Need Some Advice...

[*Meggie*]

I just wanted to hear if others had been in the same boat as I am and whats the best way around things.

I'm 36 weeks pregnant and broke up with the father of the baby when I was 9 weeks pregnant. I live in Brisbane and he moved back home to Newcastle after we broke up so I haven't seen him since then and only spoken a few times. He doesn't know yet whether he wants anything to do with the baby.

What I want to know is, is there anything I can do so that if anything were to happen to me the baby would go into my mum's care rather than going and living with the father who the baby won't even know?

[tyler's mum]

the only thing i can think of is to write a will thats what im goin to do,, tyler doesnt know her dad and i dont wont him to have her if something happens to me

[Gribel]

Hi Meggie

the bad news is that even when you put your preference in the will, the baby would still go in the forst instance to the natural father, unless there is proof that he is unstable. If he doesn't want the kid, then it goes to the next of yoiur kin (mother, dad....)

But yous hould be able to get some help or advice from Legal Aid.....

[MeeG]

hay meggie

i what your going thru to (hugs):hugs:, im not really sure about what happens, but im from brisbane to and i know of a free womens legal service its at annerly if your interested or jus wanna talk sometime PM me... and Goodluck

[SimplyMum]

What's if the father's name is NOT on the birth certificate? Surely they can't do anything then?

[Veritas]

Hey Meggie,

I know exactly how you feel, I'm 37.5 wks and was in the same boat until recently when my ex decided he wants nothing to do with his child ever....

I too plan on putting my intentions in a will, however I know that legally he would have access to custody unless an order was in place, however given his decision I strongly doubt that he would challenge my wishes!

I do believe that your mother would have a legal case to argue if she has had consistent input in the childs life, and the father has not... however it would most probably have to be pursued in court....

It's horrible having to think about the possibility of not being around for your little one.... but I guess it's a necessary evil of reality.... the issue you raised is one I have worried about myself..... along with a multitude of others!!!