HELP! I hate his dummy!

[muminshock]

No offense to those that like them but I HATE DUMMIES!!!!

I never wanted to use them, my first 2 didn't have one, but DS had a very poor suck and we struggled to get him to breast feed. I was told he needed "suck training" and I should encourage a dummy to establish his sucking. So I did. I had to hold the bloody thing in his mouth because he couldn't even suck that properly. Then by 6 weeks of age I end up with a baby that WON'T breastfeed and has a dummy - YUCK!

He's now nearly 5 months old and I must get up to him about 20 times a night because the dummy has fallen out, or lately, he has ripped it out and ditched it across the room.

I don't like it, but I figured I just had to sit tight until he was clever enough to put it back in himself.

THEN, this morning when I put him down for his morning nap, he starts squawking, but I wont go in straight away just to give him his dummy back. He grizzled for a few minutes, I go in, can't find the dummy, figured it was under the bed, so I went to get another one. Tried to put the dummy in only to discover that the original dummy is in his mouth back to front - yep the big round plastic bit is wedged in his mouth!

Surely that's not good and I should get rid of this stinking thing.

If I take this dummy off him now I know I'm going to have a couple of days of hell until he gets used to it, but am I being completely mean? Is he too young to take this away from him?

Any advice on how I should go about this will be GREATLY appreciated

[OneCheekyMonkey]

I have no idea, my DS uses a dummy to settle to sleep and in the car. I don't like them either, but it works for us and when he is asleep it falls out and that doesn't wake him.

I do know that by 6 months he was able to put it back in his mouth the correct way, which made my car trips easier.

I am sure some wonderful experienced mums will come and offer some advice later :)

[Seacretsquirrel]

I too have a bit of a love hate thing with the dummy (I used one with both mine but got rid of them at about 5 months with DD and 6 months with DS - we are into our 3rd week with out it)
I am glad I got rid of it when I did as it has been heaps easier for me than for GF's who waited till their kids were older (and more attached to the dummy)
With DD it was a few days of crying when settling then it was all over - I started with not using it after the middle of the night BF then stopped during the day and finally got rid of it for going to bed at night.
With DS I just went cold turkey but I am finding that he is kinda hard to settle for his sleeps (except if we are out and he is in the pram for some reason) I find I need to let him cry for a few minutes and then i go back in and give him a cuddle (patting isn't working :hair:) he is a monkey though cause as soon as someone pick him up he stops crying imediately gives you a pat on the face a big grin and snuggles down and goes to sleep.
Good luck with getting rid of it:goodvibes:

[muminshock]

Thanks SS! Well at least I know it can be done! He actually fell asleep in the car today without dummy, so I know he can do it. I know I'm in for a few days of hell, but I think your right to get rid of it sooner rather than later...

Here goes nothing :fingerscrossed:

[JBRxxx]

I have never used dummies, so don't really know. All I can say is what I might do.

Take it away. It may upset him to begin with. He will get over it soon enough till it is a distant memory. Good luck.

Too add, I think the hardest will be for you listening to him being upset, when you know a dummy will put him at ease. So stick with it.