be personal but what do you hope to happen after the dna test. Do you think that if his father has the proof he will want to be involved and are you willing to let him be after making you go through all this.
delainey
11-08-2005, 20:36
So then how does that work for me? who doesnt want to name the father and he doesnt want anything to do with the child.I was told I just had to sign a stat of declaration saying this and all should be fine but if I do then what money will I miss out on.I was not wanting any maintanence or any money from the father just the Centrelink payments.Im so very confused with all the legal whoo haa.
Kamaikia
11-08-2005, 21:35
You need to be really careful - if you tell them you know who the father is then you will be stuffed around while child support contact him. If he denies the baby is his then comes dna - I think that you should decide if you are going to name him first or say you have absolutly no idea who the father is.You can't sogn a stat dec just saying you know who father is but he doesn't want baby - you will get caught up in the ugly system that way. Feel free to pm me if you want to talk more ok
Crazyfamily
12-08-2005, 08:52
Hi,
I know someone who didn't want anything to do with the father of her baby so told centrelink and child support she didn't know who the father is. Now she is having to go through the process of giving any information she has on the father and a private investigator is in involved. It isn't that easy to just say you don't know. I also know of someone who wasn't sure which person was the father of her baby (it could have been 3) They did a paternity test on the one most likely first and then the other 2. It turned out to be the one she had sex with only once.
I realise you do know who the father is but I would get proper advice. Phone centrelink and child support without telling them who you are and ask them.
Good luck.
Miss_Vicki
12-08-2005, 13:25
hi I just was speaking to centerlink about this , As my pregneacey arose from a one nite stand , an they guy is still threatin bad stuff an spitting chips i did'nt stick to my agreement of killing it..
anyhows , so ill be sayin No dad , ill tell them the truth pretty much , (make sure your story is straight) i know, i know the dad , but he is a heavey drug user an past history of spouse violence an so on..
centerlink said id be sent to one of their social workers an tell them my situation An if they feel its enoughf grounds to say Father unknown then ill be pardoned from havin to chase child suport..
csa have private investergaters so if u say u know the town an where his lives an even Just a first name they can find them for u !
if the dad Isnt goin to be on the certificate an u really sure with that agreement Then stick with One nite stand.. an u dont know his wear abouts an dont know last name
ie bob i met at the club came back to my place , never left a number nor a address an didnt know his last name an so on
just make sure story is straight
i so wont be havin anythin to do with sperm doner epes after he threated to kill me
sorry for hijacking !!
pm me or msn me if wanta chat about been preg an Not havin the dad on certificate or any contac :P
sweetlovein69@hotmail.com
angelfish979
17-08-2005, 17:56
You could also try calling Legal Aid, they will give you advice about it over the phone for free. I think it's tempting to say you don't know who the father is but could lead to even more issues down the track... and who wants father "unkown" on their birth cert? Maybe better to put the ball in their court and let them decide if they sign the birth cert or not. Admittedly if they demand DNA testing that's pretty stressful but what's new about that when you're a single mother trying to do it all!
:mad:
Hi there! (i know this is an old forum topic but fingers crossed!)
Im a new member of BubHub so this is all new to me but anyway,i'll start at the beginning.I was doing a Google search,typed in 'the fathers name isnt on birth certificate' and it brought me to this forum...anyway...the answers to the first persons question was great! So i thought i'd post my question to find out what you guys did regarding the same issue.I have a 3yo daughter to a man that i was only seeing for a few weeks.We knew it was never going to be anything serious so when he got posted to Townsville with the Army i wasnt to fazed by the thought of him going.Sooo..turns out i got pregnant & ever since its been a nightmare trying to contact him.I have his old mobile number (he met our daughter once when she was 3 months old) & i have his mums number/address and his brothers mobile number plus all of their emails! Im in regular contact with his brother but he doesnt know that.So i know that he has recently left the Army and is now travelling overseas.I recently had an appointment with Centrelink,just a review with an FAO officer and as usual they give me the Child Support Agency forms to take home and call them so that i can either claim child support or get an exemption from it.But every time i have done this i get passed back to the Family Assistance Office and then they pass me back to the CSA! So in 3yrs nothing has been done coz im sick of being passed around! I dont want anything from him,just his name on her birth certificate so then i can claim an exemption and Centrelink will pay a whopping $60 more which i dont want but theyre on my back about it anyway.When i have called the CSA they say they cant do anything without him signing a Stat Dec which i have sent off to him before (& no reply!).I have no idea what to do now...i called his mother for the first time this morning (answering machine) she has never met my daughter and im hoping she'll give me the info i need.I dont even know if she knows she has a grandchild!Is it just me that think some men dont deserve to carry sperm or what! So what should i do? I dont know where to start or who to go to about all this...do i need to get a DNA test done,if so i still need to find out where he is dont i? If anyone can help it'd be much appreciated! xox
catalicious
12-04-2006, 12:34
Hi Sweetheart,
I know exactly how you are feeling!! Didnt happen to a friend or whatever it happened to me. Ok my first son I thought it was one person, because we where together all the time and then slept with one other person one time. Turned out unfortunatly that the person I wanted it to be wasnt the father.
Had to go to child support and say a name, yes they do have private investigators, but they dont always use them. My sons dad had a very common name and there where too many with that name in the area. I then went to legal aid and they wrote on a letter that based on the information they have been given they cannot find his father. (I guess the info you chose to give them is up to you)
So then I got an exemption from child support saying nobody has to pay.
I then had my second son, (his dad is the one who I thought was my first sons) and he was being a jerk saying I got out of this the first time Im not signing, so we had a DNA test and he now has to pay child support but thats only because I wanted his name on there.
HOWEVER.....
My first sons BC does not say father unknown. Like they would do that to a child. It just says nothing its blank. Some people might find this just as bad but this way you can explain the situation to your child.
Just be sure to be honest. I wrote a letter shortly after my first sons birth explaining honestly what happened and will give this to him when the time is right. So no facts get forgotton or put to your liking.
These things happen and we just need to live with them. I know if you love your baby that is all that will matter.
If you need any more help or advise then feel free to message me.
Goodluck sweetheart. :thumbsup:
catalicious
12-04-2006, 12:54
Hi I only just read you post. :hugs:
Ithink if you really want his name on the BC you are going to have to get them to try and find him for you or you are going to have to try a little bit harder with his family.
If he is being a jerk and wont sign when he is found, stating he doesnt know she is his, if you go to legal aid, you will both have to pay for half of the test and if it comes back that she is his he has to pay you back if it comes back that she isnt you have to pay him back.
Legal aid though will pay for your half but if it comes back not as expected by you you then have to give them the money back too.
Good Luck with it all:fingerscrossed:
I went thru this a few years ago. I wanted my son's father on the certificate for the reason of having his name. But the father did a runner the day I told him, tho I knew where he was he wouldn't see me or answer any of my calls. When my DS was born I left him a msg on his mob and I dropped around some photos of our son. A few weeks later I contacted CSA to claim maitenance, not to get at him or to punish him but I needed financial help or I wouldn't be able to look after the both of us anyway they asked me if I knew and I said yes, gave them his address and phone number etc... all I knew and they came back to me saying he wanted DNA tests. I called Legal Aide (fantastic people) they told me wat I needed to do and say, So when he dragged me into court I was prepared and the judge ordered DNA tests. He was the father and tho our son was now 9mths old he had to backpay me from when I orginally applied for child support (when our son was 1mth old). He wouldn't sign the papers for the BC so when I recieved the certificate it had the fathers area blank. Because I knew and had proof who the father was he wouldn't and still doesn't acknowledge his son. SO my boy has my surname which he shouldn't but noone can force his father to sign the paperwork.
Go thru CSA even if you don't want the money put it in the bank for the child, child support is there for a reason, it's their for the child not you.
I beleive in this situation always tell the truth, because it eventually comes back to bite you. Especially when your child asks you who his father is.
mummy sam
13-04-2006, 09:32
Hi Leonie firstly, welcome to bub hub :smiliedance:
Well isn't it funny we always think that we are alone and then we relise that we are infact not alone...
My bub was the result of a 1night stand i didnt get his phone number or anything so when it came to centrelink i just told them the truth. And then i also had to sign a sat dec for both centrelink and birth deaths and marriages (to say that it was the truth) for his name not to be on the birth cert.
Yes i didnt know his name i kew his first name and where he worked so they prob could find him.
Maybe give centrelink the details you have, you've tried to find him and you can't but i'm sure if they had the details they could find him.
Sorry i'm not much help but your not alone adn this is the place to talk about it all
I haven't been in here for a while but would like to say how sorry i am that many of you have had to go through this. I was lucky enough that i was able to track down the guy who fathered my girl and he is willing to do the right thing by us. I know from talking to my friends how lucky i am as some of them have no idea where the fathers of their kids are and they have told me all about the hassles they had like many of you.
Hello to everyone,
I'm only new to bub hub but thought Id have a look around after finding some spare time when my new baby girl is asleep. I found this site and this thread jumped out at me immediately. And I wondered what advice if any anyone has in relation to my situation. And I must admit . .even though mine is a little different, its so nice to know your not alone in this world.
My little girl was born 31st March 2006. Her father and I are no longer together. We are on good speaking terms which is a bonus but the problem lies in the fact he is in the USA. Thats where he lives. he stay some months in australia last year and upon his return home, we found out I was pregnant. There is no question on him being the father but I chose to leave him off the birth certificate for now as I doubt the paper work could of been done in the time they give you, especially when you need to send things overseas and get them signed. I figure I can always put his name on it at a later date if need be. my question lies in the fact that like some of the others, child support from him is not my concern. But I do worry what will happen with centrelink in terms of him being overseas. I do know details etc for him but I can also say that I dont know them as well. I guess its a toss up. I think the best option is always the truth but I wonder what you all think??
krisseh
mummy to Matilda - 31/3/2006
catalicious
18-04-2006, 12:00
Hi Krisseh,
IMO I think you should tell Centrelink the details. The birth Cert can be fixed at a later date if he signs a Stst Dec but you should tell Centrelink the truth, you have no reason not too.
They wouldnt have to collect the money for you if you dont want, he could set up a payment transfer from his account, you might lose a few dollars for this but at least this keeps you guys on good terms and gives your daughter that little something else.
Its just my opinion but I think you should give them his details, cause they dont have to chase him, you could post him the stat dec for centrelink and he could post it back as long as you let them know whats going on they can give you the time you need to do this.
Goodluck.
sunnyflower
18-04-2006, 13:15
hi i was also ina similar situation but if you don't apply for child support theywill cut your benefits.the father of my child only signed the birth certificate after i threatened him with legal action.he is registered with the child support agency,what a joke,he has paid me the grand total of a couple of hundred dollars in the last four years.if you really don't want money from him,you could ask for a private agreement and then just tell centrelink what he is supposedly paying you.however this will also affect your pensoin.good luck!!
Get the dads name on bc if pos. Even if it takes a DNA test.
I didn't know my dad and my mum had to warn me off dating my cousin because I didn't know we were related.
Scary.
if you have the father on the birth certificate and are recieving the full rate of single parenting payment from centrelink you will not have your payments "cut off" but rather have an amount "deducted" or withheld" (about $90) until you call child support agency to notify them of the details of the father.
yummymummy
03-05-2006, 08:14
My daughters father refused to sign the birth certificate but is paying child maintenance? Yes i dont understand either ??? He is a UK resident and CSA have managed to track him down.............all i can say is be very honest about what you say because it could come back to nip you in the bum later.
Mum2Lucas
03-05-2006, 11:37
you can also get an exemption from getting him to pay child support in certain circumstances. I know alot of people with exemptions from that including myself.
Hi Krisseh,
IMO I think you should tell Centrelink the details. The birth Cert can be fixed at a later date if he signs a Stst Dec but you should tell Centrelink the truth, you have no reason not too.
They wouldnt have to collect the money for you if you dont want, he could set up a payment transfer from his account, you might lose a few dollars for this but at least this keeps you guys on good terms and gives your daughter that little something else.
Its just my opinion but I think you should give them his details, cause they dont have to chase him, you could post him the stat dec for centrelink and he could post it back as long as you let them know whats going on they can give you the time you need to do this.
Goodluck.
Now I bet my post is going to be rather uncommon - for the simple reason I am a Father and not a Mum (although the truth beknown, each parent has to do a bit of both).
If you will permit me the time, I will explain my situation and why I wish to have my name off the certificate for now (hopefully I can get it added later) and CSA out of the picture.
Sorry if I am being vague in this post but I am keeping information to a bare minimum.
Here's my situation:
I have a number of children with my wife (let's say 'X') (I'm happily married I might add) and another child to someone else (lets' say 'Y'), who's very very close to both myself and my wife.
The person very close ('Y') is consequently a single mum technically but we are always over at each others place (that's all of us) at least every second day helping each other out. We basically do just about everything together as a giant extended family.
I pay 'Y's credit card each month, which she lives off of and her centrelink payments pay off her mortgage. She has not contacted CSA because she doesn't want to lie to them about naming the father (basically she doesn't want to say she doesn't know who it is when she does).
The money I pay out (which incidentally I am happy to do so - in fact, I keep telling her to stop buying cheap stuff because I want her and my daughter to have nice things - within reason of course) is in excess of what centrelink pay her, even if CSA were to get involved. I also pay for additional things here and there, like meals when we are all out etc etc etc - I don't keep an account of the money because I consider it to be all of ours anyhow -
So naming the father in this case will cause both her to loose money and myself (and therefore, all the kids). Everyone is actually much better off keeping CSA out of the picture totally. In fact, judging by the amount of money I pay out, I might be better off if CSA was on my back - but 'Y' would not be, and therefore my kids would not be and it's not about what's best for one or two but for everyone involved.
I am involved as much as I possibly can be with mine and 'Y's child - including decision making, pre-school/school selection, discipline techniques etc etc etc - in fact, I often tend to give the child (gee I hate calling my kid 'child') extra because I just hate the fact that the child is growing up without a Dad in the house. There's just something special about getting up in the middle of the night to make sure your little one's are still tucked up nice and warm especially on cold nights and staying up with them all night when they are sick, falling asleep on the end of their bed because they were having nightmares etc. I've never grown tired of tucking them in on the most cold of nights when hearing the slightest whimper or cough in the dead of night. And the smile you get when you are half awakened by a little person sneaking in under the covers next to you! Yeah, I'm a big softie and for me, it will actually be a sad day when they are too old to climb in next to me and get snuggly and warm!
I've read some horror stories about CSA and how they can really screw over families in the pursuit of money - it's possibly an angle that people on this forum may not know about, since this is obviously largely a mother’s forum.
If you are interested in reading just what CSA does to some of those fathers out there, go and check out www.whirlpool.net.au (http://www.whirlpool.net.au) and do a search on 'child support - men's rights', you may see some eye openers and you will quickly see how CSA can turn a neutral father into a difficult/unhelpful one.
Anyhow - thanks for taking the time to listen. See, I was adopted and then had to grow up through 3 divorces with my mum as a single mum, so I know what it's like to grow up with a single parent (solo mum's they were called in those days) - it's not nice. You can theorize all you want and quote what-ever study you want to say that single parented kids are fine, but I maintain that kids are best when both parents are involved and part of the parenting process. I grew up in state housing areas were single mum's are rife and children go without role models etc - it's really sad.
From what I've seen and heard from other people's accounts, CSA does not always help - so involve them as a last resort in my opinion.
If the father to your children is just running scared, give him some room, help him realise that being a dad is just the greatest experience he will ever have and that's he doesn't need to be perfect, just available and willing to learn along the journey that you all want to take part in.
When I found out I was going to be a dad, I was a stunned mullet. My wife asked "What's wrong - I thought you'd be happy".
My reply was "I sort of am, but I know how selfish I am and that this is going to cost me!"
I'm glad to report though that I would do it all again 100 times if I could - I really feel sorry for those dad's out there that run - they just don't understand how much you can grow as a person when your a dad - It's just the best. It will cause you to tackle and address some of those deepest darkest things in your nature! Like a rollercoaster ride - scary but pumped with excitement. just to know that as a dad you don't have to be perfect is so much needed for new dads to hear - the media/families/friends etc paint a total **** picture to dad's about perfect families etc that it's no wonder so many of them do the bolt!
If he's just a sneaky, lazy, dad, avoid responcilbity however, then by all means, CSA may be your only bet, but when I read people saying that you should put the name on the certificate no matter what, I just had to pipe up and try and show you my perspective.
By the way - later on, I want to have my name on the certificate for sure - as I want 'Y's and my child to have access to certain things not available without my name on the certificate.
Give your kids an extra hug - they are certainly worth it.
Thanks for reading this very long post...
:-)
newmummy06
13-12-2006, 06:11
When by boyfriend and I were expecting our daughter we new we were in way too much debt to just live on his wage and what centrelink give us, so we decided that I would claim sole parent pension. I claimed he was a one night stand (I had to have an interview with a centrelink social worker and SHE wrote out the statement and i had to sign it) and i had to show them the birth certificate showing that the father wasnt on it.
My dilemma which is different from all of yours is that one day i definitely DO want my boyfriend on the certificate. I think I have to get a DNA test for this and we will pay the money and have him put on the certificate (before my daughter goes to school) but my question is:
Will births deaths and marriages tell centrelink?
Do I need to tell centrelink that suddenly I have dna tested my boyfriend (hmmm...dodgy)
Do I need to contact CSA if I'm not claiming child support and we are together?
What a tangled web I have weaved!
The system is unfair..:no:
It's time they changed it.. as if being a single mum isn't hard enough without the stress of child support payments and birth certs.
Buddha Bubbas
13-12-2006, 09:41
The system is unfair..:no:
It's time they changed it.. as if being a single mum isn't hard enough without the stress of child support payments and birth certs.
:thumbsup: :yes: yes it bloody is. i have received a letter from CSA telling me that my payments will be reduced because DDs father has another child. but does he??? fathers DO NOT need to prove this to CSA! yep, they can just call up and say i have another child and their exempted amount goes up! what a bloody joke :rolleyes:
OneBabyBoy
13-12-2006, 23:19
When by boyfriend and I were expecting our daughter we new we were in way too much debt to just live on his wage and what centrelink give us, so we decided that I would claim sole parent pension. I claimed he was a one night stand (I had to have an interview with a centrelink social worker and SHE wrote out the statement and i had to sign it) and i had to show them the birth certificate showing that the father wasnt on it.
My dilemma which is different from all of yours is that one day i definitely DO want my boyfriend on the certificate. I think I have to get a DNA test for this and we will pay the money and have him put on the certificate (before my daughter goes to school) but my question is:
Will births deaths and marriages tell centrelink?
Do I need to tell centrelink that suddenly I have dna tested my boyfriend (hmmm...dodgy)
Do I need to contact CSA if I'm not claiming child support and we are together?
What a tangled web I have weaved!
Geez you didnt have to leave him off the birth certificate!! My partner and I split up when I was 30 weeks pregnant and he is on the birth certificate because he is the father afterall and I had absolutely no problem getting sole parents pension. Mine is not a lie like yours but I guess I could have done the same thing if I was still with him. Centrelink wouldn't know. All they did for proof was call 2 of my friends to double check my story, they just asked how long we had been split for and where my ex lives now and questions like that. I did not have to have an interview with a social worker because I knew who the father was - we are just seperated parents.
I also had to contact CSA to apply for child support which you could have done aswell as its your money anyway just going from your boyfriends account into yours.
I think you went too far with your lie.
How are you going to tell your daughter why you left her father off the birth certificate? Just so you could fraudulently take money from the government? Even after a birth certificate is amended it says at the bottom of the certificate what the amendments are (I know this because I have myself changed my own name) What are you teaching your daughter about right and wrong? What kind of role model are you for your child. :shame:
:thumbsup: :yes: yes it bloody is. i have received a letter from CSA telling me that my payments will be reduced because DDs father has another child. but does he??? fathers DO NOT need to prove this to CSA! yep, they can just call up and say i have another child and their exempted amount goes up! what a bloody joke :rolleyes:
This is simply not true!
All facts have to be verified - there is no way CSA accepts anyone ringing up or just writing a letter and saying "oh, I support more kids, please give me a break and reduce my payments". Under the privacy act, you are shut out from knowing the actual facts (and fair enough too) but I know for a fact that claims of additional children being supported are verified.
The statement you make is yet another example of subliminal father bashing.
If you really want a full balanced view, I dare you to have a read of some of the fathers forums around and you'll see that there's a greater view than just what I notice is presented by some on this site.
There are some people who presents information on this site that's just wrong and not true and what makes the act of doing so bad, is that others then base their opinions etc upon these incorrect facts - thus compounding the miscommunication and mistrust problems between parents.
I grew up in a single parent house and my father didn't pay support (this was many years ago) - we really struggled with 5 kids and no support so I do know what it's like to not have enough, even so, to my mum's credit, she never thought it necessary to win any cheap tricks by resorting to verbal father bashing statements or telling porkies about how my father was skipping payments!
So please - present facts because what you claim as fact that fathers can just say they have additional children to support and it's unverified is simply not true and it distorts the situation and continues the misnomer that all fathers out there want to avoid child support payments.
Do you realise that CSA officers have been shown on numerous occassions to falsify records, deliberately leave out facts and change communications logs, and that doing so has been disadvantaging fathers by making them seem delinquate in payment arrangements etc?
I can actually understand why some fathers get so annoyed that they go out of their way to avoid payments etc because the CSA often do not do the best for both parties concerned and this increases the frustration for all concerned.
Just keep that in mind the next time CSA tell you the father is playing stalling tactics, don't always believe them because they have been shown to spin plenty of yarns to avoid showing up their incompetance.
Remember, CSA works for the government and their mandate is to get as much money as possible so-as to reduce the debt to the government and the number of cases where their tactics are at loggerheads of a harmonious family arrangement outside of their control are numerous.
I just wanted to leave a bit of an update on whats happened. I had forgotten Id posted on this for a long while!
Well Matilda is now 8.5 mths old and as yet have received not one single child support payment from her father. I went to Centrlink and applied for everything and they of course said I would have to register with CSA. I did so and after explaining all about him being overseas etc, they were going to chase him up after I gave them as Much info as possible, which luckily enough meant I am able to receive full benefits. His name is not on the BC but only because he has not signed the forms. I did send the details in but it is left blank.
I talk to her father maybe once a fortnight online and honestly he doesnt seem to interested but I always send him photos Ive taken and let him know whats been going on. Im hoping he will wake up and realise what a wonderful thing he is missing out on.
I always update CSA of any new address or phone number I get from him so maybe one day I will get a nice surprise . He says he has had contact with them but as he is very much a known liar .I will believe it when I see it!
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