So annoying.. general rant..

[Benji]

I get so incredibly annoyed with my situation.

I am entitled to $12 per week child support from XDP and yet he seems to manage to fall not only over $900 behind in payments, but he manages to buy himself new cars, pets, etc.

He had the biggest whinge in the world the other day when he had to spend $16 on medication for DS because the day he fell sick was the day he was "caring" for him. I use the word caring VERY lightly.

Now that I am moving in with my great new man (don't get me wrong I'm very excited and looking forward to it) my daycare fees are to hit around the $200 per week mark.

So pretty much most of my pay will be devoted to my share of the rent, day care and petrol to and from work.

My new partner shouldn't have to support and pay for DS's expenses. I know he's more than happy to - he's a wonderful man - but to me, he is me and his bio father's financial responsibility.

It just really, really bugs me how little I and so many other custodial parents are entitled to.

When I was on benefits and earning around the same as XDP is now, I didn't get out of DS's expenses :confused: I know I certainly paid a heck of a lot more than $12 per week!!

What is wrong with this picture?!?!?!?!

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[sockstealingpoltergeist]

The system is so wrong. Children should come first allways. It wouldn't matter if I had to starve my children would allways have what they need first.

[Issey]

:yes: it is totally wrong. I believe the other parent should pay a minimum payment that is reasonable. That is discusting that your ex can't even pay $12 and what would that buy.....:confused:

there is also no incentive to merge into a new family situation as you lose all your benefits and the new man is expected to take it on board so of course you are worse off in some ways. BUT better off with love :hugs:

[Just Add Water]

It does suck - even more so because he's being an **** about paying for medication... DH's ex pays us $12 a week for 3 kids (yep $4 each) and then tells them that we should be buying them new bikes with the money she gives us). Oh and the only reason we get that now is because it's garnished from her pension through centrelink.

[Myztiks#1Fan]

angie, P is a drop kick. i am just glad that little B has the support and stability of a great man in his life aka big B. :hugs:

[overitand36]

i just cancelled my CSA as we have shared care and it was something centrelink makes everyone do

but this year we will only get base rate payments so I valued my privacy more I got sick of him knowing how much I earn't each year

[Benji]

there is also no incentive to merge into a new family situation as you lose all your benefits and the new man is expected to take it on board so of course you are worse off in some ways. BUT better off with love :hugs:

Yup! You're exactly right. I do work full time, because I wasn't surviving on the SSP without child support so all of my working money will be pretty much paid on daycare, rent etc... I pretty much work to pay bills and that's it!!

I do agree, emotionally I will be so much better off. Love is priceless, it really is. Thanks for the hugs :)



SSP - I'm the same, when I was close to destitute I did all I could to ensure that DS had access to healthy food, medication, healthcare, etc. I didn't just decide to fob him off because it's all too hard. Well I can't even really say that, it's not hard to pay $12 per week... hell, it'd be a lot cheaper for me if I was a non-custodial parent paying $200 per week child support than my situation now!!!

It's not hard, he just doesn't want to. And yet legally I have to hand him over to this idiot..



Well he called me today to let me know how bad his financial situation is... then tells me he got offered a f/t job but couldn't take it because it would interfere with his community service :laughing: he honestly expects me to feel sorry for him when:

A: the reason he works part time is to get out of child support payments and

B: it's all his stupid fault!!!

All of his financial burdens are his fault! He should have been paying his child support etc rather than buying himself cars!!!

[overitand36]

all i say say angike is don't make this your problem

when he starts with his crap remind him that you have moved on and don't have to listen anymore

[pegasaurus]

Um, is his income your problem?
Can you make your own money? My ex is a great father, and we focus on that. I have accepted that I will probably always carry the major $ load as the X is who he is. Is that possible with you? ...I actually like to think I am setting an example for my kids about how you can be independent, but again, who knows?!

[sandy cheeks]

What a moron Ange :hugs::hugs:
His community service is so not his fault :rolleyes: and why carnt he get a new :ecomcity::ecomcity:
I do at least get $20-50 max a week sometimes nothing depends if his feeling like a grown up or a boy.
Pegasaurus I am a bit the same his a good enough dad but has a few issues(wackjob lol) I am lucky my parents help out(babysitting and whatnot) and we bulk buy food together so it isnt that $$$.
A friend also told me it's hard to repartner when your ex is a dumb@$$ because cL expect the new partner to take some financial responsibilty all the while letting fob sit back and take no financial responsibilty. Now thats fair:rolleyes:

[meljemillie]

oh how i feel your pain...my ex pays me $6 a week for our dd and still whinges...yet can buy a new car and afford to be having a baby with his new partner....its so frustrating!!

im in the same situation as i have been in a relationship for 18 months with my dp and due to have bub soon....and my dp helps pays for all thing related to my dd...as unfortunately 6 a week doesnt pay for a whole lot!!

but i feel the same i know dp is more than happy too help pay for things...but he shouldnt HAVE to....thats her fathers financial responsibilty....ggrrr

PM me if you need to vent...:laughing::laughing:

spose the way i look at it im grateful to have a great man who loves my dd as his own...any man can be a father...it takes a real man to be a DAD!!