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We CAN NOT get her to sleep in her cot anymore, and it's driving DF and I bonkers!
She has just hit 16 months, and up until this point she always napped and slept in her cot without much fuss. I've generally always fed/cuddled her to sleep and placed her in her cot, no dramas. All of a sudden she screams and clings like a koala when I attempt to put her in her cot - during the day and night - but she is fine if a I put her down on the couch, our bed or the spare bed :confused:
This has coincided with many tantrums during the day and a sudden fear of bath time. We have ways of dealing with the other stuff but this bed thing has got me stumped. Any tips?
TIA
sockstealingpoltergeist
22-09-2009, 22:56
:detective: No idea. Sorry.
I'm no help.
NonnyMouse
22-09-2009, 23:01
Have you tried asking her what the prob is?
What about sleeping her on a mattress on her floor to see if that helps?
Sorry, I'm not much help either.
sandy cheeks
22-09-2009, 23:06
No ideas the same thing happened to ds only he was kinda used to co sleeping and his still in my bed 4 years later, he got a bit better in his own big boy bed as in he would start off in there and end up in with me at 3am this is still the way it works now.
I have tried everything now I given up on the bright side he will not be in my bed in 8 years :laughing:
Im sure a 13yo will not want to sleep in bed with mummy
Have you tried asking her what the prob is?
What about sleeping her on a mattress on her floor to see if that helps?
Sorry, I'm not much help either.
She's only 16 months old so can't tell me what is wrong. I think that putting a mattress on the floor is our next option, if not moving the couch in her room :laughing: TY
She is awake now wandering about because she screamed the house down when I tried to get her to lay back down on the couch... is this just the joy of having a toddler?
overitand36
23-09-2009, 00:47
maybe time for a big girl bed
i took the mattress and base out of my daughters cot and but it onto come small colored paperbins this worked really well as the bed was still small and close to the ground if she fell out
get her involved with choosing new sheets and pillows etc maybe it might work can't be any worse than now
I would agree with trying her in her very own 'big girl bed'
also reading stories at bedtime and sitting with her while trying
to calm her down or patting her back until she drops off.
Trying some relaxation CD's or a night light - make her room a place
she likes to be at for bed time.
All this from a mum of an almost 3 yr old who wakes and comes into
our bed during the night.
Good Luck with it. Let us know how your progressing.
*Need~More~Coffee~Please*
23-09-2009, 02:08
No ideas the same thing happened to ds only he was kinda used to co sleeping and his still in my bed 4 years later, he got a bit better in his own big boy bed as in he would start off in there and end up in with me at 3am this is still the way it works now.
I have tried everything now I given up on the bright side he will not be in my bed in 8 years :laughing:
Im sure a 13yo will not want to sleep in bed with mummy
hahahaha...
:laughing::laughing::laughing:
UsThreeGirls
23-09-2009, 06:50
Could you try a toddler bed?
UsThreeGirls
23-09-2009, 06:51
As for the tantrums could you let me know if you find a way to stop them, lol. Tamara is doing the same.
Maybe she's just reached that stage of awareness where she's gone "get me out of my little jail!":p:D.
If she's willing to sleep on a mattress, I would just do that. You could use a single mattress and lie down with her on it until she goes to sleep.
And I hear you on the 11pm at night thing.
workin'mumof2
23-09-2009, 07:51
naps in the day... what time are they? could she be wanting a later nap?
both of mine go down at 12.30-1pm and both are in bed at night at 7pm
could you try a big girl bed if the routine doesnt work?
:hugs:
Thanks everyone. She slept in our bed last night :rolleyes:
naps in the day... what time are they? could she be wanting a later nap?
both of mine go down at 12.30-1pm and both are in bed at night at 7pm
She is generally down to one nap a day from 11:30am-1ish, but of late she has been taking short naps (on the couch :rolleyes:) at 9.30am and 3pm because she is tired from the lack of sleep at night and the many tantrums during the day and night must be exhausting her :(
Luckily her cot turns into a toddler bed, unfortunately it doesn't have a guard rail though :confused: so that is why I was reluctant to change it over. Now I think it's our only option and I will just put another mattress down in front of her bed in case she falls. We'll give the reading/music/night-light combo a go too... something has to work!!!
Thanks again everyone.
NonnyMouse
23-09-2009, 11:36
She's only 16 months old so can't tell me what is wrong.
I was thinking of my niece who at that age was able to communicate with single words and gestures, and definitely understood everything said to her. Even if it was a case of asking some questions she could answer yes or no to,. to give you an idea. Like "do you like your cot?", "is there a noise you don't like?" etc.
All my children were moved into a single bed by 16-18 months, and that worked well for us. Depends on the kid, though - mine all climbed out of the cot at that age, and it's not safe any more. Maybe she doesn't like the confinement of the cot any more.
Tam-I-Am
23-09-2009, 15:45
Nonny, sounds like your niece was fairly advanced for her age. Connor is still pretty non-verbal at 15 months, and understands and responds to simple instructions, but couldn't answer yes/no questions like you're suggesting - I wonder if it's the same for Badabing :)
Sounds like the peak of separation anxiety to me, BDB - is there a reason why you can't co-sleep until she's through the worst of it? :)
We have transformed her cot to toddler bed today, and had a bit of a sing and dance about it:yelclap:. She napped in there but only with me laying down next to her to get her to sleep.
Nonny, sounds like your niece was fairly advanced for her age. Connor is still pretty non-verbal at 15 months, and understands and responds to simple instructions, but couldn't answer yes/no questions like you're suggesting - I wonder if it's the same for Badabing :)
Pretty much, though she does like to answer "no" to questions like "do you love me" :laughing: Like you said Tam, she understands and responds to many instructions, but is not yet able to verbalise her feelings, hence the tantrums.
Sounds like the peak of separation anxiety to me, BDB - is there a reason why you can't co-sleep until she's through the worst of it? :)
I love co-cleeping but DF hates it. She is quite a kicker and insists on sleeping with her feet at his head :o. I will try getting her to sleep by laying with her by her bed, if that fails co-sleeping is our only option I guess. Why do you suppose she has suddenly hit this peak of separation anxiety? Is it just her becoming more aware?
Tam-I-Am
23-09-2009, 16:01
Yeah, probably. It peaks for most kids around 12 months, but can certainly happen later than that for other kids. It can coincide with illness or teething, it's just one of those normal developmental phases.
I know it's tough - we go through this with Connor too - but just think, it'll be over quicker than you know, and you'll miss the middle-of-the-night snuggles then! :hugs:
Thanks Tam. I do miss the cuddles when she isn't there, in fact I sometimes wake her from sleeping soundly to bring her into bed with us :o oh well perhaps I made my own bed, so to speak!
with the co-sleeping, we have a bed rail so I can place the baby between me and the rail, or between us.
That would solve the kicking problem (although she'd probably just kick you instead...).
MsMummy, where did you get your bed rail? Does it fit any old bed?
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