Do you get scared when by yourself at night?

[babytoo]

Ok this is a little silly but whenever my DH is away working, I feel petrified in my own home! I double check, triple check, everything is locked, get freaked out by the smallest sound and just generally hate the feeling at night.

I am fine during the day, I actually enjoy him being away sometimes not that its ever for very long.

Do you have any extra security measures when your partner is away? How do you feel?

I guess it doesnt help that a few years ago, we had a man standing at my bedroom window while I was in bed reading and my hubby was in the shower....I thought it was my BIL so I went to open the laundry door for him and soon realised it wasnt him when he did the bolt!

[Sarie]

I am exactly the same. I usually have DS1 in my bed and most of the lights on... I hate being on my own.:thumbsdown:

[Paris04]

I totally understand where you are coming from. I lived on my own for many years before I met DH and was never scared even when I had a guy on the roof, I could hear him and rang the police, they arrived really quickly and must have scared him because I heard him run the full length of the roof to get away.

Now when DH goes away for work I try and make my mum come over and stay as I get a bit jumpy.

The worst thou was when DS was a newborn & waking at night for BF and I had to get up in the early hours of the morning on my own - creepy feeling. When DH is away I leave a light on in the loungeroom all night. Mind you we have excellent security with a monitored alarm but I would absolutely die if it went off in the middle of the night.

[KarniF00l]

:yes: I'm the same to. My DH doesn't work nights but if he goes down to the shop or goes and see's one of his mates i'm scared as all hell being alone in the house with the kids at night. I always ask him how long he'll be ect.. I think i'm probably the worst for this because i always think that bad thing's might happen ie.. someone might break into the house... then i start thinking thing's like, would i run to the kids first or should i run to my mobile and dial 000 first :confused:

[babytoo]

I sleep with my mobile under my pillow, my 3 yo in bed with me, the torch next to the bed, a light on in the kitchen....we have sensor lights on the back deck which go off all the time as we have cats!

Yeah my DD still wakes for feeds at night and it really creeps me out....I run from the kitchen to her room as we don't have blinds on the set of bifolds doors which I have to pass.....

[Mum&bubs]

Yep when Summer was 2 months old & DP had to go away i was petrified at night by myself i would lay her on my stomach & sleep with the light on and just stare at my bedroom door like a stiff lol.

[Niki]

i do get scared to i lay jake on the bed with me but its not very often he works nites so its not to bad, i do keep the tv on all nite too

[cjb/jbvd]

i used to get creeped out, now i keep a razor sharp serrated bread knife in close reach and a light on that lets some light into DS's room. no more worries. as a single mum, you get used to being on your own, and learn to develop the 'protect me and mine' instinct pretty quick. i pity the bloke who tries to get into my house. he's in for a shock!!!

[Tulp]

Never minded when DH had to travel for work while we were in Singapore. Probably because we had security guards patroling the apartments all day and night. Nice bunch of guys too.

Since moving here, DH had to travel for work a few times. Not too happy with that but we have excellent neighbours, especially the one next door. A wonderful family of a mommy, daddy, 3 grown up boys and a girl. So if I ever need help they are just a phone call away. We keep a look out for each other.

The first few times DH had to travel I was extra paranoid. Woke up to every sound. Not too scared now. But I believe it will totally freak me out if I ever saw someone at the window or heard someone on the roof.

[Briannabear]

Yep, I definately get the creeps when DH isnt home at night. I totally freak out at any little noise I hear! What a sook! :p

[pixiesmums]

My Dh works shift work and when he works his night shift I just make sure that everything is locked and bolted and I keep all the blinds shut and I am fine then. Sometimes I have been abit freaked out by noises so when that happens I leave a light on.

[Harlequin]

I used to get scared when my hubby worked night shift, but I swear our old house had ghosts. I remember sitting in the computer room clutching the phone and staring down the hallway one night cause I kept hearing noises. Man that was an annoying night.

Here it's ok, the house doesn't creak or anything and we don't have ghosts so there's noone scaring me at all hours of the morning. Plus Griever has protected me since we got him :D

Hahah I sound like a weirdo.

[zoemacaroni]

My DP often goes away for work, and I am such a scaredy cat at night. I love having some time to myself but am aware of every noise going on around me, always have a light on and double check all the doors and windows!!!!!! :p

[MumofMadd]

I do all the time and DP is going away with the boys for 2 1/2 weeks i don't know how i will cope

[Peaceangels]

I sleep really lightly when DH is away, so I now take herbal sleeping tablets, they are called Sleep and Insomnia relief by Brauer (& they don't make you drowsy:thumbsup: )
Other than that I have all the doors (& security screens) locked, DH also made wood to fit into every window that you put in once its closed (instead of locks).
It was great when we had a dog, but now I don't feel as secure, so I have my mum stay over for some of the time.

[Tulp]

I do all the time and DP is going away with the boys for 2 1/2 weeks i don't know how i will cope

Have a girlfriend stay over. That's what I did a couple of times when DH was away.

[LittleBoysRock]

Yep, I definately get the creeps when DH isnt home at night. I totally freak out at any little noise I hear! What a sook! :p

I am exactly the same!! :p

[perrywinkle]

DH is away every three weeks with his business (car stuff Grrrrrr!!) so I'm used to it now. I just make sure everything is locked and blinds are closed. I also have the monitor on a bit louded than usual.

[porridge]

yep - I check everything and everywhere when DH goes away (yes, even under the bed!)

We've just moved into a new house, so it's going to be a bit weird when he goes next - I'm a bit nervous.

[JessandKirra]

yeah..weird never used to before bubs now I am a globbling bown of jelly....what happened...

[Vespera]

Our house alarm has a personal alarm beepery thingo that I carry around with me when DH isnt home (really scaredy cat here). If I push it the house alarm goes off and informs the security company who sends someone straight out. Havent had to use it yet but makes me feel MUCH better having it.

Monitored alarms arent that much per week now that there is lots of compeition. Maybe its something you could look at to make yourself feel safer.

[Spewiesmum]

My DH works permanent night shift and has done since before we were together (seven years). When we first moved in together I initially was scared at night as I'd always lived with my parents.

I make sure all the windows and doors are locked. I also shut all the bedroom doors. I sleep fairly lightly so I figure I'd hear anything unusual. Of course I've nights waking in a cold sweat having heard or imagined something, but I always grab the phone and then open and shut all the bedroom doors, flicking the lights on and off. If anything, the one or two nights a week that DH is home is when I sleep poorly as I'm not used to sharing the bed, or he brushes against me or makes a noise and it startles me!

We live in a quiet street and don't really know anyone but as all our neighbours have lived in the street for who knows how long, they are aware of when I'm home alone. I have every confidence I'd have help if I needed it.

At this stage we don't have a dog and I don't really see us getting one for quite some time. I feel okay being by myself (or now with DS). What I do worry about sometimes now is if we have a fire. I worry about getting to DS safely but have a plan in my head that I think would work.

I think if you have a positive frame of mind and don't think too much about it (bar securing your property), things are generally okay.

Now if only the (imaginary) people who gather at the end of my bed or in the walk-in would just go away, I wouldn't need to freak out at all:D

[draught]

I am obviously the odd one out. My DH is away 50% of the year and when he is away I just lock up the house as normal, turn out the lights as normal and go to bed. The only thing I do differently is make sure that my mobile is next to the bed as well as the phone - but that is more about answering it if he calls than anything else. Our house is very secure, we have a sensor light at the back, and our neighbours are close, so I don't even think about it! I can't afford to get spooked - I have no other options!

[bearsmummy]

the first week my husband started working away i had someone try to break into my bedroom window. luckily i had just gone to bed and was in a light sleep and i yelled to scare him off!:eek:

ever since that night i double check all the windows and doors before bed, plus i dont go to bed till late now, i try stay up as long as possible (with the help of bub hub ;) ). i sleep with both the home phone and my mobile by my bed and a big knife as well. i always wonder if that moron that tried to break in will be back.
the neighbours keep an eye out for me now which is good and my dog.:thumbsup:

take care girls:hugs:

[Thea`s mum]

Yes, I'm the same way..that is one of the reasons we are getting a dog.. Beause I also listen to very litle sound..stupid:o

[porridge]

next week will be the first time by myself in our new house! I'm a little concerned... wish I had a dog!

[whatwasithinking]

I hate being on my own day or night - But when it is night time I have to stay up so late that my eyes are hanging out of my head so that I can easily just zonk out before I know it is light again.

[meb]

I feel really safe in my home. There have only been a couple of times that I've felt uneasy. Having said that we are moving to Melbourne shortly and I've been wondering how I'm going to feel in the house but I probably won't be alone all that often. :) Megan

[blessedmummy]

might sound silly, but i get a bit scared whenever my husband works away at night, he works at a rehab centre and sometimes has to stay over so im on my own that times, sometimes i stay at my mum and dads and thats great cause its company and some help with the girls too, somtimes she even gets some dvds out for us to watch which is always nice! im slowly getting used to it, at least its not that often he does work away, i always miss him lots too, and also the girls miss him lots too!

[Areca]

Nope I don't get scared. I've even forgotten to lock up when DBF wasn't home! Oops! We don't live in a great suburb (have lived here 2 years and been robbed twice) but I just refuse to be scared. We have a Staffy and she is an inside dog so if I hear a weird noise I'll look at her, she only pricks her ears up if someone is outside and she has a great mean bark on her (which she only ever uses when it's dark out and DBF isn't home).

We're moving in a couple of weeks and are moving to a unit complex, that you need to buzz to get into. I'm never going to be scared!!! 48 other units, someone's going to hear me scream!

[RachWA]

I don't get scared but am more cautious. I close all the blinds so that no one can see in, especially for night bf. I also don't watch any of the late real life crime investigations or super natural shows (then I do get a little scared if I do watch them).

[mama2cierra]

we actually got burgled one night when I thought all the windows and doors were locked. and the intruder snuck in thru Cierras bedroom she was only about 6 months old...it freaked me RIGHT out. if they were any sicko kidnappers or that sort I dont know I would have died ..:( THANKFULLY (in a way) all that was taken was the video camera, my digital camera and my car to get away with. dont worry i got it back

[Lisa123]

My DH flies to Sydney every week for a few days at a time, I'm so scared on my own. We have just moved into a brand new estate and we are the first in our street to occupy their house, then to top it off we have no one behind us and a massive park in front of us so the wind just howls straight past our house and it frightens the c$%p out of me!!!

I can't wait til I get neighbours (lets just hope they are nice) :)

[Magnus]

:laughing: i am soooo glad i am not the only one who gets freaked out when df is away!!! :eek: honestly bubhub has become my 24/7 counselling session for almost everything in my life!!! i am a nutter about security - i double check/triple check every door and window in this house, i too sleep with a light on and a torch next to my bed PLUS i have a selection of alarms and weapons next to my bed oh and i have 2 rottweilers!!! actually maybe i sound a little over the top compared to you guys? :laughing: better to be safe than sorry i guess though hey. :yes:

[MrsMiggins]

I actually quite like it when DH is away!! Well, I used to enjoy it a lot more before DD came along. Now I just can't wait for him to get back so I can have some help!

But I really enjoy having the place to myself. I can eat what & when I want & (here's the best thing!!) I get the whole bed to myself!! DH is the world's biggest bed hog & when he is home, I am lucky to get 1/3 of the bed to sleep in! (In fact 1/3 would be a bit of a luxury!) And he snores as well!

Plus, I can watch whatever I want on TV without the constant channel flicking, sport & sky racing channel!

I was always scared at night when I was at home alone when I was younger or after my parents had gone to bed, but after having lived alone for quite a few years before I got married, I got used to it.

[Magnus]

:thumbsup: Mrs Miggins - i gotta say as ridiculously scared as i sound i do quite enjoy it at times (as much as i miss df) eating what i want, doing what i want and looking a lot like i've been dragged thru the bushes backwards most of the time is pretty fun! :yes: