Scared

[Sarak7]

Hi..

I hope i don't sound selfish but i am so.. scared that when bub is older she/he will turn around and say "I'm going to live with dad" and DAD is gonna soak it in thinkin he is all that when he didn't give a flying fu*k
when i was preg with bub or when bub was little.

IT'S FRUSTRATING ME!!

Also if the ex gets to visit his child i'm afraid he is gonna bad mouth me, spoil bub, let bub do whatever he/she pleases, make bub wanna stay with him cause he has a big family with lots of lil children around bub's age which would be bub's cousins... ARGH!!! i just don't know

I'm not selfish.. really! Just so worried sick to think i'll get all the horrid times, labour, stretch marks, dirty nappies, sleepless nights.. and Mr Perfect will get all the good times.

Makes me wanna give up right now.

[MeeG]

when my parents spilt up my dad tried so hard for us to think he was so great even after what he did to my mum, he offered to take us out and stuff like that growing up he was always away in the navy and us always travelling so we never really got to settle down anywhere, but from my childhood i remember how much fun jus hangin out with my mum and sister was, how mum would make us cookies and we'd help her bake other stuff we'd go to the park... its stuff like that we remember not all the toys and junk that jus gets thrown out its how much fun we had and all the the love and attention she gave me

[ziggie]

No matter what your ex says, bub will only have 1 mummy, and you're IT!
It won't matter what he says about you, bub will know in his heart that you're a wonderful mum, and nothing will change that. Just shower him/her with all your love, and do the best that you know how. If he does resort to bad mouthing you, don't stoop to his level by doing it back, and you'll end up coming off the better parson... Keep your chin up :hugs:

[Niki]

i think that most kids take there mums side no matter wat!!! your ex wouldnt no wat it takes to raise a child by himself at that point and will probably be too used to his freedom to be able to make the change!! you sound like you will be a great mum

[Veritas]

Kids are pretty smart.... and intuitive... a lot moreso than some people give them credit for....

Trust me that your little one will realise who is really there for them unconditionally, and realise that just cos one parent spoils you does not make up for all the time they miss... and that its not ok to bad mouth the other parent.... you might even find that he/she sticks up for you if and when it happens!

Just concentrate on enjoying the moment right now, and all the great stuff you'll get to experience with your little one.... the other stuff may never even happen.... no use worrying about something you can't control!

[Starlet]

You're not alone hun, I'm no longer a single mum, but my biggest fear is losing my kids to their dad!

It tears me up inside when I think of having to live without them with me every day.

I'm probably making the situation worse, just wanted to say that ur not alone in having those feelings!