Still confused

[Manxie]

Hi

Right I hope someone can help as I'm a bit lost:rolleyes:

DD is eleven months - I am slowly weaning her and am down to two breastfeeds morning and night. Well that's the official version, unofficially most nights we are sneaking in an extra couple of feeds:eek: I think at least one of these extras is genuine hunger but admit that the other is probably comfort!

Anyway, in the last couple of days DD has decided that cows milk is rather tasty, I have previously just been giving her water as she didn't seem that taken with the Cows milk. So....

How much cows milk should I offer her?
When do I offer it?
I am assuming that the next logical b/feed to chop out is the p.m. one but do I just keep going until the middle of the night ones disappear and then give her the cows milk at bedtime. Last night I gave her cows milk and hour or so before her bedtime feed and she was still hungry at 1am. She eats a fairly good amount of solids.

Can someone please help - I'm feeling really lost and worry that I am doing the wrong thing:(

[Funkychicken]

I can't recall exactly when we started giving cows milk on a regular basis but I do remember the last feed to drop was the bedtime feed. This was about 14 1/2 months. This was our most special one and the one that I hung onto most! I remember giving cows milk in a sipper cup (one of those leakproof ones) morning and night for some time. Our DS#1 was a milk fiend so hw was still having one of these in the morning at 3! In between I just offered water in a sipper cup. Good luck-it can be such a sad time when weaning happens.:)

[Manxie]

OMG arjent:eek: I dont think I can keep this up for another two years! I am starting to feel completely and utterly shattered and dont know how much longer I can cope. Dont get me wrong I love the cuddles during the night but man I'm tired. I suppose I am also bowing to peer pressure and believing all those other mums who say that their little darlings sleep for hours on end and dont wake them during the night. I know this is probably rot but I still am feeling a bit of a failure. I guess I am also really torn about the whole weaning issue - on the one hand I want my sleep and my boobs back on the other I have really enjoyed it and dont want to give it up.

I guess I suppose I'm wondering whether I can use the cows milk to fill her up a bit - is that bad? Saying that makes me feel bad:(

Maybe I will try and offer the cows milk in the night. Dont know why I thought I'd ditch the bedtime feed first I think someone else on her said thats what they did:rolleyes:

Still confused - can you tell!

[Manxie]

[QUOTE]Sounds like you also need some you time. I know I beleived all the stories about babies sleeping through the night but IMO that's a rarity or has taken great perserverance at a time when you least have the motivation.



Hmmm you time whats that!! I too think them sleeping through is a rarity I just wish people were more honest it would make life easier for us all:(

Well we shall see how we go tonight - she's just had the biggest dinner and is now having some cows milk if she wakes up hungry I give up. The trouble is she is really really active and only a tiny little bubba.

p.s. I'm still confused:rolleyes:

[Funkychicken]

Hi again,
In my previous post i mentioned dropping that last feed at 14 1/2 months. This was only my DS#1. My DD self-weaned by 11 months (whole other story:crying: ) but still continued night waking for a long time. A weaned baby does not = a sleep through baby. They are all different-some sleep through early (don't know any of these!), some don't. But, as Aijent said, it seems like you need a bit of time to yourself. if you are upset and stressed by the situation, try to think about what YOU want-not what anyone else wants or says you should want. :)

[Manxie]

A weaned baby does not = a sleep through baby. They are all different-some sleep through early (don't know any of these!), some don't. B -

Thanks funckychicken - I guess this is what is driving me to wean her the thought that she will sleep better if she is weaned, selfish I know.

I suppose I just feel in a real panic, things seem to be worse than they were six months ago with regards to her sleeping. She seems to becoming more dependent on the boob at night and I just dont know how I am going to be able to wean her without it being really stressful for all of us. At the moment when she wakes during the night I am back to putting her on the boob as I know its a quick fix but then I worry that I am just making things worse for all of us. Last night she was down at 7pm, woke at 12ish, twoish, five, six and then up at seven. :( Not that long ago she was down at 7pm had me up once during the night anywhere between 1 and 5am and that was it, much more bearable.

I am now wondering this morning whether or not to reintroduce a roll-over feed.

I feel that I need to work out a plan and stick to it but am at a loss to know what to do and in any case feel to knackered to think to hard about it.