What should I do?

[anjsa]

Ok I am FURIOUS about this but I just wanted to ask your opinions as well (though I'm pretty sure I know what they'll be)

On Friday I was at work and DP had the day off so was watching DS. I took my car to work, which had the car seat in it, as I'm not allowed to drive the car DP currently has on loan while his is fixed. So I get home and see that there are meat pies in the freezer, which weren't there when I left for work. I asked DP how he got them and he said he drove to the shop and bought them. I said 'What about DS?' HE HAD PUT HIMJ DOWN TO SLEEP AND THEN GONE OUT TO THE SHOP!!!

:thumbsdown: This is just SO wrong on so many levels for me and I feel like it isn't safe for me to leave DS with his dad!! I'm struggling now as to whether or not I should leave, which would mean leaving town to go home to my parents and quitting my job here, but if I stay, because we can't afford for me to not work and I only work weekends and evenings when DPs home to watch DS, that means I have to leave my son at home with his father.

Please someone tell me what to do!!! What if DOCS heard about this incident and we had DS taken from us?? What then? So confused........

[lukaelmo]

Have you ever told DP before not to do this? I know it is just common sense, but some people need a bit of guidance.

[the_queen]

First - you have every right to be angry.

Second - DOCS would not take DS off you for this. To be quite frank, they've got more pressing cases to deal with.

Third - there must be more to this story; are you saying you're thinking of leaving your partner, because of this one incident??


If you're leaving him home with DP, take all the car keys with you.

[anjsa]

I've been told that he has left DS inside by himself while I've been at work, and gone outside to work on his car with the radio blaring. Because of this most recent event, it just makes me think that there have been more times that I don't know about.

I have told him he shouldn't leave DS by himself like this but still he does. I guess my question is, do you think I'm silly for feeling that I can't leave DS with his dad?

[anjsa]

Second - DOCS would not take DS off you for this. To be quite frank, they've got more pressing cases to deal with.


Thankyou for clearing this up for me, I have no idea of how DOCS work

[lukaelmo]

I have told him he shouldn't leave DS by himself like this but still he does. I guess my question is, do you think I'm silly for feeling that I can't leave DS with his dad?

Absolutely not. If you have spelt it out that this is wrong, then he really is acting irresponsibly. Do you have someone/somewhere else DS can go to while you are working?

[anjsa]

no unfortunately, because I work weekends and evenings. The whole point of me getting this job was so that we didn't have to pay for childcare, eventhough I have enquired about 'back up' care with Family Day Care for the weekends, just in case DP has to work as well and have been told no one can have him on the weekends. My parents live a few hours away so he can't go to their house and DPs parents live too far away also :(

[viperpt]

I know its common sense not to leave a child alone. and you have every right to be angry at him. However I think that u should talk to him about how it makes you feel and get his input on this situation. I dont think its worth leaving him over it. If you feel this badly why not try to put him in childcare for the times that u will be working.