Told to stop TTC

[3 bambinos]

I was so happy today and feeling like everything is finally going my way, I recently got an increase in pay and workhours which was sorely needed. Just something about today felt good and then it all came crashing down on me.

:crying: I'm currently in the TWW and have just been to my pscychiatrist who told me that the medication that I'm on (and was on when I had DS) is now no longer considered safe when pregnant. He has told me that I will have to be slowly weaned of it and put onto something else. This will take three months and I shouldn't TTC until I'm on my new medication. I told him that I will be testing next week and he said if I'm pregnant I have to come straight in and be admitted to hospital and have my medication changed immediately.

I don't know what to hope for. I really want to be pregnant now and not have to wait any longer, especially three more months before we can even try again. But I don't want to have to go into hjospital in the next week or so. In 10 days it will be my DS' first birthday and I CAN'T miss that, also DH is going in for an operation on his shoulder on Thursday so he won't be able to look after DS on his own should I have to go to hospital.

It's all pointing to having to hope that I'm not pregnant but I just can't get myself to do that. I've already had a perfectly healthy baby while on this medication, maybe my body tolerates it and doesn't get the side effects others have had. Why was it considered safe last year and then not this year, it isn't a new medication :mad: :banghead:

I don't know what to do or what to feel but I feel like I am losing the chance to have the family I wanted. It's silly because its only a three month wait but right now it feels like forever away. I'm trying to think on the positive side that at least now I have more time to lose some of the excess weight I have and get healthier to carry my next baby but I just want to be pregnant NOW.

Tonight I just felt like holding my DS and crying that I can't give him the brother or sister I so wanted him to have. I tried to tell myself how lucky I was that he was born so healthy and not to hope to be pregnant as that could put my unborn baby at risk but... arrgghh I want to be pregnant!!!

Sorry for rambling on, I just needed to vent and I'm hoping that someone has some words of wisdom that can help me see sense in this matter because right now I'm confused.

[Livy]

Hi tomsmum - I am sure whatever happens this month will be meant to be. And if u do not get your BFP - then I am sure these next few months will fly by. Good luck - I hope everything works out just the way you want it :fingerscrossed:

[luckymama]

hey there
I really hope everything works out for you and :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[chindonly]

I know how you feel!

I have a DD and really want to give her a sibling so badly but have had 3 m/cs that have really distressed me quite a bit.

Last Sept I had a molar pregancy and was told by my Ob that I had to wait until my HCG levels had decreased - and that took 7 mths!!

Then the 1st mth ttc I fell pregnant only to lose that one too:-( Now I'm waiting again!

It is really frustrating but we'll get there!!

Our yearning to have another is too strong not to!

[My Miracle Baby]

:hugs: What a set back. It is hard trying to conceive, let alone having this burden on you too. I hope everything works out for you.

[Bel1978]

I hope it all turns out ok, If you are pregnant do not worry as much as you said your First one turned out ok.

Im up to my 3rd attempt this year... :fingerscrossed:

[nuddle]

that sucks.. can I ask which med you are on?? I was on lovan for 8 months, and was told that would be safe, not as safe as zoloft, but still safe, however, I chose to go off it before ttc, my dr didnt agree, but that was my choice.
This is going to be tough either way, if you are pg this cycle, then what are they going to do in the hospital?? dont understand that, and if you are not, hang in there, the three months will pass... :hugs:

[3 bambinos]

I'm on arapax and they plan to switch me over to zoloft. If I am pregnant they will hospitalize me to take me off arapax immediately and start zoloft, I guess its to see if I react badly to going off my meds (which I did when I tried to stop when pregnant with DS)

I'm feeling a bit more resigned to it today. Three months isn't that long even though it feels like forever away. It's just that when it comes to TTC I'm impatient, I guess it's because I'm already 35 I feel like I have to do it NOW before it's too late.

I'm secretely hoping to be pregnant now and I'll just wait until the day after DS's birthday to go into hospital. It will be hard but I can organize it if I have to. The thought of spending a week away from DS is horrible though, he is my life!

[nuddle]

.......:hugs:

[Hokey Pokey]

:hugs: I hope everything works out ok :hugs:

[ChubStar]

Sorry to hear about your problem Tomsmum. My hubby was on arapax just briefly and the come down effect when you go cold turkey can be pretty full on. I'm surprised they wuld consider it safe to do so if you were pregnant. The possible effects on an unborn baby must be pretty severe to warrant that sort of action.

I do kinda know how you feel. I was told a few months ago that I couldn't start TTC because I had to get ultrasound therapy on my lower back, which can cause m/c and other complications. So the month I was going to start TTC, was put off until 3 months down the track. I was angry and upset as I didn't want to have to wait, but the time did pass and we are now in our first TTC month.

:fingerscrossed: that whatever you want to happen, works out for you.