Need a hand convincing hubby

[CazHazKidz]

Hey ladies (and gents)

My DH is circumcised, and thinks our son will also be circumcised.

It won't be happening :no: Absolutely no way no how.

I've noticed that a lot of you ladies (and gents) have done a lot of research on the subject, and was hoping maybe you could give me some links I may be able to show him to convince him?

I need something in very plain to read easy english. He's a smart guy, but not a reader and loses interest easy. All the links I can find are far too scientific and wordy for him to bother reading.

If anyone knows of an easy to read article that may help convince him that I'm making the right decesion for our boy, I would be very grateful. Though if not, it doesn't matter anyway, it won't be happening ;)

[Fellow Traveler]

How about this link:

http://racp.edu.au/download.cfm?DownloadFile=59AE2C7C-9F08-B344-21061157DF3636B9

[CazHazKidz]

good one! Thanks :thumbsup:

[aardvark]

The Tasmanian Law Reform Insitute are actively investigating exactly how legal RIC is.

While this relates specifically to Tasmania, their findings will quite possibly colour thinking in other states.

The possibility exists that both medical practitioners and parents may have legal consequences from circumcision of a baby.

http://www.law.utas.edu.au/reform/malecircumcision.htm

[serendipity22]

Your DH may be suffering from the adamant father syndrome. Its very common. Keep in mind he had 75% of all feeling from his penis removed and most likely don't without any painkiller.

on this page
http://www.circumstitions.com/Glossary2.html

Watching an online video of a circ sometimes might help him see it for what it really is.

[Father]

Your DH may be suffering from the adamant father syndrome

Yep. Men will be adamant when they believe in something they know about.

Have you tried listening to his reasoning?

[sam's mum]

has he done any research? Is he able to say exactly why he wants it done?

If he has specific reasons then you need to be able to show your own research on those same points.

If his only reason is "because I am done, I want him to look like me" it just isn't good enough. DH tried that one first and I asked him when we were getting the tattoos and piercings done. oh no, he didn't want those, just the one, specific thing.

DS is not done.

[sam's mum]

Yep. Men will be adamant when they believe in something they know about.

Have you tried listening to his reasoning?

I have a vagina, that doesn't mean that I know about them. I have limited knowledge related to ownership issues only. Having something does not mean that you know about it.

[DanceInTheRain]

I am ultimately in the same boat as you. I don't think circumcision is as horrendous as some anti-circers make out, however I have to say I just don't see a need for it in this day and age. There's no reason TO do it, rather thsn trying to find all the reasons why not to do it. DP is circumcised and if we have a boy he would like him to be circumcised. I would rather not, however it means a lot to him. We have compromised by saying we will go and talk to a doctor about the procedure and the pros and cons and make our decision together with the advice of a professional, or more than one professional if need be. So that's how we have decided to work things out. Good luck :-)

[DanceInTheRain]

P.S. The OP was looking for sme informative articles on circumcision so she could make her partner more aware of the procedure, I hardly think she was looking for a debate.

[sockstealingpoltergeist]

OP I just wanted to add, could you tell him that having a circ done carries arisk of death, infection and loss of penis.

My DH is circ'd and our DS isn't. My DH agreed that any risk to his life or penis just wasn't worth it.

My nephew was also cric'd and his penis was damaged,and he absolutely wishes he wasn't done.

[serendipity22]

My nephew was also cric'd and his penis was damaged

I think you meant his glans was damaged.

The penis is always damaged in a circumcision, the foreskin is an integral part of the penis.

[xkwzit]

I have deleted a bunch of off topic posts. This thread was specifically asking about research / information to assist in swaying the view of a pro-RIC parent. It isn't fair to derail the thread with general debate, we ca start new threads for that.

Cheers